OMGGG UGHHHH!!!!!

rachyrach1234
rachyrach1234 Posts: 160
edited September 25 in Chit-Chat
I HATE Being In A Relationship!!!!
Hes So Suspicious Of Me....Because I Got Away With It Once Before...You Know What
And Now He Thinks Im Doing Things...IM NOT He Starts Fights Almost EVERYDAY
I Cant Take It
He Doesnt Want Me To Have Friends..
He Says He Doesnt Care If I Have Friends
But Whenever I Have Plans With Friends He Starts A Fight
I Dont Know What To Do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  • PinkAndSparkle
    PinkAndSparkle Posts: 324
    Dump him. There's no reason to be unhappy. You deserve someone awesome.
  • 100poundstolose
    100poundstolose Posts: 43
    he's not worth it!
  • wanttogetskinny
    wanttogetskinny Posts: 194
    If you hate being in a relationship........why are you in one?

    I don't blame him for being suspicious. You break his trust....it can be hard to earn back. And I'm sure he is getting the vibe that you hate being in a relationship. That has to be causing some strain and tension.......
  • rachyrach1234
    rachyrach1234 Posts: 160
    We Have Been Together For 4 Years I Love Him
    I Just Cant Take This Fighting!
  • rachyrach1234
    rachyrach1234 Posts: 160
    No No No I Didnt Cheat...HE DID
    Thats Why Hes So Suspicious Of Me..Cuz He Once Did It
  • Mads1997
    Mads1997 Posts: 1,494 Member
    It sounds like it isn't going to change so dump him or deal with it.
  • drog2323
    drog2323 Posts: 1,343 Member
    wow.......
  • alienblonde1
    alienblonde1 Posts: 749 Member
    Get out now or learn to deal with this.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Okay,take a deep breath and read what you have written here...please?


    You are not in a relationship you are in an emotional trap and you are not the one setting the terms.
    Get out and get out now,there is nothing good or long term that can come from what you describe.

    You fear being alone and I know it does suck but is still better then a lifetime of absolute misery.
    You know what you have to do and is why you started this thread,I am just confirming what is.
  • cklbrown
    cklbrown Posts: 4,696 Member
    Do you know why he feels this way? Maybe he's afraid of losing you and is reacting to that. If you want him try to talk to him when he's not angry and make him understand what you need and try to understand what he wants from you. If you don't want him any longer than walk away!
  • jmacaroni
    jmacaroni Posts: 243 Member
    Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Everything you just said on here, you need to speak to him about it. You need to tell him how you feel. Either he'll try to make things better, or maybe it's time to move on. You only have one life to live, no reason spending time being unhappy. Speak to him about it and see if there is a way you guys can work things out.
  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
    Okay,take a deep breath and read what you have written here...please?


    You are not in a relationship you are in an emotional trap and you are not the one setting the terms.
    Get out and get out now,there is nothing good or long term that can come from what you describe.

    You fear being alone and I know it does suck but is still better then a lifetime of absolute misery.
    You know what you have to do and is why you started this thread,I am just confirming what is.

    Very well stated.
    You already know what you NEED to do.....
    Good Luck!
  • crystaldegreef
    crystaldegreef Posts: 56
    I so want to read this, but I have SUCH a hard time reading posts with every word capitalized... was this done on purpose? From what I can read it seems he just plain doesn't trust you... and you did betray his trust... so it sounds like its a sick relationship that you might need to consider moving on from... some things can be worked through, but some can't...
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    If you aren't happy, you have to make yourself happy. Sometimes that happens by talking and compromising and sometimes that happens by moving on. Only you know what you have to do.

    Be brave, and be happy.
  • rachyrach1234
    rachyrach1234 Posts: 160
    Apparently Nobody Read That HE IS THE ONE WHO CHEATED NOT ME I DIDNT ****ING DO ANYTHING
  • crystaldegreef
    crystaldegreef Posts: 56
    Hes So Suspicious Of Me....Because I Got Away With It Once Before...You Know What

    THIS.... could be why we thought that...

    so sorry I was typing while you were posting corrections. We read it, but just not that far.
  • crystaldegreef
    crystaldegreef Posts: 56
    So... in this case then, it seems like he will never be able to forgive his own self for what he's done and the relationship has become toxic. Leave. End of story.
  • deeharley
    deeharley Posts: 1,208 Member
    Apparently Nobody Read That HE IS THE ONE WHO CHEATED NOT ME I DIDNT ****ING DO ANYTHING

    You typed "Because I Got Away With It Once Before" That would kind of imply you were the one who cheated.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Apparently Nobody Read That HE IS THE ONE WHO CHEATED NOT ME I DIDNT ****ING DO ANYTHING

    I did and stand by my statement now please try to calm down if you can and discuss what has happened.
    Your emotions are running away with you right now and that happens but it isn`t going to be helpful to you.

