What set you on this journey?

Karleyyy
Karleyyy Posts: 857
edited September 25 in Chit-Chat
What was going on in the moment you decided to start this lifestyle change? What was the final straw?

For me, I had been the heaviest I had ever been and I just got disgusted with myself. I looked really unattractive, and I was sick of trying to cover it up. Sick of feeling embarrassed in public.
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  • shreddingit
    shreddingit Posts: 1,133 Member
    for me was seeing how large my arms looked in pictures and not being able to hide my back fat with shape wear! yuk....no $$ for lipo so "I" had to do something about it ...
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    What was going on in the moment you decided to start this lifestyle change? What was the final straw?

    For me, I had been the heaviest I had ever been and I just got disgusted with myself. I looked really unattractive, and I was sick of trying to cover it up. Sick of feeling embarrassed in public.



    The EXACT thing you just said.
  • brndygrl98
    brndygrl98 Posts: 196 Member
    Being my heaviest weight, not being able to go up and down the stairs in my house without being out of breath and knowing that I have to wear a sleeveless bridesmaid's dress in June for my best friends wedding...those are just the excuses...it was time and it had to happen, so here I am!!
  • Sherry1979
    Sherry1979 Posts: 457 Member
    For me it was my husband telling me that I acted like I didn't even care about myself anymore. . .it took a little while after that because at first I was mad but deep-down I knew he was right and I finally got back to taking care of me again.
  • misrical
    misrical Posts: 66 Member
    Seeing a picture of myself at the beach, you know the ones where you aren't trying to suck in your gut cause you don't realize there is a picture being taken :P
    I saw it and I looked like I was about to deliver twins.....
  • brndygrl98
    brndygrl98 Posts: 196 Member
    Oh, and the back fat...uggghhh....I really hate back fat!!
  • Meggie_pooh
    Meggie_pooh Posts: 316 Member
    for me, it was getting winded evertime I played with my 2 yr old...well, that and the guilt i felt for making my hubby do all the chores around the house cuz I was always too tired to do it :indifferent:
  • My boyfriend was texting/exchanging pictures with his ex girlfiend who just happened to be super skinny :(
  • Cathy92
    Cathy92 Posts: 312 Member
    2 things: seeing myself in a picture of about 30 women at a party at my house (by far the biggest one there)...and my daughter really reaming me out and asking me "Since when did you stop caring about yourself?"
  • zeeeb
    zeeeb Posts: 805 Member
    looking at myself in photos, years of delusional thinking that I just can't do it, being humiliated by myself, almost destroying my relationship because I hated myself, being the biggest i've ever been.

    and the big one, never fitting into clothes. I'm short, so the big girl clothes are too big on me, and the normal sized clothes didn't fit me, so i was in no mans land where nothing fit me, and what did fit me, i hated the look of....

    it's only taken 10kg to get back into normal sized clothes again, and i have a way to go, but at least i can go shopping and know i can fit into normal sized, normal priced clothes.
  • Karleyyy
    Karleyyy Posts: 857
    My boyfriend was texting/exchanging pictures with his ex girlfiend who just happened to be super skinny :(

    I really hope he isn't your boyfriend anymore, darling! You do not deserve that, no matter what.
  • lukimakamai
    lukimakamai Posts: 498 Member
    I was back up to my heaviest size and my "big" clothes were tight. My husband and I are also getting ready to adopt and still TTC so I want to get healthy for my future children- they deserve a healthy mom!
  • Karleyyy
    Karleyyy Posts: 857
    I was back up to my heaviest size and my "big" clothes were tight. My husband and I are also getting ready to adopt and still TTC so I want to get healthy for my future children- they deserve a healthy mom!

    That is so awesome! I would love to adopt someday!
  • realia
    realia Posts: 169 Member
    I'm going to college next year and I realized I'm the only one out of my middle school class that hasn't changed much physically during high school. I don't want to be "the chubby friend" anymore. Plus, I'm into acting, theater, film, dance, etc. I want to be fit so I can gain more confidence. Confidence is key in acting. I can't act well if I'm so insecure about my weight and how I look.
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    I looked sideways in a mirror and saw my belly sticking out farther than my boobs. Yuck!

    Really... it was pregnancy then exclusively pumping then a broken kneecap and recovery. Got started with the exercise as soon as I could (was terrified of losing milk supply so didn't exercise much) and the dietary changes just kind of go along with exercise for me.
  • jenh1101
    jenh1101 Posts: 45
    For me it was being the heaviest I'd ever been while not being pregnant and being tired of not fitting into my clothes and seeing how I looked in pictures.
    Since I've started this, I've realized how inactive I was and how I was missing out on fun with my kids because I didn't have the energy to get out and really play with them the way I should.
  • WifeMomDVM
    WifeMomDVM Posts: 1,025 Member
    I saw an add in Parents Magazine one Sunday afternoon. Thought it would be "fun" to track what I was eating and "graph" my progress. Ha! Little did I know what I was getting myself into but I'm so glad I stumbled on this site and made some decisions to change my life!
  • Silky815
    Silky815 Posts: 367 Member
    I would have to say, exactly the same as you. I was heavy and felt disgusted with myself and how I looked. Not happy with thinking about how others saw me. So, I had to make a change. Best of luck to you.
  • cng1117
    cng1117 Posts: 225 Member
    the double takes and looks i got from family who (whom?) i hadn't seen in 10 years. after that i started realizing all kinds of things that i just hadn't noticed before. it wasn't that chili's was making restaurants with smaller booths, i was getting bigger. Chevy wasn't making trucks with the steering column closer to the seat, i was getting closer to the steering column. There wasn't a conspiracy to make seat belts shorter, i was just getting too big to buckle them. looking back its actually kinda funny, and sad, all the excuses i was making when in reality i was just fat.
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    Oh yeah, and my arm fat.

