Do you encounter these types??
beahawk
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Why do people who aren't concerned about eating healthier make such a big deal when you're trying to be conscious about what goes into your body?
I bring this up because I was out at a business dinner last night and it was brought up that I was into exercising and on the whole health thing. I ordered a decent meal - grilled fish, rice, and sweet potatoe and didn't have any of the rolls...etc. But this guy at the table kept bringing up the fact that he eats what he wants and when you're about to "kick the bucket" you're not going to be thinking about healthy food but you'll be thinking of the food you should've eaten - like burgers, fries, blah, blah.
I'm thinking that if i'm on my deathbed the last thing I'm thinking about is the food that I should've eaten...anywho that's my rant for the day...
If you don't want to eat healthy, fine but don't make me feel like I'm not "living" life to the fullest because I choose another path....
I bring this up because I was out at a business dinner last night and it was brought up that I was into exercising and on the whole health thing. I ordered a decent meal - grilled fish, rice, and sweet potatoe and didn't have any of the rolls...etc. But this guy at the table kept bringing up the fact that he eats what he wants and when you're about to "kick the bucket" you're not going to be thinking about healthy food but you'll be thinking of the food you should've eaten - like burgers, fries, blah, blah.
I'm thinking that if i'm on my deathbed the last thing I'm thinking about is the food that I should've eaten...anywho that's my rant for the day...
If you don't want to eat healthy, fine but don't make me feel like I'm not "living" life to the fullest because I choose another path....
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Healthy Life = Longer Life (generally) so........he is just........misinformed? lol Keep doing what you're doing!
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You should have pointed out that if he keeps eating that way, he'll probably be on his deathbed a lot sooner than you will.0
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People will aways think how they live is better. Keep doing what youre doing. Im sure your life will end up being one thats more fulfilling.0
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HA i hate that, not my immediate family but family and friends will be like, oh come on live a little, its like I am!! i wont be if i eat that saturated mess! lol0
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Well he will be kicking the bucket long before you then
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I know the feeling. People do that because they are insecure, and most don't want to see another person succeed or do well because it brings to light there own shortcomings. It takes will power they don't have to make the right choices .
I do not drink, not even socially, and it is not because of any high believes
It's just that I don't want something changing my mindset or cognitive skills. But I hear all the time " lighten up and have fun" . But I get "high" on life!!!! These are the same people who can't/ won't find FUN in hiking, canoeing, rock climbing, skydiving and all the other things I would rather do.
GOOD JOB and stand your ground.0 -
I think that, in general, when you take care of yourself, it causes the slightest twinges of guilt in those who don't. And we all know that hateration typically comes from envy. So, they try to make themselves feel as though THEY are making the better choices.
Yes, we all die someday... but I don't want that day to be sooner rather than later. Duh.0 -
He is just jealous of your drive and self control. :-) I have people that I work with exactly like that. *sigh*0
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If it was me i would be thinking about my life and my family not damn i should have had that extra pizza.
I am sure when your life flashes before your eyes you do not see all the food you have eaten but the experiences you have had.
Being healthy lets me have better experiences simple0 -
Without meaning to, you made him feel guilty... so he felt the need to justify his poor choices. Just be proud you are making good choices... and maybe some of that will rub of on people like that.0
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That is precisely why I never bring up why I choose to eat what I do. When someone says (and invariably they do) "Why are you eating that? Live it up! Have a steak! etc. etc." I just tell them that I actually prefer the fish, the sweet potato, whatever. I tell them that a well prepared piece of fish is something I can't have at home so I like to order fish in restaurants. They usually can't argue with that.0
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Keep doing what you are doing. He will probably kick the bucket long before you.0
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Some people believe just b/c they are skinny or don't gain weight easily they can eat whatever junk they wanna eat.
Which is not true!
Food is fuel but we made it into more. Treating your body well will be good in the long wrong b/c you get to live a longer and healthier life. Wait until you're 60 and still doing everything you want and he'll be fragile and not able to do much b/c of his health.
