All I see is DISGUSTED!

One of my sister-in-law's had a lot of weight to lose. She is almost at her goal and looks AMAZING! Hang in there! Don't worry about how you got there -- YOU ARE BACK! Keep up the AMAZING work! I only want to lose 25 pounds, and I am not working out enough for anything to happen. You have kicked *kitten* in my opinion!

I do. But I try not to look...I try to keep my mind on the positive; that I am healthier and feel better. It's a change, but it's a good one. Try not to worry about your looks on the outside; when your goals are met, you can tighten up those loose ends. What's important is how you feel, within! "Hugs" :flowerforyou:

Oh honey ===stop right there. don't go down that road. You are amazing- go find someone who knew you when you started-ask them- look at old pics-put on an old pair of jeans. You have lost 90 pounds almost another person- I bet you look greater than you think.

I know how you feel, but you have made some great accomplishments! Not only is the scale going down, and the clothes are getting smaller, but you're getting healthier too! You are doing a wonderful job of making sure you will be around for your loved ones for a much longer time. You are probably putting too much pressure on yourself. Keep your head held high, and keep up the good work!

I definitely empathize. It happens to people of all shapes and sizes, it's a hard road, but try to be proud of yourself, you've made an amazing accomplishment!

We are our own worst critics! sure you still have a way to go till your goal and you don't look like you want to.....YET
but look how far you have come!! 91lbs is no easy task! That is amazing!!! If i have learned anything about myself on this journey it is to embrace the progress you have made and use it as inspiration to keep going, and not to look at how much more you have to go!

It's easier for me to tell myself every morning how proud i am that I have lost over 100lbs then to look in the mirror and go GEEZE I have a long way to go!

keep up the good work!!! You are awesome!

Well, for starters, don´t look at yourself THAT MUCH without clothes. Instead, look at yourself WITH clothes on, especially if they´re new and you´re wearing heels or something that makes you feel good about yourself.
Next, it would be a good idea for you to think about what things make you feel bad about yourself, that aren´t physical, in case that is affecting the way you look at yourself physically. You might also ponder about what kinds of "voices" you´re hearing, whether it´s your own self-critic, or words that other people have said to you in the past and figure out how to counteract them so that you can be more relaxed with yourself.
Finally, maybe you are so intent on the final goal that you are pressing yourself to feel bad about not having got there yet instead of congratulating yourself on all the work you´ve already done. Maybe you´re afraid that if you let yourself off the hook, you can´t trust yourself to keep going. Sometimes other people do the same. They don´t congratulate us for fear that we´ll stop trying hard.

I'm not happy with the way I look. But it's funny because I will look back on pictures from the healthiest I have ever been and think why can't I look like that again but then I recall those times I looked that great and I was still so hard on myself when I had a rockin' body!!! We are definitely our toughest critics, focus on your successes and let them motivate you for more:)

I was the same way. I was 114 lbs at 5'5" and even then wore a t-shirt over my swimsuits. I NEVER wore a shirt that didn't cover my stomach even when wearing a pair of jeans and my shorts were always on the long side. Man what I would do to have that body back LOL. I do believe we "at least most of us" see ourselves the way we "think" we look and not how we actually look.

I'm not happy with the way I look. But it's funny because I will look back on pictures from the healthiest I have ever been and think why can't I look like that again but then I recall those times I looked that great and I was still so hard on myself when I had a rockin' body!!! We are definitely our toughest critics, focus on your successes and let them motivate you for more:)

I was the same way. I was 114 lbs at 5'5" and even then wore a t-shirt over my swimsuits. I NEVER wore a shirt that didn't cover my stomach even when wearing a pair of jeans and my shorts were always on the long side. Man what I would do to have that body back LOL. I do believe we "at least most of us" see ourselves the way we "think" we look and not how we actually look.

agreed ! i was so self conscious in HS and college and always thought I was BIG and now i look at those pics and i would kill to look like that again, and i am getting there! you are always going to see your own flaws! but no need!

Thank you ... each and every one of you.

Your comments are very kind. And you're all inspiring. I see that each of you has come such a long way! Some of you have even been up there near where I was/am. That's encouraging.

I just wish I could recognize my own hard work and progress as easily as I can see it in everyone else. Somehow what I do is never "good enough." I work in the mental health field ... maybe I do need to see a therapist, it'd be as easy as walking around the corner into an office at lunch time :laugh:

Thanks again ... you're really appreciated.

Honestly, I don't know how anyone can go through such a life altering change without needing some kind of therapeutic help whether it be from a medical professional or very supportive understanding friends.