    And the fear of a high BMI leading to heart disease.

    Plus, I want my mom to love me.
  • Karleyyy
    Karleyyy Posts: 857
    Oh yeah, and my arm fat.

    And the fear of a high BMI leading to heart disease.

    Plus, I want my mom to love me.

    She should love you anyway.
  • I went clothes shopping recently and hadn't realized how icky my body was looking (after being covered up all winter). I think I'm finally going to stay consistent in losing my baby weight...fyi that baby is three years old now, I think its about time I did something about it!
  • jene77
    jene77 Posts: 70 Member
    My youngest daughter is 5 and she told me one day that I had a big tummy. That comment changed my life! I just love how blunt kids can be lol, the truth hurts. :embarassed: But I needed to hear it.
  • vette49
    vette49 Posts: 96 Member
    For me it was being put on high blood pressure meds and asprin to prevent strokes, that was quiet a wake up call.
  • krisvtx8777
    krisvtx8777 Posts: 163
    I saw a beautiful family pic taken on the beach, only to see me- "mom" in the pic looking terribly UNhealthy. My arms exposed and looked like they were exploding like the skin couldn't get any bigger. I just looked awful. I wouldn't ever show this pic to anyone (and I was so embarrassed about that because my family looked so great in it-I just looked terrible)

    I decided that I could keep trying to "lose weight" like I did so many times or I could attempt to "get healthy", I decided I had to get it in my head that this wasn't about vanity any longer. I was looking at a picture of a very overweight and unhealthy mom of three kids.

    And EVERYDAY I REMINDED myself that I spent the last 13+ year OVER weight, so why should I be in a hurry to lose it ALL so fast. (I always gave up after a week or two before because it was too slow) My focus became "what is something new I can try this week" A new healthy recipe....a new exercise dvd....and then it just became my new habits...I keep looking for new ideas to keep the weight coming off and keep me focused on being healthy.
  • Turning 30 did it for me. I want to live my life with joy and purpose. I want to teach my children and everyone around me what living is really about. If u don't have your health, who do u blame? If u r fat, who do u blame? If your children don't want to run or eat food that is good for them, who do u blame? I will try to be a good example on my road to "healthy". :)
  • ybba12490
    ybba12490 Posts: 252
    I can't even wear jeans and a t-shirt without seeing a huge belly roll! I just want to wear normal clothes instead of nike shorts and t-shirts everyday. I also hate this newfound back fat... no idea where it came from! I have always have a tummy and I just want to be confident in showing my belly
  • tracywba
    tracywba Posts: 21
    Pretty much all of the above...but my bingo wings (arm fat) are one major reason. I hate my arms so much that I will no longer wear short sleeves !!!! So I have made the choice to see this through. This is absolutely the last time I am going to need to loose weight
  • fatlass70
    fatlass70 Posts: 136 Member
    A renewed committment!

    In my teens I was always a slender thing and could eat and drink what ever I liked without gainng weight. When I went to uni (now more than 20 years ago!!) I started to put weight on going from a UK size 8 to a 12. I travelled for a while after Uni and a couple of bouts of dysentry soon lost the extra lbs (lol!!).

    I came home and was back in my size 8-10 clothes and all was lloking good, I had a lovely boyfriend and a good job and we were settling down. Working meant I was more sedentary in my life and the settling down lead to cosy nights in front of the telly with a bottle of wine and a takeaway or a nice down the pub with friends. Soon the weight was back and I was now up to a UK size 14. Fastforward 10-15 years and I hadn't got round to losing weight but it was a concern. I had married my lovely boyfriend and we bought our first place together and had started on our family.

    My eldest daughter provided me with a great inspiration - I didn't want to be the fat mum at the school gates so I joined Slimming World and lost 2.5 stones (35lbs) and was feeling great. Then i fell pregnant again and stupidly decided that I wouldn't worry about what I ate as I now knew I could be determined and lose weight - afterall I had proved it!

    Last year I turned 40 and I been telling myself that I wouldn't be fat and 40 - but then I was! It got to Christmas and I decided that the new year was going to be my new start and that I was going to make changes that I could live with and maintain. Three months on I am still here on my journey, typically losing weight each week but not every week and still motivated. The support and encouragement I have from you guys daily is making such a difference - thanks!

    So to answer your original question what set me on this journey - I think the answer for me is a coming together of a number of factors, turning 40, having 2 gorgeous kids who need a mum who has energy and is fun, and finally finding the committment to get started!! Sorry it took me so long to explain this!
  • kristiek7
    kristiek7 Posts: 198
    having battled and nearly died from an ED for 10 yrs and got that under control......but weight started to pile on, for sure due to my messed up metabolism.......I was terrified that I would start back using my 'past ways' to deal with it............but I took one look at my son (he was born after the ED was dealt with) and thought he deserves better..........so, I'm doing this the right way. and I've since discovered that I deserve this too.
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