How do you resist when your DH eats junk!!

lovinmamaxo
lovinmamaxo Posts: 368 Member
edited September 26 in Health and Weight Loss
My DH is very small and in fact trying to "gain weight" he has a really fast metabolism and burns off whatever he eats. He bought me a salad the other day and him and my kids a large cheese pizza which is a treat for my kids.. they rarely have pizza... i was seriously so tempted smelling it right in front of me all i would have to do is take a piece.... but i didn't! I did open the box and sniffed it though i know probably torturing myself since i knew i couldn't have it.

But how do you deal with these situations when people eat this food in front of you?? I've been doing so good but have had some cravings here and there.. one of them is the Reeces peanut butter egg sitting in the drawer right near my bed!! But i haven't touched one since starting my lifestyle change yet. On the other hand i have been finding some healthy food i really like that i never thought i would... i love the triscuit whole wheat roasted garlic crackers, i love the 5 grain cheerios, i like skim milk, i actually like the seasonings like mrs dash that i put on my chicken last night, i don't mind the corn without the added salt, butter isn't a must for me anymore.

Also let's talk Easter.. everyone knows that Easter is full of candy, and well junk food. My mom may be coming over and wants a glazed honey ham.. we are talking SERIOUS fat & cholesterol... plus add in the mashed potatoes, butter, milk, cake, etc and my mom makes an additional glaze loaded with brown sugar. I love honey ham.. that and pasta seem to be my weaknesses i can eat and eat and eat... what do i do?? Should i try to take like 1 piece or avoid it all together for fear of overeating?

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  • nmoreland
    nmoreland Posts: 183 Member
    It really depends on what you can handle. I do not like to cut anything out of my diet because I will not stick with it. I have little snickers in my fridge for when I get a craving, and I do have pizza every now and again, cause I love it. My motto is everything in moderation. Family affairs, or large dinners, are difficult, but maybe you could let yourself have some ham, but then stick with veggies or healthy sides opposed to the potatoes and cake.
  • david_swinstead
    david_swinstead Posts: 271 Member
    DH?
  • Daisy_May
    Daisy_May Posts: 505 Member
    I dont' expect my fiance not to indulge just becasue I'm trying to eat healthy BUT what I do ask of him is to have things that he loves but I don't! For example, chips are ok but I can certinly do without them so he's free to bring those into the house but chocolate and fresh bread are a weakness so he'll get killed if he brings them home :tongue:

    If he REALLY feels he needs those things he's at work 12 hours a day and I'm not around, he can have it then!
  • lovinmamaxo
    lovinmamaxo Posts: 368 Member
    DH?

    Sorry. Dear Husband lol
  • lnosgood
    lnosgood Posts: 92
    I still eat pizza as well. Just get the thin crust pizza it's better for your diet. Only have 1-2 slices and make sure to log it. Plus if you go over your calories a bit go for a jog or walk around the block and burn off some of those extra calories. Look at my log I eat pizza hut pizza at least 2x a month. Just make sure you have the extra calories for it. =) No need to deprive yourself of anything just make sure you have the extra calories to be able to have it.
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    I see it this way... I want this to be a lifestyle change. I don't want to completely cut off my favorite foods. If I know I'm going to have something not so healthy for dinner or lunch, I make sure to put in a really good workout (at least an hour) and burn enough calories. I work the calories for the specific items into my diary to fit. I've binged in the past because I couldn't have certain things. I too, have looked for healthier alternatives but sometimes I just need that grease or candy. I drink LOTS of water every day and watch my sodium. Yesterday, I had 2 slices of pizza but before I had that, I burnt off 500 calories and my sodium count was really good, so it worked out perfectly =)
  • DoReMiFaSoLaTiDo
    DoReMiFaSoLaTiDo Posts: 296
    my husband will sit in bed with a HUGE bag of potato chips almost every night....and while he is thin, he is getting a beer gut....it simply becomes a mind of matter thing for me....I make me a cup of herbal tea....or hot apple cider or drink a glass of water and move on....

