Biggest bridesmaid at the wedding.

Use this to get your motivation going. Maybe you won't lose all the weight, but you can sure lose a good chunk of it. Don't delay, get going and you'll be happy you did, wedding or not. I wish you all the best, and try to be the bridesmaid with the most beautiful smile on her face.

Aww it's just tough love babe! I'm sure she had good intentions at heart And you don't look "big" by the way! You've got plenty of time to lose weight safely before the wedding, do it for you!

Hi There!

It does seem really rude that she said that, I have recently gotten married and I didn't ask my friends to be my bridesmaids expecting them to change, I asked them because they are the people that I love and wanted them to be part of my day.

You could look at this as a positive in that she asked you regardless and wants you to be part of her day perhaps? Perhaps she didn't mean it to sound so awful, could it be that she is more worried about your health than your appearance? Perhaps not considering the context of her statement.

As far I as I can tell you have a couple of options:

1. Confront her, ask her why she said it, question her motivation in saying it
2. Take it on board, use it to fuel your own motivation and really show her

I would do the latter but then I'm all about bottling it all up - not healthy really! ha ha!

As long as you don't turn this into any sort of self loathing I think you move past it and use it as motivation.

I'm sorry your feelings were hurt and I would be the same, take the positive spin and use it for yourself!

P.S. My Husband has a real knack of making me feel a bit crap about my diet and progress, unintentionally of course and I use that as a 'I'll show him' mantra when I'm exercising and choosing food!

Good luck and you can do it!

On one hand, I'd say brush it off and chalk it up to early Bridezilla.

On the otherhand... if she's being bridezilla ALREADY, do you really want to be a bridesmaid? It shouldn't matter how much weight you need to lose. If she wants you in the wedding, it should be because you are who you are.

That said, even though I've never had the honor of being in anyone's wedding party, including both of my siblings... I'd probably tell her, sorry, I'm not interested and then lose the weight before the wedding anyway.

Have you told her in the past "I don't want to be the biggest bridesmaid.." or other phrases like that? If so she may have thought her conversation with your sister was perfectly in line with your desires... It was still crappy, but people don't always think... Let it go, there are plenty of things worthy of your time and attention, this one just isn't.

I was in a wedding where I was definitely the biggest bridesmaid (red dress in profile...) The next largest girl was a size 6... I was a size 14-16 at 5'2", when she asked me to be in the wedding, then I got pregnant. I asked her to get out of the wedding since she had 11 other bridesmaids, but she was the maid of honor at my wedding and couldn't turn her down when she said how important it was for her. By the wedding I was 9 months pregnant... In a candy apple red dress... I remind her often how much I must love her... Years later when she was pregnant swollen and feeling like a blob, she apologized crying for making me do it... We had a good cry/laugh over that!

snowflake954 wrote: »

Use this to get your motivation going. Maybe you won't lose all the weight, but you can sure lose a good chunk of it. Don't delay, get going and you'll be happy you did, wedding or not. I wish you all the best, and try to be the bridesmaid with the most beautiful smile on her face.

+1

just set a goal to lose 1lb a week from TODAY.

less he said/ she said
and just do it for yourself.

I also give The Bride the benefit of the doubt. The Bride always wants what is best for all the people in the wedding. Wait until you see The Bride at the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, dress selection, etc... then you will understand. The clash between the fantasy running in their head and the reality of putting on the wedding will have her in tears more than once before this process has been completed. Time to leave The Bride to her fantasy and talk about reality.

70lbs in that amount of time is totally doable. Enter your weight loss as 1 lb per week into MFP and let's get started. Note: This weight loss is totally about you. Here are a couple of thoughts about getting to your goal.

1. Get someone else to do your weigh-in once a week. This has really worked for me. My Fitness gal at work has me show up in gym clothes once a week for a weight-in and a discussion. You can also check with your doctor's office. They are normally quite happy to do your weigh-in. The being accountable to an outsider for my weight has worked wonders for me.

2. You have to make a change in your diet. All other things being equal, simply logging all your food, water, and exercise into MFP is a great first step. As someone noted, I play MFP like a game. I try to get with-in 100 calories of my target every day.

At this point, you are actually done. Weight loss is all about the calorie deficit. If you log faithfully and keep within your limits, you will lose weight.

However, fitness is not simply about weight loss. You have to add the second part of the equation which comes down to moving more. I have set myself a goal of 7 x 45 minutes of cardio each week. What I didn't know when I started was the exact form. I started with walking on the treadmill and changed over to bicycle riding.

1. I picked up a Fitbit Zip to keep track of how much I move each day. A good goal is to try for 10k steps in each day. If I don't do the bike, I try to hit the 10k steps. Note: 10k steps normally means that I have to take one of my 45 minute movement periods as a long walk. Weather has turned perfect for walking.

2. Aqua class is an excellent form of movement. Very low impact on the joint and the resistence of the water works for exercise. I totally support keeping up this activity.

3. If you need to, find something you enjoy. Something you like is always better than something you simply do.

If you wish, add me as a friend. I've dedicated myself to trying to log stuff into MFP for 1000 days straight. That means I will be logging until after the wedding is over.

If you've been dreading being a bridesmaid, back out now. It's a lot of work and can be a pain even when you're 100% enthusiastic.

Your sister should not be spreading he-said-she-said crap. Let her know that she has the option of standing up for you or letting things go, but she is not your rumor messenger. Tone doesn't convey, intention does not convey, and it's really immature to spread that sort of thing.

Go back to your aqua class when you can and enjoy it.

As for the weight loss, you actually have a really feasible goal. I went from 215 to 165 (50 lbs lost) in 9 months/255 days.

My thoughts - whatever motivates you to get going and keep at it!!

Nearly 5 years ago, when I decided to finally get the weight off, I announced it to my family and my brother just rolled is eyes and said "here we go again". While he was right, I'd done several different diets with no success, it still ticked me off and motivated me to prove to him that I WAS serious this time around. During the first couple of years, when I'd hit a plateau and get discouraged, I just had to think of him and my determination was bolstered.

I'd encourage you, at some point, to find your own motivations though (health, mobility, etc) as this may not last the whole way through. Do this for you!

Good luck and take care