How do you react to people who don't support you?

to the people who you know are going to make these remarks, i would not be sharing your good news of lbs. lost. Their loss.

I'm kind of in the same boat. My mom hinders my weight loss a LOT. I think the reason why is because she is overweight herself and is jealous.

As for what to do about it, my only suggestion would let it to roll right off your back. I know it may be hard. But that's the best way to do it. Oh, and I journal a lot. That helps tons as far as venting goes.

Don't let 'em get the best of you. You're doing a great job!! Keep it up!

sounds to me like they are jealous of your success ... hmmm

Kick them in the- ouch! Sympathy pains!!

The last person that asked me how much I've lost, I said the equivalent of an elephants p*nis. That shut 'em up :laugh:

Seriously though, "I wanted to be as healthy as I could be, and when you know better, you do better. Bless your heart for thinking of me." :bigsmile: And try not to cough or burst out laughing

You're still young so its probably just the maturity of the people around you. The younger people are the harder it is for them to have sympathy, empathy or understanding... or support for that matter. I would just keep your weight loss to yourself around them. You're not doing it for them anyways, you're doing it for YOU. So celebrate your goals to yourself and feel happy and giddy, but don't consistently talk about it around others. For people who don't understand, or can't lose weight themselves it can trigger annoying or irritating thoughts when they hear you talk about it. Some one may think you are bragging about it (which you have every right to!!) But if they aren't willing to be happy for your success and offer support then don't even bother bringing it up. Just let them be jealous when they see you so much thinner. If they continue to be negative even once you stop discussing it on your part, then try giving it time to pass. Once they realize this is the real thing for you, a new way of living and that you're going to keep it up and be thin and healthy then they'll get over it and accept it as the new you.

plain ol' jealousy!! the same with me, i dont get much support when MFP links my exercises to my facebook. And i only have my freinds that i know and talk to! i thought about taking the link off, but im not. it helps motivate me to workout on days when i dont feel like it. Thats why i love MFP! we are all on the same boat! i'm here to support you and cheer you on....woo hooo!!! keep up the great work!

Sounds like jealousy on your friends behalf. and on your boyfriends family... maybe they already think you're perfect so don't see the reason for it or maybe are concerned it could negatively effect your relationship with him?

Let your friend know that her remarks are not necessary or just not talk to her about your weight loss journey. She'll probably come around and maybe even come to you for weight loss advice in the future when she seeks you kiss a$s!

I don't get rude comments, but I get unhealthy eaters offering me unhealthy food. It was the same when I quit smoking. Smokers offered me cigarettes. I think the un-supporters fear being left behind, and they feel like they are lacking if we are successful in our attempts.

Sometimes it even comes in the guise of being "helpful"..."Oh, you're having a bad day? Let's get ice cream (or have a cigarette)."

Know yourself and why you're doing this, and live for yourself. Take what you need and ignore the rest. You can't change their ways anymore than they can change yours. And most of all, be proud of what you accomplish

what kind of sick, twisted a-holes don't support someone who wants to lose weight and be healthy?

frankly you should cut them out of your life. they are a pox.

hey there.. some people just dont know when to keep there mouth shut or just say something nice. On the other hand if its coming from a guy who doesnt know what to say it usually comes out wrong. I was at work and a guy came up to me and asked if i had lost weight because he noticed my pants were a little baggy, when i told him i was running alot he said "well that sucks i kinda like girls to be a little bigger." I was crushed. I am 6 feet tall but i have never thought of myself as being a "big girl" i have always been active and i just put on a little growing pudge. People that dont care about the way they look dont know how to talk to somebody that is trying to better themselves. And alot of people are just dumb or jelous:)

Haters gonna hate.

Try to take this aspect and turn it around. I've always heard and read that when people are not supportive to one's weight loss goals, it is usually because of their own security. But whatever the reason, use it as motivation. They are only fueling the fire.

Nothing burns me up more than when I hear someone saying that "I will end up gaining it back anyway" or that "I can't do something".

Think about what these people would say to you if you weren't losing weight and trying to get healthy: probably nothing. So that would mean that as long as they not being supportive (i.e. being haters), you are doing something right. Jealousy is an inevitable human emotion. Like I said, haters gonna hate.

I don't get rude comments, but I get unhealthy eaters offering me unhealthy food. It was the same when I quit smoking. Smokers offered me cigarettes. I think the un-supporters fear being left behind, and they feel like they are lacking if we are successful in our attempts.

Sometimes it even comes in the guise of being "helpful"..."Oh, you're having a bad day? Let's get ice cream (or have a cigarette)."

I get this. Overweight people around me trying to feed me up! I can do that perfectly well on my own, thanks :laugh:

Also, I rarely drink or go 'clubbing' and want to stop drinking for a few months, and my friends are always like 'you coming out? let's go for drinks... oh just the one! go on, it's only one!' One cake, one drink, one drunken cigarette and takeaway meal... ugh. They don't have the will power to stop drinking, smoking and eating kebabs, and they want some company so they don't feel so bad about it.

I'm doing it for me. I could care less what anybody else thinks. I don't require support to accomplish my goal. Take pride in yourself that eventually most of your friends will be overweight and you will be the exception. Good Luck