    There are always going to be temptations....and you dont have to cut these things 100% out of your life.... When I think about eating chips with my husband, I think that its a lil over 10 weeks til July 4th and I dont want to get harpooned at the beach..... that's enough Motivation for me
  • mustangurl
    mustangurl Posts: 104 Member
    when mine has something that i want, i usually will have a bite or two of whatever he is eating and that usually satisfy's the craving. but i try not to completely deny all my cravings, i've noticed that if i am REALLY craving it and i don't eat it, i tend to over eat other things trying to make up for it. so i allow myself a little treat and move on!
  • shaunarlr83
    shaunarlr83 Posts: 374 Member
    I haven't stopped eating anything, just be sense able. I am sure people would say I would lose faster if I cut out certain foods completely but I think I am on a good roll. If I didn't give in and "treat" myself every so often I wouldn't be able to turn away from those foods. My kids have candy, ice cream, etc. and my husband only drinks soda, for the most part I don't care what they eat I have my own healthy snacks but if I do give in, it is proportioned, I don't eat any where near the amounts I used to!
  • myrbg
    myrbg Posts: 93
    haha you read my mind about the DH!!

    moderation is key!! if you continue to cut everything out so strictly, one day you're going to go overboard. BUT, if you're affraid of over eating, then stay away. you're likely not ready to indulge in moderation. until you are able to wrap your brain around "i don't need to eat a whole plate of... (enter food)..." then continue on the path you're going and keep your chin up. soon enough you'll realize that you're completely satisfied with 1 slice of ham as opposed to 4. good luck!!
  • FemininGuns
    FemininGuns Posts: 605 Member
    So I would say, why would it hurt to "occasionally" have a treat. Now, my definition of "occassionally" would be once a week. But that's my definition. You can't spend the rest of your life NOT HAVING a treat once in a while. All you have to do is adjust your calories accordingly and stick to your nutrition plan the rest of the week.

    I am prepping for a body building competition at the moment. I cannot have treats at all... (if I could, I would have oatmeal with PB, cocoa and kashi mixed together!)... My hubby eats what he wants when he wants. I've learned to deal with this by asking how it tastes. Then I take a moment to think of how that food would make me feel... How I would feel by not staying on track. That's what helps me not mind the pizzas, and any other junk food. I also see the effects of this food on people. They feel sluggish and ready for a nap while I feel energized, happy and healthy!
  • tallen3687
    tallen3687 Posts: 244 Member
    I agree! YOu have to let yourself have special things once in a while or you will over indulge later. Reeces eggs are my favorite candy. My daughter in law gave me one in my birthday gifts Sunday. Wow was it good. But I only ate the one so I was proud. I always say there is one day a week where I treat myself to anything I want. I find that everyday I say I can have that "something" I am craving on my special day. When that day comes, I certainly don't want all of the things I promised myself. So instead of eating something bad for me every day, I usually eat one thing bad on one day. It works for me anyway. My family eats pizza too, so I have a weight watchers or Lean cuisine pizza when they are eating theirs. I don't feel deprived that way. I agree with nmoreland that moderation is the key. I weigh everything during special meals. I get to eat what I want but just not what in the amounts I used to. Stick to it. We are here for you.
  • Katbaran
    Katbaran Posts: 605 Member
    Dear Husband.
  • MoonShadow_1au
    MoonShadow_1au Posts: 149 Member
    My wife usually is the one who sits and watches me eat junk. She has amazing will power. What I hate is when she "thoughtfully" brings back chocolates from switzerland .... just could not say no. I find I cannot say no without being nasty and she is the only one I just cannot bring myself to being like that to. Other people I am happy to abuse for "trying to make me fat" or "wanting me dead" ;) .
  • RatBoyGL
    RatBoyGL Posts: 100
    DH?

