insecure bf

Sounds like he doesn't trust you and thats not healthy

Tell him, instead of being insecure, you should be proud to be with a woman other men like to stare at.

Good luck on your goals and God Bless

wow, he's the jealous type. idk what to say bc i blow up on my fiance when i think he's flirtin or checkin out another woman. but i'll admitt i got a problem bc i love flirtin w other men and he knows it.

you could make him feel special. Tell him why you chose to be with him rather than anyone else. If you make him feel good about himself and say things to strengthen your bond together as a couple (such as; you are the only one for me, what would i do without you, your amazing ect.) he wont think that you have any reason to flirt with anyone else.

hope it helps:).

I would sit him down and have a serious conversation about this - his insecurities will do nothing but push you away, frustrate you both and it'll just be BAD.
My first REAL boyfriend and I went through the same thing. I started working out, losing weight, doing active things that he wasn't into. He'd just get jealous and angry with me and I ended up breaking up with him (we lived together and were a couple for 5 years) because it was an unhealthy situation and we'd just grown apart and didn't want the same things any more.
I'm married now and my husband is nothing but supportive and we're both secure enough in our relationship that there is no need for jealousy or insecurity. We both have our own interests, but try to include one another so that we're involved in each others lives.
Try to communicate how you feel and how his actions make you feel. If he can't smarten up and get his issues together, you have to do what's right and healthy for YOU.
Best of luck with whatever you do - just do it for you

Guys can be such jerks sometimes. Just tell him the guy was checking you out because you're hot and that if your boyfriend doesn't watch himself you can find another guy in a heartbeat. My best friend's husband told her that he didn't want her losing weight because he'd be too afraid of guys hitting on her if she wasn't fat. Yes, he used those words. It was a double insult because he called her fat and he implied that guys don't find her attractive as she is. He was in the dog house for a REALLY long time.

I'd tell him he was being a numpty. Why would i want anyone else when i've got you?

Yes other guys might look occassionally but you are the only one that gets to touch so can we hurry up and have make-up sex already?

If he continues being a jealous jerk, i'd probably tell him to stop or i'd have to show him the door.

jealous and over-protective are not nice traits in a significant other
he needs to grow up and trust you, if you are going ot have a good healthy relationship

hope he lets it go and realizes what a jerk he is being
Kim

This is my biggest pet peeve with people lol Jealousy and insecurity.

You can only say it so many times before you become redundant. It's possibly that he's having problems trusting you because he doesn't trust himself. 9 out of 10 times when a partner is accusing you of having an affair it's either because 1) they are having one 2) they have had one or 3) they have been put in temptations way. That's because they are looking for reasons to justify their actions by saying "well they did it so that makes me doing it ok" for example.

He could be scared to lose you due to the changes you are making. A lot of the time when people lose a lot of weight and their body changes drastically, their attitude changes. They start to think they deserve better then what they have (looks wise). Some, not all, become conceited, etc. (Not saying you are). He could be afraid that you are going to become even more beautiful and find someone who is the same.

Or he could be an *kitten* who just wants to control you lol.

Honey, what I suggest for you to do is sit him down and have a talk with him. Tell him that if he can't see how much you care/love him by now, then he's never going to see it and you deserve better than that. You picked him and no one else. He should feel honored to be standing next to you. You can't help if someone looks at you.

This is my biggest pet peeve with people lol Jealousy and insecurity.

You can only say it so many times before you become redundant. It's possibly that he's having problems trusting you because he doesn't trust himself. 9 out of 10 times when a partner is accusing you of having an affair it's either because 1) they are having one 2) they have had one or 3) they have been put in temptations way. That's because they are looking for reasons to justify their actions by saying "well they did it so that makes me doing it ok" for example.

He could be scared to lose you due to the changes you are making. A lot of the time when people lose a lot of weight and their body changes drastically, their attitude changes. They start to think they deserve better then what they have (looks wise). Some, not all, become conceited, etc. (Not saying you are). He could be afraid that you are going to become even more beautiful and find someone who is the same.

Or he could be an *kitten* who just wants to control you lol.

Honey, what I suggest for you to do is sit him down and have a talk with him. Tell him that if he can't see how much you care/love him by now, then he's never going to see it and you deserve better than that. You picked him and no one else. He should feel honored to be standing next to you. You can't help if someone looks at you.

Well Said!!!!!

Sounds like he is insecure with himself and doenst trust you completely. Is he working out as well and trying to get into shape? I know that when I was REALLY insecure I would always 'see' my (ex now) boyfriend 'check out' other girls. I would never say anything to him bc I knew it was my own insecurites. But I would just ask him why he is thinking that and I dunno just sounds like an insecurity and jealous thing to me. hope all turns out well

.. a guy is looking at me while I am pulling change out of my person and that means I MUST know him.

Out of your WHAT?

LOL

A little jealousy isn't bad if the person is strong enough to get past it and trust his/her lover. But if he is accusing you of things and not trusting the answer you give - it has already gone to a bad place. I would be up front with him that you don't know the person, did not respond to the looks, and are with him only. That puts the ball in his hand. He can hit a home run or a foul ball, but either way it will tell you if there is a future with him.

Guys can be such jerks sometimes. Just tell him the guy was checking you out because you're hot and that if your boyfriend doesn't watch himself you can find another guy in a heartbeat. My best friend's husband told her that he didn't want her losing weight because he'd be too afraid of guys hitting on her if she wasn't fat. Yes, he used those words. It was a double insult because he called her fat and he implied that guys don't find her attractive as she is. He was in the dog house for a REALLY long time.

Yeah guys because women never get jealous.

This isn't about whether women are jerks sometimes, it's about men!! Stop using logic! It's just like a guy to get up in our business to remind us that we are jealous and insecure, too. j/k :-P In all honesty, I can be horrible at times and I'm surprised my husband is my husband considering how many times I asked him if he still had feelings for his ex in the first six months of our relationship...but I have never accused my man of secretly dating someone else just because a girl looked at him.