    You need to describe as best as you can the basic details of what this "relationship" has been,what you have gotten from it and why you wish it to continue under the circumstances.
  • 100poundstolose
    100poundstolose Posts: 43
    I so want to read this, but I have SUCH a hard time reading posts with every word capitalized... was this done on purpose? From what I can read it seems he just plain doesn't trust you... and you did betray his trust... so it sounds like its a sick relationship that you might need to consider moving on from... some things can be worked through, but some can't...

    he betrayed her trust
  • 100poundstolose
    100poundstolose Posts: 43
    I so want to read this, but I have SUCH a hard time reading posts with every word capitalized... was this done on purpose? From what I can read it seems he just plain doesn't trust you... and you did betray his trust... so it sounds like its a sick relationship that you might need to consider moving on from... some things can be worked through, but some can't...

    he betrayed her trust

    oh oops. i just read further down
  • Mads1997
    Mads1997 Posts: 1,494 Member
    Apparently Nobody Read That HE IS THE ONE WHO CHEATED NOT ME I DIDNT ****ING DO ANYTHING

    Did read it which is why I said dump him or deal with it.
  • rachyrach1234
    rachyrach1234 Posts: 160
    I Dont Even Know Anymore.
    He Beautiful And Funny And I LOVED Hangingout With Him
    But Lately
    Im Not As Attracted To Him As I Used To Be We Dont Have Fun..
    But Every Now And Then We Will Have One Day That Reminds Me Of How Things Used To Be.
    This Is Really Bad But He Doesnt Have Very Good Hygiene Anymore.....I Have Talked To Him About It
    I Tell Him To Brush His Teeth And I Invite Him In The Shower With Me
    I Wont Even Kiss Him With Tongue Anymore
    And He Gets Mad But Im Like OKAY I Told You You Need To Start Brushing Your Teeth More..He Doesnt
    I Tried To Get Him TO Workout
    I Made A Deal That If I Made My March Goal He Would Start Wokingout Too
    He Said He Did...But I Know Him
    And I Know He Didnt
    And Now Hes Telling Me He Can Help Me Find Someone Else...
    And I Probably Already Have 5 New Boyfriends...
    He Keeps Messaging Me Really Mean Things
    I Feel Like I Have Already Explained Myself More Than Enough
  • charityateet
    charityateet Posts: 574 Member
    Honey, sounds like he's trying to give you an easy out.....
  • BigBoneSista
    BigBoneSista Posts: 2,389 Member
    Okay,take a deep breath and read what you have written here...please?


    You are not in a relationship you are in an emotional trap and you are not the one setting the terms.
    Get out and get out now,there is nothing good or long term that can come from what you describe.

    You fear being alone and I know it does suck but is still better then a lifetime of absolute misery.
    You know what you have to do and is why you started this thread,I am just confirming what is.

    Exactly. How is the cheater calling the shots? Making ur life hell and hes the 1 that dipped out. Don't be surprised if he does it again. Not because once a cheat always a cheat...naw thats not absolutely true. From what you've posted he isn't mature enough to be involved in a relationship. He doesn't know how to control himself emotionally so when he get overwhelmed he is going to dip again.

    What you except now in a relationship you have to be willing to except if you decide to take the next step. I hope this isn't how you see your future.
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    Yeah. Like cat77cl said, it sounds like he is trying to get you to say it, but he's done, too. I'm sorry, sweetheart.
  • karilynn27
    karilynn27 Posts: 190 Member
    Apparently Nobody Read That HE IS THE ONE WHO CHEATED NOT ME I DIDNT ****ING DO ANYTHING

    Why are you even posting about your emotional/relationship problems in a weightloss message board?
    From what I read, he sounds like a real *kitten* so dump him or deal with it.
  • picturesing
    picturesing Posts: 228
    No No No I Didnt Cheat...HE DID
    Thats Why Hes So Suspicious Of Me..Cuz He Once Did It
    Sweety...If he did it once he'll do it again....GET OUT! :explode:
    Hold your head up and realize you are worth so much more that what you are allowing right now. The "real men" on MFP will tell you the same. As would (I'm sure your father or brother - if you have one).
    You asked for advice and you been giving it - resoundingly from your friends here. I know it feels terrible to think about ending it but how are you feeling right now. A few weeks of pain to regain your confidence and your life back.....a small price to pay. :cry:
  • peepocheck
    peepocheck Posts: 57 Member
    RUN AND DO IT NOW.....NOT TOMORROW! This man is dangerous! Anyone who cares for someone on any level is not this way.
    He needs to mature and I do mean NOW! He cannot continue to be a little boy trying to be a man. The two do not mesh! MEN DO NOT CHANGE....THEY ONLY GET WORSE WHEN THEY THINK THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH ANYTHING! But that is his problem. YOU NEED TO RUN.......LISTEN TO ME ...I'VE LIVED 6 DECADES AND I KNOW DANGER WHEN I SEE OR READ ABOUT IT. DO NOT GIVE HIM ONE MORE MINUTE OF YOUR VALUABLE TIME......PLEASE...FOR YOUR SAKE.
  • peepocheck
    peepocheck Posts: 57 Member
    ONE MORE THING.....THESE KIND OF MEN KILL! GET OUT!
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