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Lisa, i know its hard to hear, but i think that you should have given your son a big hug cos guess what, He was being SUPPORTIVE in a kiddy sort of way, thats my spin of the said event and i think its a nice one :-) hope that cheered u up. HUGS Lisa.You are here and you are getting you life on track, you have every reason to be proud :flowerforyou: Hope you feel better

Your son loves you very much and only wants you to have what you want -- weight loss. Give your little guy a hug and use his words as a wake up call....not that you're too fat but that he hears too much about how unhappy you are with yourself.

Awe, the innocent honesty of children! Now would be the perfect opportunity to teach him about tact and sensitivity! So many men grow up not learning that lesson, only to cause grief to the women who are left to teach them as adults. H doesn't know how it makes you feel because he has never experienced it for himself.

I couldn't agree more, having married such a man. His momma died when he was just a kid so she wasn't around to teach him. He has gotten much better over the years but you can't really put those words back once they are out there. Having said that, I have had to teach some of the same lessons to my 13 year old daughter and she has become one of my greatest encouragers...now that she knows that any sentance that starts out " Not to hurt your feelings, mom..." either needs to be rephrased or unsaid altogether.

We are our own worst enemy when it comes to our weight and body image huh?! I use to always say that about myselt until my son (5 y.o. at the time) said to me, "Mom why do you always say you look fat?" You don't look fat to me!" That stopped me dead in my tracks! I was painting a picture in their minds and it wasn't a good one. I have gotten much better (10 years later) at watching how I talk about myself and my body. (Just in time since we have a daughter now too). I try my best to use words like 'I want to be healthier', and " I want something healthy" instead of referring to myself as "fat' or describing food as 'bad for me'. It is a difficult thing to change, I've been battling this demon for about 30 years! I grew up in a family that always commented on weight whenever they saw you. You were too fat, too skinny, must be sick, doing drugs, etc. I would encourage you to use this as a learning opportunity and sit down with your son. Explain to him where your outburst came from and talk about the steps you are taking towards a healthier you. You will be glad you did! My biggest cheerleaders on this journey are my immediate family (3 kids and hubby!). I have also managed to make a positive impact on the very people who distorted my own body image growing up. Good luck to you!

Oh Lisa. I know it's hard to hear that kind of stuff from your family especially your babies! But if you talk about losing weight all the time.....of course he was going to say that! You say you want to lose weight...the commercial says its for people who want to lose weight.....the math in a little kids head is pretty easy! At least, that's what I told myself when my 5 year old told me "mommy you should buy that" about super slim or some crazy weight loss pills on a commercial!!! So, I have been there girl. And it does hurt. But just remember your kids are learning what you live. And another poster was right, he thought he was saying something good, something you would like, supportive. Something that would get you what you want....to lose weight! Hang in there, keep at it. You are doing great! ((hugs))