Ignorance is not bliss0 -
He just feels bad for eating to unhealthy so he tries to justify it.0
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the guy's comment was ridiculous. a. what the hell does he care what you are eating b. he could be complimenting you on making healthy choices and lifestyle. c. i would say if he's stuffing his face with crap, he's gonna be on his death bed sooner rather than later.
keep up the healthy living! don't let him drag you down.0 -
Without meaning to, you made him feel guilty... so he felt the need to justify his poor choices. Just be proud you are making good choices... and maybe some of that will rub of on people like that.
The crazy thing is that I didn't bring it up - someone else did. But he prob did feel a little guilty. That's why I try to keep things to myself so I won't put my opinions or actions on others (if that makes sense) 0 -
I've literally told someone at one point, "Life really IS too short. I agree people should indulge and die happy. Then when they're dead, I'll be doin' push-ups on their graves."0
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I wonder how happy his life will be to live with heart disease, diabetes, etc. Your choices give quality AND quantity to your life. He may enjoy that pizza, but it's hard to actually enjoy life with a box of medications and an oxygen tank to tote around!0
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I hear ya! I had the same trouble with some friends the other day...I am trying to live a healthier lifestyle and I felt like I was getting picked on because I won't eat junk food all the time. I don't have the luxury of a fast metabolism either as some of them do so I just felt kinda down after that night's conversation. I thought they would be excited that I wanted to be healthy but instead there was no support
Sucky sucky... 0 -
I work with a lot of haters. I eat right (most of the time), work out 7 days a week and drink plenty of water. I either get that i am vain and thats why i do this or they tell me that they are already fat and theres nothing changing it. I invite them to join me when I walk up the flights (10 flights) of stairs to get to our floor and they usually tell me that i am trying to kill them. i feel like responding with, "no, you are killing yourself."
yesterday, i gave into them and had a burger and fries for lunch. i felt guilty because i let them win. today i am having a healthy lunch. I am no longer going to let them hurt my feelings for living a healthy lifestyle.0 -
When he's dying prematurely because he eats garbage, I'm sure he'll be on his deathbed wishing he had eaten better so that he's not on his deathbed...0
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The other side of the coin is you get the people who eat super healthy and clean,and all you hear from them is how much longer they will live than you blah blah blah
I have heard crap from the people who eat nothing but crap and those that eat super healthy (im somewhere in between)0 -
Yep, like many others already stated, it's guilt. No, you didn't inflict guilt on him, he did it to himself, but then had to try and justify himself so that he could pass the guilt to you. Hence, when your dying...
He has a point, who wants to go through life missing out on enjoyable foods? but he missed the boat, it's not about missing out, it's about enjoying in moderation, self control, and being in charge of the foods, not the foods in charge.
This was a good rant, one many of us feel, and not just over foods. In my opinion, this same philosophy can be applied to many things. In our own way, I think many of us have "learned" from society, to find ways to justify what we want instead of going with what we know. For some of us, that's why we are here, to undo the damage done, and to break free from guilt and or justifying our wrong decisions.0 -
You should have pointed out that if he keeps eating that way, he'll probably be on his deathbed a lot sooner than you will.
My thoughts exactly!0 -
If he is referring to giving up EVERYTHING 100% of the time then yes, I agree with him.
However, walking around with extra weight, lack of confidence and lack of energy from poor nutrition and lack of exercise may keep you alive to 80 just like living well but it's not a very enjoyable 80 years.
Its give and take and that was a very stupid person you were speaking with, don't take it to heart.
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I work with a lot of haters. I eat right (most of the time), work out 7 days a week and drink plenty of water. I either get that i am vain and thats why i do this or they tell me that they are already fat and theres nothing changing it. I invite them to join me when I walk up the flights (10 flights) of stairs to get to our floor and they usually tell me that i am trying to kill them. i feel like responding with, "no, you are killing yourself."
yesterday, i gave into them and had a burger and fries for lunch. i felt guilty because i let them win. today i am having a healthy lunch. I am no longer going to let them hurt my feelings for living a healthy lifestyle.