    Sorry. Dear Husband lol

    Now we both know that "D" doesn't stand for "dear." Especially if he is tempting you with pizza. :laugh:

    At any rate, don't torture your self.

    Prepare for it instead. If you know Pizza is coming, shift some calories around and make room for a slice or two.
  • catherine1979
    catherine1979 Posts: 704 Member
    I make a lot of the foods that my partner wants to eat. I make homemade pizza, with crust made from scratch. That way I know exactly what's in it. It's a lot healthier than a take away pizza, but everyone still feels like they're having an indulgence.

    I used to be tempted by his junk food stash, but honestly I work so hard to lose the weight that junk food isn't something I want to put in my body any more. I keep some dark chocolate on hand and if I want a treat I'll have a square of that because that's what I love to indulge in.
  • Crystal_Rudolph
    Crystal_Rudolph Posts: 632 Member
    I have found that as I get stronger in my lifestyle change, I don't want what everyone else is indulging in! Take for instance my family's dining experience last Friday night. We went out to Old Country Buffet. My family came out feeling stuffed, bloated, and miserable. I came out feeling full, satisfied, and full of energy. The kids and the hubby all over did it--and I simply stopped when I started to feel full!

    Another example is with my husbands sweets...he loves his candy! He is also very thin and has an extremly high metabolism! GRR!! :) However, as I see my progress and I feel better about myself, I don't have to fight the urges to indulge in his sweet-drawer. I simply don't crave all that junk anymore! Whoo Hoo!!!

    Or even a better example...the kids all had ice cream sundae's last night for snack. Instead of joining them and consuming all that sugar and fat, I ate a healthy treat. I cut up some strawberries and bananas, topped it off with some low-fat redi whip and enjoyed!!! (Only 250 calories!!!)

    It works if we think about this "diet" being a "lifestyle change" not just a "diet".
  • hollyb9871
    hollyb9871 Posts: 401 Member
    If I want pizza I eat pizza, if I want some chocolate I eat some chocolate. Everything in moderation but be prepared to work it off. Take a walk after you eat or exercise enough earlier in the day that you can afford it. If you constantly deny yourself the things you love you won't stick with it and eating well through out your life is the goal not the 6+ months to reach a goal.

    Enjoy!
  • missy1970eb
    missy1970eb Posts: 1,209 Member
    just eat it in moderation rather than torture urself, as for the ham at easter i would eat it as it is a proper meal, just be careful with the easter eggs lol:smile:
  • taiyola
    taiyola Posts: 964 Member
    I live on my own with my dog, so that's fine for me :wink: But one of my best friends is overweight (a good stone or 2 overweight) but thinks she's slim, and the other IS slim but his mother (who I'm friends with - he's my ex boyfriend & I've known them both for years) who has been on a diet for the whole time I've known her, attends the gym, yet hasn't lost much weight because she still eats cakes and unhealthy crap. She also has a habit of buying me things when she does her food shopping, even though I have asked her SO many times to not buy me ANYTHING. If she is going to a shop and I want anything from there, I will ask her and give her the money for it. Even though some times I've given her the stuff back, she wont stop. Really reeeeeaaaallllyyyy infuriating when someone refuses to listen!

    We went to the supermarket together the other day and it was 'do you want this? I'll get you this for you to eat it round ours tonight' 'I don't want it' 'you don't want it? I'll get it you for tea tonight' 'nah, I don't want it' 'you sure? why? why don't you want it? you can have it with garlic bread' :explode: It was a microwave tomato pasta and cheese. It was around 500 cals... if I'd have gave in and had it with garlic bread, it would have ended up around 1000 cals. For one meal. Then later on she was in the cake aisle saying she 'fancied something sweet'. I said 'I don't want anything'... yet a couple of minutes later she was picking up things asking if I liked them, and when I said I didn't want anything, she was asking why. I said I'm trying to lose weight, and she said 'yeah, but it's only one'.

    GGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Bootzey
    Bootzey Posts: 274 Member
    I leave the room, sometimes the floor, and occasionally the house
  • SeasideOasis
    SeasideOasis Posts: 1,057 Member
    My DH is very small and in fact trying to "gain weight" he has a really fast metabolism and burns off whatever he eats. He bought me a salad the other day and him and my kids a large cheese pizza which is a treat for my kids.. they rarely have pizza... i was seriously so tempted smelling it right in front of me all i would have to do is take a piece.... but i didn't! I did open the box and sniffed it though i know probably torturing myself since i knew i couldn't have it.

    But how do you deal with these situations when people eat this food in front of you?? I've been doing so good but have had some cravings here and there.. one of them is the Reeces peanut butter egg sitting in the drawer right near my bed!! But i haven't touched one since starting my lifestyle change yet. On the other hand i have been finding some healthy food i really like that i never thought i would... i love the triscuit whole wheat roasted garlic crackers, i love the 5 grain cheerios, i like skim milk, i actually like the seasonings like mrs dash that i put on my chicken last night, i don't mind the corn without the added salt, butter isn't a must for me anymore.

    Also let's talk Easter.. everyone knows that Easter is full of candy, and well junk food. My mom may be coming over and wants a glazed honey ham.. we are talking SERIOUS fat & cholesterol... plus add in the mashed potatoes, butter, milk, cake, etc and my mom makes an additional glaze loaded with brown sugar. I love honey ham.. that and pasta seem to be my weaknesses i can eat and eat and eat... what do i do?? Should i try to take like 1 piece or avoid it all together for fear of overeating?

    It all depends on you personally.

    I HAVE CRAVINGS like its my job. I love food. For me, Im learning to eat what I want/like in moderation. For example, tonight my bf and I are meeting my close friend at the place we used to work together...Buffalo Wild Wings. The food is horrible for you. Its all friend or doused with cheese (for the most part). After some research, however, I found I can have 6 wings in one of my favorite sauces (Mango Habanero) for just 300 calories. I can easily fit this into my diet without killing my calories (err...not so much with the sodium). If I workout after class, because with my meals planned out already for the day, I can probably also have a small portion of chips and cheese as well.

    Its all about balance and moderation. Could I smash 12 wings and a large order of chips with cheese, extra cheese, absolutely. However, I know its not good for me. Therefore, special occasions, and only if I know I have the calories to spare. I have the ability to tell myself "no" which not everybody has the ability to do once they start eating certain foods.
  • Mynewyearsvow
    Mynewyearsvow Posts: 7 Member
    The holidays are always the time to have fatty foods for some reason. My suggestion is to look up healthier versions of the foods everyone loves to eat at your get together. Or start new traditions and make completely new sides. I would suggest a mixture of the same thing your family always eats, a healthier version of a few, and some new sides, just so no one rebels against the "new" food.

    As for the pizza and other loves, I too believe in moderation. For most people. It all depends on your personal mind and body. Just like a beer or glass of wine in moderation is a good thing, but not to an alcoholic. If every time you try to eat something unhealthy in moderation, and every time you overeat, then you should stay away from it. Or give yourself 2 meals a week, or 1 day a month, whatever you can handle, where you focus only on exercise, and not so much calories for that one meal. This way you can indulge a little, work it off, and the next day get right back on track!

    I would just like to point out that salads are not always healthy either. The dressing alone is usually more calories than a slice of pizza, and iceberg lettuce has no nutritional value. Unless your eating spinach leaves, lots and lots of vegetables, and oil and vinegar dressing, the slice (one slice, not 3) is probably equivalent. I've also read/heard that the crust is the bad part, so just eat the toppings and cheese off the top of the pizza, and not the crust.

    I understand this struggle, and wish you the best of luck!
  • SeasideOasis
    SeasideOasis Posts: 1,057 Member

    It works if we think about this "diet" being a "lifestyle change" not just a "diet".

