Back handed compliments from friends...why are some women so

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  • donicagalek
    donicagalek Posts: 526
    Her boyfriend is cheating on her.

    Or at least she thinks he is. For some reason she feels EXTREMELY unattractive. Your weight loss just adds to it and she wants you to feel as insecure and miserable as she does (hence the whole telling your bf about the gym comments). Misery loves company.

    Honestly, she's probably not jealous of you for losing weight. She's insecure for some reason and doesn't know of any way to make herself feel special. It's easier to try to bring everyone around her to her level of crap.
  • BunnybeeJG
    BunnybeeJG Posts: 344 Member
    Her boyfriend is cheating on her.

    Or at least she thinks he is. For some reason she feels EXTREMELY unattractive. Your weight loss just adds to it and she wants you to feel as insecure and miserable as she does (hence the whole telling your bf about the gym comments). Misery loves company.

    Honestly, she's probably not jealous of you for losing weight. She's insecure for some reason and doesn't know of any way to make herself feel special. It's easier to try to bring everyone around her to her level of crap.

    that that's probably it... that she at least thinks she's not good enough and he's probably cheating... or maybe he's made comments about you in private or she overheard something and feels like she's about to lose him.
    either way it seems more like a personal thing against herself just coming out in making everyone else feel inadequate. If she were completely secure in her realtionship or in herself then she probably wouldn't be that way. unless of course she is just a fake btch.
  • SammyLynn13
    SammyLynn13 Posts: 13
    Honey I'm right there with you. Sometimes I wish I had more guy friends. They are more laid back and supportive. Sometimes women are just a pain in the *kitten*. If they aren't the ones reaping the benefits than they are jealous and act like b*tches.
  • petithamu
    petithamu Posts: 582 Member
    Oh hell nah girl!! there would be some cat fighting up in there if it was me!!
    I have not had female friends since I left college back in 2006!! my 2 sisters dont even know how I look now!..sisters can be bad too...lol...
    about facebook I keep a personal one with my face on it only no body pics for family...but I have a fitness facebook to meet like minded people there no friends or fam....but I have lost a "friend" on my fitness FB cuz of my success i guess she wrote in a message "im jealous" and rarely hear from her when it use to be everyday...:(

    we women are something!! :ohwell:

    Girl you crack me up....and believe me, I started hissing in my head!

    Exactly...women...bleh...hehe
  • petithamu
    petithamu Posts: 582 Member
    ps: once you reach your goal weight, wear the sexiest, flashiest thing you have in front of her, so she can be even more of a *****, if she's going to envy you for losing weight we might as well turn her green .
    dont cha think? (;

    Oh I am so doing that....hahaha, good idea!
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    As for the touching-up comment, I'd say "Oh, well my boyfriend loves me just the way I am. I don't feel like I have to fake-up for him." *insert kiss and smirk.*
  • MyNameIsNotBob
    MyNameIsNotBob Posts: 565 Member
    Oh, women are so hard sometimes. Just deflate the urge to compete and realize that she's portraying her own insecurities.

    It doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

    I had a friend express some jealousy toward me, and it turned into a big "I want to be noticed, too" pity party. I had no idea what to do or say.
  • Bermudabarbie
    Bermudabarbie Posts: 568 Member
    I just had a short visit with my sister and brother in law, my nephew and his wife, and my nephews children.. I have a new hair cut and a darker color, I have lost a good 5 pounds since I last saw my nephew and his wife (and they BOTH could use MFP but refuse to give it a try), and not one of them said one thing!

    I get more compliments from the Barristers at Starbucks than I get from my family! It is a strange world!
  • MyNameIsNotBob
    MyNameIsNotBob Posts: 565 Member

    I get more compliments from the Barristers at Starbucks than I get from my family! It is a strange world!

    Sometimes it's b/c they see you so often (family and friends). Sometimes it's b/c they just don't want you to think that they didn't think you looked great before.
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