Obsession with judging others

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  • lorib642
    lorib642 Posts: 1,942 Member
    emily_stew wrote: »
    lorib642 wrote: »
    emily_stew wrote: »
    Why did OP resurrect his own thread after more than a month of inactivity?
    I wondered, judgmentally.

    Maybe it took him awhile to think of a comeback?

    Maybe! I usually come up with my best retorts and one liners long after the actual event.

    Me, too
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    emily_stew wrote: »
    lorib642 wrote: »
    emily_stew wrote: »
    Why did OP resurrect his own thread after more than a month of inactivity?
    I wondered, judgmentally.

    Maybe it took him awhile to think of a comeback?

    Maybe! I usually come up with my best retorts and one liners long after the actual event.

    LOL

  • Deborah105
    Deborah105 Posts: 183 Member
    edited October 2014
    +1
    Everyone judges. Even if you don't think you do, you're probably doing it a lot more often than you think.

    This is why I wear sunglasses. No one can tell. B)
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    What’s the difference?

    Discernment may seem like judgment, but the difference between these two approaches to life is significant. The dictionary definitions of the two terms shed some light.

    Judgment: “an opinion or estimate, criticism or censure, power of comparing or deciding”. Judgment implies a power differential – I perceive myself to have power over you when I judge you (for example, “you’re a loser!”). Judgment feeds the ego’s deception of being better (or worse) than someone or something else. Judgment assumes that the person judging has the power and right to determine what is good or bad in general, not just from their point of view. It usually comes from a reactive place inside of us, like a knee-jerk when the doctor strikes the mallet on that joint – it’s unconscious.

    Discernment, however, is a more personal and conscious approach. It’s the cognitive ability of a person to distinguish what is appropriate or inappropriate. With discernment we make good choices for ourselves, and for the good of others. Webster’s dictionary says that to discern is to “separate (a thing) mentally from another or others; recognize as separate or different” and “to perceive or recognize; make out clearly”. Discernment is described as “keen perception; insight; acumen”.

    Sorry, I have no link for this article. Snagged it from a Yoga piece on Viveka. :)

  • drgmac
    drgmac Posts: 716 Member
    Seek first to understand and then be understood. Most of the people I have met here have been great, but a few could use a lesson in tact, diplomacy, and the use of a filter.
  • blossomingbutterfly
    blossomingbutterfly Posts: 743 Member
    VelveteenArabian wrote: »
    EVERYONE judges. It's as natural as breathing.

    THIS
  • TNDamisi
    TNDamisi Posts: 45 Member
    radimage wrote: »
    What is this obsession with judging others? I think we've all been out of high school for a while.

    Aren't we here to support each other?


    If working for the government has taught me anything - it's how to judge others. We're better at it than the mean girls at your high school with a list of all your weak spots.

    But seriously, we all judge. Most of us have the good sense to keep it to ourselves because really, who gives a *kitten* otherwise?
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,364 Member
    I'm judging you for judging me for judging.
  • Oi_Sunshine
    Oi_Sunshine Posts: 819 Member
    Making judgments isn't necessarily a bad thing. We judge whether or not it's safe to cross a street, etc. We can judge someones actions and decide whether it is healthy to be part of their lives, but not the worth of the person who made them.
    Stop judging judgment, dude.
  • SwashBlogger
    SwashBlogger Posts: 395 Member
    Yes, you are welcome to judge anything and everything. Just temper that with the fact that it is your viewpoint and therefore who cares?
  • radimage
    radimage Posts: 99
    I served 8 years in the USMC, and have worked in health care for over 20 years helping others...and YES, there is WAY too much negativity here. MFP should be a place of positive reinforcement, not a place where people judge each others profile photos.
  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    Obsession? ;)
  • lorib642
    lorib642 Posts: 1,942 Member
    radimage wrote: »
    I served 8 years in the USMC, and have worked in health care for over 20 years helping others...and YES, there is WAY too much negativity here. MFP should be a place of positive reinforcement, not a place where people judge each others profile photos.

    I am not sure what you mean. Like in games (would you blank the person above you type of thing?)
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Personally, I find judging others in negative light makes me feel much better about myself and my life. Can't be all bad.
  • SuninVirgo
    SuninVirgo Posts: 255 Member
    Oh Gwad! Reading this thread answers your question OP. You're asking the wrong crowd! Yes, we are supposed to help one another
  • stephanieluvspb
    stephanieluvspb Posts: 997 Member
    lorib642 wrote: »
    radimage wrote: »
    I served 8 years in the USMC, and have worked in health care for over 20 years helping others...and YES, there is WAY too much negativity here. MFP should be a place of positive reinforcement, not a place where people judge each others profile photos.

    I am not sure what you mean. Like in games (would you blank the person above you type of thing?)
    Yeah this. If your upset for getting judged in the "would you bang, date or pass" thread maybe you should stop going to the chit chat section. And not everybody is here to support you, some people are here for themselves, not complete strangers

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