Wishing my family members were supportive

I hear ya. My family thinks I'm too skinny (which I'm not) and then try and load as many calories as they can onto my plate whenever I come and visit. Definitely stems from jealousy, I think.

Stay strong. You can do this. You're doing it for you, not them!!

I agree stay positive! If you are doing it for you than you will do great!. I have the same sort of problem but I plan to do my best to work my way through it. Then when I'm done, I can show them that I DID do it!

I agree stay positive! If you are doing it for you than you will do great!. I have the same sort of problem but I plan to do my best to work my way through it. Then when I'm done, I can show them that I DID do it!

Exactly!!!

That really stinks about your family!! Keep at it even if the feel the need to make you feel bad about it! We are here to help support you and to tell you that your doing a great job!!!

i say screw em.. if they cant support you !

I'm so sorry you have to go through that. I get the same problems every day in my home because I'm a reluctant vegan (I have a hard time digesting red meat and have a dairy allergy) It's even more offensive because I really have no control over my inability to eat these things.

They'll act so disgusted when I eat something healthy and say that it looks gross, as they look up from a giant bloody steak. My mother also refuses to touch tofu or soymilk so if she's making dinner that night then I'm royally screwed and have to fend for myself. I cook dinner for them almost every night because I'm my grandfathers full time caregiver and they always glare at me when I don't eat what I've prepared for them.

I honestly think that our families aren't trying to be rude, but they don't really understand if they haven't had to struggle as we are. In my parents and grandfathers case I think it's simply them being too old to understand that healthy doesn't mean disgusting.

I try to explain to them that I don't think less of them for eating the way they do and I hope they don't think less of me. Usually this shuts them up for a few days. I hope it works for you ;{

my father was like that when i was younger...even though he once offered me $200 for a new wardrobe if i lost weight.
my mother was always up and down with her weight, often using whatever the new fad was.
i never did anything about it when i was younger, and now i look back and wish i had just taken care of myself when i was younger.
take control now...ignore the rudeness. i don't know why, but some times people just like push buttons. if you don't let it bother you, chances are they'll give up. maybe even come around and be supportive?!

good luck. you're off to a good start with this website full of supportive people!

I think everyone must have family like that. LOL. I told my sister who lives next door to me that I was eating healthy and exercising and 1/2 hour later she shows up at my door with lunch cakes. I told her to keep them I don't want them, she insisted so I offered her a fiber one bar. I told her to take them or I was throwing them in the trash she said "oh they won't hurt you". Well I probably made her mad but I threw them in the trash!!

they'll be alright - let them b!tch away and you go on with your new lifestyle - doesn't matter what they think! you are doing the right thing, so keep your chin up!

and congrats on that walk - that's a good 'un! :flowerforyou:

Sometimes when people change their life for the better, it inadvertendly holds a mirror up to others that they are not ready to look into. Sometimes it's pure and simple jealousy.

It's not your fault. It's their problem not yours. Such a shame they behave to childishly rather than support you.

You'll need to find your support elsewhere, but keep doing what you're doing.

Sounds like you've done enough to appease them... now it's your turn!

I'm sorry about this whole thing, it must be difficult to feel like you don't have support. Maybe your sister was concerned about safety? I've heard that one about walking before...
Also, your dad did a great thing asking you about that. Maybe you felt the tone of voice or manners were wrong but the act itself seems sweet, like he knows you are trying to be healthier and he doesn't want to present challenges to you.
Weight loss is a hard trip, and we wished everyone would be supportive EXACTLY in the way we want them to be (versus how they can be) but sometimes we are just not seeing things positively...

idk, it's my two cents... maybe they ARE trying to be supportive, in their own way.

Hey, you hang in there and keep going. Do this for you and the next time they say something look them square in the eye and tell them that you care about your health..too bad they don't! My husband was like that too, thank God for my 2 girls who support me in my weight loss efforts. They are here on myfitness and have done so great themselves. Don't worry about them not being supportive you will get plenty here..and don't let them discourage you from this!....You go girl!

I've sent you a message..bit long for here..but you keep doing what is right for you

I'm sorry that you are having to go through this, especially with the people you would think the most supportive. But you continue to do what is best for you and you can do it without compromising yourself. Good luck to you!