    Well said. Its is definitely a lifestyle change. I found my grocery cart this week filled with seafood (salmon, shrimp, and crab meat), lean meats (boneless pork chops and chicken), veggies, fruits, and a couple dairy products (fat free milk and yogurt). Before, there would have been bread galore, pasta for every meal, and something else horrible. My grocery trips used to be shorter because I went out to eat 5 nights a week. However, now my grocery bills are larger, but my eating and health is HUGE!
  • cutmd
    cutmd Posts: 1,168 Member
    Hey I wanted to share a trick that actually seems to work. Rather than trying not to think about the food, imagine yourself eating a bunch of it. Especially if you can smell it you can take yourself through the whole exercise. It actually helps! Here's the proof:

    http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/notrocketscience/2010/12/09/curb-those-food-cravings-by-imagining-yourself-eating-lots-of-food/

    I believe in moderation as well, but I can't have gluten so I sometimes pretend I am eating other people's pizza and bread... :tongue:
  • mrsbullard21
    mrsbullard21 Posts: 24
    My husband is skinny and eats like a 5 year old child. He's extremely picky and mainly only eats pizza (pizza rolls, pizza subs...), chicken tenders, macaroni and cheese, and any form of potatoes. That said, it's hard for me to eat a salad when he's chowing down on a half bag of pizza rolls and they smell SO. YUMMY.

    I've just started with my lifestyle change, and so I really don't have any tips or tricks for keeping my fingers off the hubby's plate...but last night I was presented with that opportunity. I made a bag of steamed veggies with some cheese and lots of seasoning and a turkey sandwich, and I ate that in the living room while he ate in our bedroom. I figured by doing that I could take my time eating and be able to get the "full feeling," rather than scarfing down my food and still thinking I'm hungry and wandering into the land of pizza rolls and regrets.
  • Just1forMe
    Just1forMe Posts: 624 Member
    Do you allow yourself small portions of the things you love? What helps me is to remember that I can have a little of something today, and tomorrow, if I choose, I can have a little more! I would have cut 1 slice in half and had it along with my salad, then allowed myself a small treat that I really wanted afterward.

    Easter doesn't have to be a problem! You can have a few oz of ham. 6 oz of honey baked ham is only 300 cals. Trim the visible fat and eat it (skip the extra glaze, you don't need it)! Make sure you bring some yummy sides to the table for yourself (or everyone!). How about a nice sweet potato with cinnamon & splenda brown sugar and a side of veggies that you like? Bake a yummy dessert that you can have. Fill up on a big salad or fruit salad. You don't want to completely deny yourself or you will just chuck it and pig out. You MUST teach yourself to make a plan that you can live with for the day and then stick with it! Remind yourself that tomorrow is another day and save yourself another serving of dessert for then. Here's a great recipe:
    http://www.skinnytaste.com/2011/04/pineapple-bliss-cupcakes.html#more

    Throw that peanut butter egg away and get yourself some mini peanut butter cups. Put them in the freezer and have 2 after lunch and 2 after dinner every day for a week. Remind yourself after each time that you will get 2 more after the next lunch or dinner. The next week, if you can, go down to 1 after each meal. You need to train yourself to enjoy small portions of the food you love and be satisfied with that, knowing you can have more later. If you don't, than this is just a diet and eventually, diets end. (Caveat: If you have a serious food addiction, you may need professional help with this.)

    Last thing...if you want more food, WORK for it! Get out there and take a brisk walk to earn that extra helpings worth of calories! You can do this!!!!
  • Natalie0506
    Natalie0506 Posts: 163
    My husband is a huge candy eater. I simply told him that he can have whatever he wants, just don't ask me if I want any. And it helps that he eats it while I work out. Makes it look very unappetizing. LOL. And it's also about your personal mind set. I've found that I can have very little sugar, so I try to avoid all of it. Easter will probably be my one day this month that I seriously indulge myself. Once in a while isn't going to hurt you!
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