I am confused to hell!

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  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    muggzie399 wrote: »
    jkal1979 wrote: »
    muggzie399 wrote: »
    PrizePopple wrote: »
    I'm not on MFP to @ss pat people who are being unhealthy. It's also not my job, nor my place, to tell you that you're hurting yourself. Not unless you ask specifically for opinions.

    I removed someone for asking what was wrong with looking at "thinspo" pictures.

    I removed a few people for collecting friends.

    I'll remove for being under 1200 too. I had a friend who was about to get cut, but they owned up to not eating enough and have been making a very awesome effort to correct that.

    I might also consider removing someone who continuously goes over calories with no obvious intention of correcting it.

    MFP is a tool for me to utilize to make myself healthier, and having people around me that don't have the same goals in mind is counterproductive. End of story.

    This was not a friend request. Everybody has a plan. Was looking for change in mine. Advice being welcome.

    You mentioned that you were losing friends over this, and that is why it is being addressed. Did you reach out to your friends and explain what was going on and that you need help? It's very possible that they thought that you didn't want help and it was easier to unfriend you than to give unsolicited advice and/or support what they believe is an unhealthy way to lose weight.

    Went to quote you and flagged you by mistake. The advice I would receive from these people was directed toward my exercising and buildiung muscle and fat and all the stuff I was not familiar with. They don't consider your time frame being a member. 6 mos. compared to 3 years has a whole different perspective.

    Woo hoo my first flag! B)

    Seriously though, just post up "Hey, I'm wanting to make sure that I'm doing this right and I want to make sure that I'm eating enough while still losing. Does anyone have any suggestions?" Focus the question on your eating and you will get the answers that you are looking for.
  • muggzie399
    muggzie399 Posts: 116 Member
    There are some awesome runners and weight lifters here, no questions asked. There is nowhere I said exercise was not a part of fitness. People do what they are capable of. There are Champion bodybuilders here, that is a choice. Marathon runners, and people who race all the time, again, their choice. I don't know your peeve here. I don't know your friends either.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    You should really ask the people what the deal was.

    I de-friend people who don't log in. I de-friend people I don't hear from. I deleted one person because the constant overeating and lame excuses got me thinking about indulging and I didn't want the influence.

    I doubt any of them even notice. Except for a small handful of people, I'd never notice if someone de-friended me and I'd never care, even if I did notice,

    Let it go. Concentrate on being the healthiest you that you can be. Welcome supporters and the hell with the others. Life is way too short to spend time wondering why someone de-friended you online, lol.
  • ljashley1952
    ljashley1952 Posts: 275 Member
    I'll friend you! I think people defriend people who stop logging in for a month or so. I'm guessing the reason is because they have a long list of 'friends' that they 'like' stuff for and if someone isn't logging in and participating they assume that you have moved on and remove you. I don't think there are many people who would defriend someone who is actively trying just because they didn't meet their goal. This is about support and not about meeting arbitrary goals. Goals can change. Especially someone who has lost the weight and is on maintenence. You should check in at least weekly, so people know you are still around.

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