Is it wrong to change an otherwise awesome doctor solely bec

I would actually open up the discussion first and if the doctor isn't willing to give you information or willing to talk to you about it then you might want to consider changing but up until you actually attempt to talk to him/her about it then I wouldn't make a rash decision to change. If you haven't approached the subject then it isn't fair to the doctor. They just may have not brought it up because of other issues or that they haven't felt it being a major problem as of yet. I would give them the benefit of the doubt and actually attempt talking to them about the issue and see if they are willing to help you with your concerns before you make the decision to change.

You are PAYING her for her services. If you are not satisfied, you should probably speak up. More than likely, she will appreciate your honesty. And if she becomes offended...well, there's your answer.

Hmmmmmm... If she is an awesome doctor otherwise, I would keep her. Just remind yourself that you are there to discuss "your health." If she seems indifferent to your health concerns as a result of excess weight, then I might consider switching doctors. Otherwise, who knows, your success may even inspire her.

If she is otherwise awesome then yes I think you would be wrong. She may not have bought your weight up for a variety of reasons including the one that you suggested. If she is a good Dr she will still support you in trying to lose weight and get fitter...if she doesnt then maybe shes not as awesome as first thought and then you could switch Drs but at least give her the chance first.

I think the most important thing is to find a doctor that you are comfortable with. You need to be able to talk to your doctor. For some people, that means they look for a doctor of a certain gender, or a certain age, or who has a certain personality-- and for you, the weight issue might be a determining factor. It really shouldn't matter if it is "right" or wrong to feel that way. Your health could be at stake if you aren't able to speak freely to her about things that may come up.

You might be right on about this. My sister had a pediatrician for her kids who was over weight and made it known she was an over weight child. My sisters kids were all heavy kids. She would ask the pediatricial about this and she would blow her off telling her it was normal and they were fine. Yes, they might have been "healthy" for the most part but they're eating habits and their weight was NOT fine. However that gave my sister the blessing she needed to continue living unhealthy with her kids. I think the doctor did her an injustice by not encouraging a healthier lifestyle and I encouraged her to switch which she never did.

So yes...if it makes you uncomfortable then change. I went to a diet center once who had all heavy nurses and the nutritionist was obese. I took their information kindly and never went back. I can not take advice from someone like that and you are probably in the same boat. She might be a perfectly good doctor but you have already seen signs to make you question your ability to get to where you want to with this particular doctor so trust yourself.

Good luck.

How long have you been seeing your Dr.? And have you been able to discuss other issues with No problems? If so, I would take the step to talk to her about your health and goals. Some Dr's have boundaries within their own stats of what can be talked about, for fear of someone suing them. And who knows, maybe you can both work together to accomplish your same goals?! I would try it, what do you have to loose at this point....besides your weight? "Hugs"

Its not that simple. As a doctor shouldnt she have warned me about the dangers of my weight? Advised me to lose weight to prevent diabetes? If her own personal struggle affects how she advises me....shouldnt I change doctors?

You can guess what is in her head but as neither of you talked about it then you don't know. It seems you are uncomfortable with her being overweight and now your here looking for someone to support you wanting to change doctors.

I would discuss it with her before changing ... see what kind of things that she says.
I would agree to some extent that those people who are heavier and are not making attempts at weight loss likely do not know the tricks. However, how do you know she isnt working hard at it too in a different way?

I have seen alot of posts on here about people who get all bent out of shape when their doctor makes comments about their weight... and then I have seen posts from people who are mad that their doctor did not comments.

As a health care provider myself (NP) I actually just had a patient fire me because I dared mention that her over 300 lbs could have possibly contributed to her chronic pain, arthritis, and fibro. I did not say anything inappropriate, just questioned whether she thought that might be contributing? Hmmm

Exactly!!!! It could be a lose/lose if you fire this practitioner. As a nurse I am VERY proactive regarding my health and I had to switch docs 2 yrs ago b/c lack of attention.....my perception of course. When I went to the doc I see now - my first comment was that I wanted a practitioner who would listen to me and work with me! He agreed to do so....recently I began to feel like he wasn't listening and gently asked if all was well between us - he appologized for any perceptions I was picking up on and we kinda started fresh with some agreements regarding my medications. It was a give and take win/win for both of us!
On a side note I took a weeks worth of my MFP food logs to show him what I've been doing....he was very excited and promised to look at the site for himself....I know my excitement was quite obvious!
Good luck to you in whatever you decide....a good and trusting relationship with your practitioner is so important!

My understanding is that regular physicians get very little training in the area of nutrition. Perhaps you should keep your doctor and seek out a registered dietitian or nutritionist to create a nutrition program for you. Or, start reading up on your own.

IMO there is a lot of "do what I say, not what I do" in the medical world.

Shop around. You are the customer here.

If you can't find one better, then sick with what you have.

Yes , she should be on the look out for your well being and health. If she has never addressed you being pre-diabetic, that soley should make you want to change. Also you should be comfortable to discuss what ever health issues you have. So I think you know this but you should change.

tough topic.... my own thin good looking man doctor never brought up my weight. Yeah, he's my doctor, not my parent. As an adult, if you have concerns it is your responsibility to bring it up, not the doctor's. If you feel uncomfotable bringing up anything with you doc, maybe she's not the right one for you