Angry, Depressed, and wanting to QUIT!

Dont give up. I started MFP in October and have only lost 16lbs. I am however losing an average of 1lbs every 3-4 months. I can however see that my body is looking better and I feel better. Start measuring yourself instead of weighing.

I see a big difference and your face looks like a different person. Keep going and plugging along!!!

First off you're a gorgeous woman just the way you are!
Secondly, we all feel the way you do every once in a while during this journey. Just give yourself credit for the amazing progress you've made. The results will show when they are meant to show.
I am almost 6 feet tall. It takes so much weight loss for me to barely tell! I know what you're feeling.
Just keep thinking about all the wonderful changes going on inside! The outside is only one small part of who we are. You're on your way to becoming a healthier, happier and more confident person. Be proud of yourself!!!
HUGS

I see it in your face!! congrats!

Doing Great! Keep up the work!

Go get the book .... THE Slight Edge. Read 10 pages everyday.

Being angry and depressed will get you further in the hole.... and make yourself more misserable. Look at YOUR accomplishments and know that you can do more. You can reach your goal. So, fill your mind with positive and do as Tony Horton says.... do your best and forget the rest!

You didn't gain it all over night, it will take time to get it off just like it came on over time. Treat yourself to something nice for your reward on -20 and keep at it! If you give up.... where will that get you????

You can do it, one day, one meal, one workout at a time!

HUGS!

I started exactly where you are now 5'2 187lbs last June 2010. Now I am 139 - dont give up. that 20lbs is a huge difference and the next 20 will be too.

The great thign about being short is every few poundsl ost DOES make a big difference.

I gained 100#'s & only went up 3 sizes - from 14 to 20. A friend of mine gained 25 pounds & went up 2 sizes!!
Why do I bring these 2 examples up? Because they show that everyone's body is different & is going to respond differently & be affected differently than other people's.
I can see the differences between your 2 pictures - in your face, your shoulders, your mid-section... it's there, but it's not extremely pronounced.
Someone posted pictures of themselves after losing only 12 pounds, & there was a significant difference. Why? Because she was kicking butt in a 30day fitness program. The weight is not what caused her to look different, rather the change in her muscle tone.
Have you ever watched Biggest Loser? People losing 30 pounds & they look like they've lost 1/2 their original weight! Again, because of the extreme workouts they are enduring.
So - just like everyone's body is different, so is everyone's weight loss journey. Think about what you are doing it for - and how much you can do right now. I have lost 13 pounds but I am not at a point physically where I can do 90 minutes of intensive cardio... so I keep plugging on, following the plan & watching the weight go down... I haven't dropped a size yet, but I know if I stop now, I never will! And eventually, I'll get to the point where I can TaeBo with the best of them!
You can do it too... don't let yourself get discouraged because your body didn't drop 20 pounds the same way that someone else's did... celebrate the 20 pounds you have lost, & the many more to come!

You lost TWENTY pounds! Be proud of that! That is a big deal!



Make another goal. Lose twenty more pounds and see what happens. Why give up after all the hard work you've done?? Keep going. You can do this. :flowerforyou:

I'm sure you are just being critical of yourself, we all do it. Take a closer look at your pictures and use your criticism positively. What I see? A difference in your face, neck, shoulders, upper arms and thighs. It may not be the PLACES you want to see the difference, but this is only the beginning. The changes you want to see will happen, its just going to take time. And since everyone is different, they will lose weight differently.

Twenty pounds lost is a great accomplishment. Don't give up, you are doing great.

Don't give up!!! You'll be even WAY more angry and depressed once you put all that weight back on! It takes a looooong time to lose weight, and the more weight you have to start with, the more you have to lose to make it really noticeable. Losing weight isn't a sprint, it's a marathon. This is a lifelong journey of eating right, and exercise. Just keep at it, and after a while, you'll have the results you want.

People here sometimes post the analogy of losing weight like being a roll of paper towel. If you're a roll of paper towel, and you remove a single sheet, would you notice? How many sheets would you need to remove before everyone around you would see that the roll is now visibly smaller? Once you get really close to your goal weight, and you only have 10 sheets left, if you remove several, it'll be obvious.

I'm in the same boat...I don't see a difference but everyone else does and then some people never even mention it...Just stick to it you will be glad you did...AND TWENTY pounds is AWESOME so pick your head up and cheers to the next twenty

I've felt the same way before....I bet most of us have. 20 lbs. is a huge accomplishment...one that I have yet to achieve! You seem to carry your weight very well and are nicely proportioned. Maybe that is why you do not see a big difference in your appearance. You will, so hang in there : )

Other people can see it though! Overall, you do look slimmer, legs, arms, face, torso, you look like you've slimmed some all the way around! Keep it up and don't get too discouraged! You're already started, give it a bit longer!

I can see it as well. You are worth the effort to keep going. No matter your goal, you deserve to be healthy. Of course there will be days when you want to chuck it all and say forget it!! But look at how far you've already come....too late to turn back now.



Send me a friend request if you'd like I'll support you every step of the way.

OK, a little tough love here.......
You want to quit because you don't see the results of losing 20 lbs??????? Well that makes sense!
You are still very over weight. I guarantee if you lose more you will see it but it's not only about seeing the results. You are creating a healthier you, living longer for your kids, keeping the cost of heath care down......
There is no reason to stop getting healthier.