Angry, Depressed, and wanting to QUIT!

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  • Yankee028
    Yankee028 Posts: 4
    so depressing isn't it. I think I know how you feel.

    When I feel that way, I try to fight back by thinking about the opposite. Imagine if you had gained 20 lbs instead of lost it. But you lost it. Congratulations.

    And if you lost that 20 you can lose 20 more if you want to... so sometimes its about putting one foot in front of the other even when you don't feel like it, and have faith the maths will work. The other thing I tell myself is that regardless of how I felt yesterday at the end of the day, I can make myself feel better today by exercising and eating less junk. That sometimes works.
    Good luck!
  • theresnoeggs
    theresnoeggs Posts: 188 Member
    girl, I know the feeling! I've lost 23 and look EXACTLY the same, I keep telling myself that in 10 more lbs I'll see something. :/
  • Gretchen22276
    Gretchen22276 Posts: 97
    My beautiful friend dont be discouraged! I can see you face is thinner and your waist looks more defined. Your jeans are actually loose by your upper thigh! I can tell. You have a pic taken with the same t shirt and pants in the same doorway every month on the same day and garuntee you will see a difference! Love you!

    And just another thought: I have lost 20 lbs and I'm still wearing the same clothes and in fact because I started out so obese that know one will even notice my weight loss until I hit around 50 lbs lost. Now 20 lbs on my 160 lb mother would be drastic! But on me... Unoticeable. However, that is ok! The point is it is coming off! For both of us!
  • Crystal_Rudolph
    Crystal_Rudolph Posts: 632 Member
    Thank you everyone! After a good cry, some new pants, and an awesome workout at Zumba; I am going to push through. I know that I may have souneded like a baby and whiny to some of you and I am sorry for that...it is just hard sometimes. Plus as my lovely husband reminded me--this is usually the point in the past when I did quit. So if I am changing my lifestyle--then I need to change that part too!!!

    So I decided...My goal weight is 135. So that gives me 52 pounds to lose. After that....I QUIT! But only cause I will be maintaining from them on out! :laugh: Love you all and keep up the good work---you all inspire me!!!
  • mrshen7
    mrshen7 Posts: 2
    Keep in the positive! Don't give up on your goal! Focus on the weight you've already lost, start there! You'll do great!!
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    Grab a twenty pound weight and lugg it around for a day. That is how much you lost. Your 5'2". Us shorties have it harder when it comes to seeing results. Just stick with it and you will see results soon!
  • Phatmendo
    Phatmendo Posts: 1
    Having a lighter body better is just better for so many reasons. Keep it up. Try to keep your eye on the overall prize, which is health, happiness, and longevity for you and your family. Use this as a tool to teach good habits to the people around you and your efforts will have not been in vain.

    BUT I do see a difference.
  • k2d4p
    k2d4p Posts: 441 Member
    I haven't read the other responses. (I am going to give some tough love because I really want to help. Please take this constructively)

    You asked, "what's the point?" I want to address that statement. The "POINT" is your health. I see you picture and it looks like you have kids. The "POINT" is you are an example to them. Would you want them to quit living better if their health and well being is was at stake? I didn't see a real difference in myself until I lost about 30 or so pounds. "Real difference" meaning my clothes started to not fit. The reason most diets fail is because diets don't work. You should change your life. There should be nothing to "go back" to. Think about what advice you would give your kids if they were in your exact situation and follow that advice. It's hard at first, but it's possible. Please stick with it! Good luck!
  • breezymom81
    breezymom81 Posts: 499 Member
    I am the same height and almost the same starting weight...but much like you I bet people are shocked to find out your number. I can see it in your face quite a bit, It will happen really it will. Treat yourself, maybe buy an outfit that is cut just right, like a nice summer dress that can hang around for a bit. Then get your hair done or a mani...treat yourself. The point is to be healthier, and you are!
  • guidnca
    guidnca Posts: 64
    It took me two weeks for the scales to move 2 pounds. I was getting extremely discouraged.
    We have three things we need to look at.
    1.) the scales-they don't lie
    2.) how we feel-when everything else ain't working...sometimes I got to feel my way through it. Do you feel better now? do you have more energy and most days do you feel more confident?
    3.) how we look-this is the last thing, because we are awful judges. My cousin showed me a picture of me in High School I was down to 165. I was skinny. I was in football and cycling, I was lean...in my head I was pudgy. The look we have for ourselves is very deceptive. Sometimes, we need to take a look but it is not the only thing.
  • BflSaberfan
    BflSaberfan Posts: 1,272
    Thank you everyone! After a good cry, some new pants, and an awesome workout at Zumba; I am going to push through. I know that I may have souneded like a baby and whiny to some of you and I am sorry for that...it is just hard sometimes. Plus as my lovely husband reminded me--this is usually the point in the past when I did quit. So if I am changing my lifestyle--then I need to change that part too!!!

    So I decided...My goal weight is 135. So that gives me 52 pounds to lose. After that....I QUIT! But only cause I will be maintaining from them on out! :laugh: Love you all and keep up the good work---you all inspire me!!!

    So glad you are not giving up. I started last summer where you are starting now. If I would have given up I'd be a size 18 and pushing 200lbs again. Instead I am back into the 130's NEVER give up!
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    WOW! Girl I can so see changes in your body, from your face, to your arms, to your thighs, I could go on! Sometimes we're the last to see the changes early on. Like someone shared, get the tape measure out and check the inches because you will likely be AMAZED!

    Keep taking photos even every 5 lbs. if you need too and line them up and keep staring, you'll see it, because it IS there! Try putting the very same shirt on and then look again! :wink:

    Don't quit, there's no place to go back to, you've tasted to the good life, the life of freedom! We've all gone through bouts where we get discouraged and simply don't feel it or don't see a change but others will go on about it to us. Just ride that wave until YOU see it, no one on here would lie to you, if we see changes we share that with another member of MFP. That's what's so cool about this place! It's simply a great place to come for honesty and to guage ourselves!

    Now go out and enjoy your weekend and don't forget to dig out that tape measure!:wink::drinker:

    Becca:heart:
  • annalobdell
    annalobdell Posts: 201 Member
    Don't give up! I think you look great. There is a difference. It is sometimes hard to see the differences in ourselves. I have lost 16 pounds myself and I don't see it either. Keep on keeping on. It took time to gain the weight, it will take time to take it off.
  • TS65
    TS65 Posts: 1,024 Member
    Plus as my lovely husband reminded me--this is usually the point in the past when I did quit. So if I am changing my lifestyle--then I need to change that part too!!!

    How wonderful to have such an insightful hubby!

    Hang in there, sometimes it's frustrating and our "demons" try to over-rule common sense. You look wonderful - and you'll feel even better at 135. :o)
  • janemartin02
    janemartin02 Posts: 2,653 Member
    don`t quit on your self.Our bodies all work different.It`s a progress in the works.
    You can do it.
    jane
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