My recent BREAK-UP :(

Best thing I can tell you is that you were doing it for YOU, not anyone else. It's your health, not the others in your life. That being said take it from me sometimes it takes a while to recover from grief so just don't beat yourself up over it, you'll get back to it when ready.

chin up! you can do this. just keep in mind that your health is completely and soley about *you*, and no one else, and you are so worth it. i think it's awesome that you worked out for a little bit, even if it didn't last long. keep doing this until you are back in your groove - you'll get there. and don't beat yourself up for feeling sad and stressed and eating the way you feel - like crap! this happens to everyone, and the important thing is you acknowledge your feelings, and then stand back up and keep moving. you'll be fine! and you are a gorgeous woman - his loss! :flowerforyou:

Yes, do it for yourself. Keep working out, and eating right. Keep your logs and get yourself back on track for you! It's ok to slip every now and then. But you have to get back on track for you and your goals. The best way to get back at someone after a relationship is to live a good life. If you set you goals to live healthy and continue to grow, you won't need to worry about the ex. You can move on and become better without them. Live your life for you, be good for you, stay positive and find your focus. Sounds like by coming here and posting you already know what you need to do to get back on track. You just needed someone to tell you to do it!

Depending on the relationship (friends or boyfriends) ... Sometimes you need to take some time out and just grieve, wallow, allow yourself some pity time. It's never something that's easy - even when things are mutual (in my case).

After some time, then start to get back at it one by one. Start by getting out of bed each morning. Start looking in the mirror and telling yourself how much your worth, how beautiful you are, how strong you are because of it all. Never look back and regret.

That pit in your stomach will go away. You just need to give it some time. Give yourself some time and love.

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What you're experiencing comes from the depression felt after losing someone you loved. It is normal to lose motivation. I know this is cliche but time really does heal all wounds. You will come out of this alright in the end. You will come out even better if you tell yourself that you are worth more than this depression is allowing you to be! You are going to go through the natural progression of hurt whether you work out and eat right or not. So make the decision to push past this pain and not let it get the best of you or your body. Good luck babe!!!

Set yoursef a time limit on being sad, give yourself two weeks to do nothing but cry and eat and generally not do much. And then pick yourself up and kick butt. Imagine bumping into him and looking and feeling amazing

I have just gone through the same and I have to see him because we have a baby and the thought of seeing him and thinking ha, look at me, actually motivates me more. I have also just read a book called breakup because its broken. And it is basically saying you can have a breakover, you have now got extra spare time and you should use it to make yourself even more fabulous or flabuless

i just got a broken heart back in december. the whole month of december i ate like crap and didnt exercise. i couldnt push myself to even get out of bed sometimes. sometime in january my motivation started building again. i started with my diet and worked out a couple times a week. then in march is when it really got going. now when i run i listen to music about getting thru heartbreaks and being strong enough to not need that person anymore. im still in love with him but i know it wouldnt be the same if we got back together so im trying to live my life to the fullest and working towards the body ive always wanted. plus it would be nice to have him see me sometime after i do transform my body and secretly laugh in his face that he lost me.

girl its going to take time, there are times where you wont care at all and that is completely normal. everyday it gets easier and soon the broken heart that you have will need to feed off the exercise. it does make ur heart feel better when you push yourself through a good workout. it helps heal it. Were here for you!

I'm sorry for your loss. I agree with others who have said set a time limit for you to "not care" about what you're eating, doing etc. but if you can muster it, go for a walk, even at 2 mph for 30 minutes, you'll keep moving and burning. Switching to maintenance might also ease some of the guilt your feeling for overeating and not working out. Think of it this way: You're giving yourself permission to eat more, and if you don't eat your maintenance calories you'll still have a small deficit and will keep losing, just more slowly, even if you don't work out. Working out will be an added bonus to your deficit when you can handle it. If you can, still try to make healthier choices, but don't deny yourself food. It's an emotional stressor that will cause more mental activity which will require more carbs. It's only natural that you want to eat. Just know that when you eat "junk" foods, your body will crave them more. Try to eat more lean proteins and whole grains when you can. This will help fight the "sugar cravings".

You can't ignore what you're feeling. If you do, you'll end up with a host of other problems that will surface in your food habits. Journal your thoughts, feelings, babble, whatever - just let it flow. You'd be surprised where your thoughts will lead you when you start writing freely (don't worry about grammar, spelling, etc. Just let it all come out.) Write him a nice long letter (that you'll never send). Tell him how you felt during your relationship, things you like and disliked about being with him, how you feel about being apart and the impact it's having on you right now. Put it away for 3-6 months (or even until you reach your goal if that's longer) then when you reach that time, pull it out, read it, think about how far you've come, and burn it as a final symbol of closure.

Best of luck to you in this phase of your life. You can stop and rest but never give up!
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