I Refuse...
ari_27
Posts: 88 Member
This is me venting...
I refuse to be made feel guilty for wanting to eat healthy foods instead of stuffing myself without being hungry.
I'm sick and tired of people looking at me weird or judging me for trying to take care of myself. Being home for the summer reminds me of why it is that I do better when I live by myself in college. There I can eat whatever I want, make my healthy foods without someone looking over my shoulder criticizing or commenting on what I eat.
YES..I eat healthy! Yes, I refuse to eat processed and unhealthy foods because, guess what? I like myself! I want to take care of my body and make sure I put the healthiest things available. If that means I have to go out and get my own foods and make it myself, then so be it!
Just yesterday I went shopping with my mother and sister, and when we were trying stuff on, they looked at me wide-eyed..."wow..you've lost so much weight...I'm worried about you..."
You're worried about me!? I'm 5'3 and 130 lb..this is NORMAL weight. I used to carry extra weight in the form of 145 lb. I'm worried about YOU and the unhealthy choices you make, but I don't say anything bc i belive in the phrase 'live and let live'
Sorry this is long, I've had a rough day with family tempting me to eat and I cracked and ALMOST went on a binge, instead i went for a jog and felt better...now I have to vent and get it out of my system. I'm not gonna let all my hard work go to waste while I'm home. I will be strong and do this for me.
May this be the last time I be made feel guilty for doing this for myself BECAUSE I love myself.
I refuse to be made feel guilty for wanting to eat healthy foods instead of stuffing myself without being hungry.
I'm sick and tired of people looking at me weird or judging me for trying to take care of myself. Being home for the summer reminds me of why it is that I do better when I live by myself in college. There I can eat whatever I want, make my healthy foods without someone looking over my shoulder criticizing or commenting on what I eat.
YES..I eat healthy! Yes, I refuse to eat processed and unhealthy foods because, guess what? I like myself! I want to take care of my body and make sure I put the healthiest things available. If that means I have to go out and get my own foods and make it myself, then so be it!
Just yesterday I went shopping with my mother and sister, and when we were trying stuff on, they looked at me wide-eyed..."wow..you've lost so much weight...I'm worried about you..."
You're worried about me!? I'm 5'3 and 130 lb..this is NORMAL weight. I used to carry extra weight in the form of 145 lb. I'm worried about YOU and the unhealthy choices you make, but I don't say anything bc i belive in the phrase 'live and let live'
Sorry this is long, I've had a rough day with family tempting me to eat and I cracked and ALMOST went on a binge, instead i went for a jog and felt better...now I have to vent and get it out of my system. I'm not gonna let all my hard work go to waste while I'm home. I will be strong and do this for me.
May this be the last time I be made feel guilty for doing this for myself BECAUSE I love myself.
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I'm so very proud of you! If they don't like what you say or do, tell them to frak off! Or more politely tell them to mind their own business & that maybe they should follow your example. :-D
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Wow! Just reading the list of topics today, this seems to be a hot topic for a lot of folks! Good for you for sticking to what works for you. You only have to be accountable to yourself!0
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Maybe it's time to revisit that belief? After all, they aren't pulling any punches when they're criticising you!You're worried about me!? I'm 5'3 and 130 lb..this is NORMAL weight. I used to carry extra weight in the form of 145 lb. I'm worried about YOU and the unhealthy choices you make, but I don't say anything bc i belive in the phrase 'live and let live'
No need to be nasty or unkind, but next time they say they're worried about your weight, you could express surprise and tell them that you are a healthy weight and actually - though you didn't want to bring it up yourself - you're worried about them.0 -
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Maybe it's time to revisit that belief? After all, they aren't pulling any punches when they're criticising you!You're worried about me!? I'm 5'3 and 130 lb..this is NORMAL weight. I used to carry extra weight in the form of 145 lb. I'm worried about YOU and the unhealthy choices you make, but I don't say anything bc i belive in the phrase 'live and let live'
No need to be nasty or unkind, but next time they say they're worried about your weight, you could express surprise and tell them that you are a healthy weight and actually - though you didn't want to bring it up yourself - you're worried about them.
You are right. Next time it comes up I will speak up and tell them off, it's ridiculous how society tries to make you feel bad for doing good things for yourself, but oh, you eat unhealthy no one says "hey maybe you should stop and eat vegetables instead"
Ridiculous...I guess it's a hot topic today bc of easter and family gatherings....ah, anyways, thank you all for the support, it's good to know there are people out there that get it. Happy Easter!0 -
Ari, somehow families always seem to "push our buttons", don't they? It is rough to be home with your parents when you have been off on your own at college. Rather than go on the offensive, I would try to talk about how good you feel at your current weight and fitness level, and how good you feel when you eat a lot of fresh fruit and veggies etc. Deep down, your mother and sister may be feeling slightly guilty that they are eating "unhealthy" food, while you are preparing your salads or whatever. As I assume that it was probably difficult for you to get on the path to good nutrition and weight loss, it will probably be equally hard for your family to change their habits. Just quietly go about eating healthy and lead by example.0
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The one thing we can't choose is our family so we must learn to take the good with the bad and under it all believe it or not they say what they say because they love you. I know it does not make it any easier to hear ALL THE TIME, my advice is be a duck and let it roll off your back knowing you are doing what is both best for you and what you want to do. Keep it up you are in the home streech.0
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Sorry you got stressed out. Of course I don't know them, but your mom and your sister may just feel genuinely concerned about you. And, they may think you weigh less then you actually do. Or, they may not realize what an ideal healthy weight for a woman your height and frame should be. Either way, it is not easy to feel like you have to justify yourself all the time.
I think rather then feeling agitated when you spend time with your family and friends, I would come up with a polite, but to the point response. Let them know that you are tired of the comments and that you look forward to spending time with them, but are reluctant to do so because they always find a way to make you feel bad about your choice to live a healthy life. Sometimes you have to set boundaries with family members. I have had to with mine and my husbands over other issues. Stand firm and hold your ground. If you do, they will eventually come around. Good luck!0
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