It's amazing how the second you start doing something healthy, someone has to put you down. A few years back I went from 181 to 151.5 (I only remember that because I never could break that 30 pound mark!), and I still had another 10 or 15 pounds to lose. I was definitely much thinner than I was when I started but didn't have a rockin' body or anything since I hadn't exercised to lose weight. Anyhow, my sister-in-law saw me for the first time after my weight loss and was like, "Don't start looking like Nicole Ritchie, ok?" (At the time Nicole Ritchie was scary-skinny.) I couldn't believe what a backhanded comment it was, especially since I wasn't even close to being super skinny or anything, nor would the additional 10-15 pound weight loss have made me that way. At my height 160 is the bottom of the overweight category, so I wasn't that far into the normal weight category...
But yeah, haters keep hatin' to make themselves feel better, whether it be about weight loss, academic or professional success, family, etc. You just gotta keep your head up and keep on keepin' on :happy:0 -
Geesh...what a good way for him to deflect his bad eating habits by trying to make it sound like you "aren't living".
One of the reasons TO eat healthy is to really live...so this guy is just living with a guilty conscience and it's easier to poke at you than at himself.
Just ignore it...yours and only your opinion is what matters! :flowerforyou:0 -
Some people believe just b/c they are skinny or don't gain weight easily they can eat whatever junk they wanna eat.
Which is not true!
Food is fuel but we made it into more. Treating your body well will be good in the long wrong b/c you get to live a longer and healthier life. Wait until you're 60 and still doing everything you want and he'll be fragile and not able to do much b/c of his health.
Ignorance is not bliss
Ugh, I used to work with this lady who was super skinny, but she smoked like a chimney, tanned at the tanning salon until she was orange, ate garbage (fast food every day for lunch), and drank two, yes, TWO 64-oz containers of regular Pepsi every day (she had a big cup that she would refill each morning at 7-11 and then refill again at lunch). She would go on and on about how much she could eat and never gain weight, and she wore the tiniest little miniskirts she could find (mind you, this was a 60-year-old woman who should know that at any age microskirts are not professional attire). I'd rather be 300 pounds than be or look like her. Skinny does not necessarily equal healthy, and I wish people would stop pushing that on people who aren't skinny!0 -
i haven't had anyone pull that stuff on me yet - no social life, no coworkers, supportive family. . .
but if anyone ever does try to say something about the way i choose to eat, i'll say what i say when people tell me how to rear my son: "Hey! i don't give YOU *kitten* for your life choices. what gives you the right to give ME *kitten* for mine?0 -
The other side of the coin is you get the people who eat super healthy and clean,and all you hear from them is how much longer they will live than you blah blah blah
I have heard crap from the people who eat nothing but crap and those that eat super healthy (im somewhere in between)
^This! Since I am pretty 'middle of the road' in terms of food (yes i love eating quinoa and broccoli, but I also love fried chicken and waffles and bourbon) I really take care not to lecture people about food or play the food police.
Since I've been trying to improve my habits, however, I have noticed that some people are just really defensive around me. I find it extremely disheartening b/c I am not saying anything or giving looks or making tsk-tsk sounds - NOTHING - just minding my own business and living my life.
:explode: The thing that makes my brain want to explode is that people love pointing out those news features to me where someone who lived a super healthy lifestyle died at a young age from cancer anyways, or got into a freak accident. I find it idiotic that anyone would want to pick a silent fight w/ me like that.
Can I promise you that you will feel better and that your health will improve if you eat a little more healthily and move around a bit more? No I can't promise you anything, but I can promise you that nothing will improve if you don't get off your azz and TRY!!! :mad: :explode: :noway: :laugh:0
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