Hubby wants to gain weight...any ideas how to help?
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Yikes, OP, I see that you are eating 700-900 calories daily. You and your husband both seem to have a pretty unhealthy relationship with food. I think counseling might work better than this forum. At least then you'd feel as though you're being heard. Best of luck to both of you.0
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MrsScott02 wrote: »He doesn't have time to track etc.
Hence why I have to do it lol, plus he doesn't make his own meals. I might make one for him but I will log everything
Can you adopt me? I'd love for you to make all my meals and log them too. Because I work full time with a 2 hour commute every day, have 2 kids under the age of 4, a house to clean, laundry, workout 3 times a week, etc, etc, etc. So that would be awesome. Thanks. As it is, I still find the time to log my food even when my husband cooks.
My point? If he really wants it, he'll find the time. If he doesn't, he won't. Don't force it. He's gotta be the one to commit, not you.
As for him eating more, liquid calories my friend - juice, milk, soda, whatever. Get it in.0 -
MrsScott02 wrote: »He doesn't at the moment because he doesn't have much weight on him. And don't criticise my husband - even if its not what you are meaning to do, it sounds like it.
Don't get all defensive about the critique. Realize that we all put hard work into this game. Day in and day out. .
I will get defensive when it comes to my husband. If you had a wife (I dont know if you do or dont) you would get defensive as well.
I only asked for ideas and have got a good few one but some things are not helping and don't actually read what I have put.
here's the thing- usually people are overly defensive when they are on shakey ground.
You're husband doesn't NEED defending- no one here is "defaming" him. The reality is- you cannot do this for him.
Gaining purposeful weight is WORK.
If he isn't willing to take responsibility- then tough itties- it's not going to happen- he needs to man up and do it himself and stop complaining to you for help if he won't help himself. There is no malice or personal inflection to this comment- it's said completely void of emotion- don't project your frustrations on to it.
Let him be his own person and do the thing.0 -
ah HA- i fixeded the quotes! woot0
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That is literally the best line I have read in 2014.MrsScott02 wrote: »He doesn't at the moment because he doesn't have much weight on him. And don't criticise my husband - even if its not what you are meaning to do, it sounds like it.
Don't get all defensive about the critique. Realize that we all put hard work into this game. Day in and day out. .
I will get defensive when it comes to my husband. If you had a wife (I dont know if you do or dont) you would get defensive as well.
I only asked for ideas and have got a good few one but some things are not helping and don't actually read what I have put.
here's the thing- usually people are overly defensive when they are on shakey ground.
You're husband doesn't NEED defending- no one here is "defaming" him. The reality is- you cannot do this for him.
Gaining purposeful weight is WORK.
If he isn't willing to take responsibility- then tough itties- it's not going to happen- he needs to man up and do it himself and stop complaining to you for help if he won't help himself. There is no malice or personal inflection to this comment- it's said completely void of emotion- don't project your frustrations on to it.
Let him be his own person and do the thing.
I agree.
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YES_ my time this year on this earth was not wasted!!!!!
I AM A HUGE SUCCESS!!! mamma's going to be so proud.
no but really- it's true. LOL I should save it for later.0 -
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Yeah, unfortunately you dropped it in the weight gain section where many won't see it.YES_ my time this year on this earth was not wasted!!!!!
I AM A HUGE SUCCESS!!! mamma's going to be so proud.
no but really- it's true. LOL I should save it for later.
If you do it again somewhere see I won't tell. Shhhhh
Yeah, I call do-over. Your brilliance is wasted if you only leave it here!0 -
Yeah, unfortunately you dropped it in the weight gain section where many won't see it.YES_ my time this year on this earth was not wasted!!!!!
I AM A HUGE SUCCESS!!! mamma's going to be so proud.
no but really- it's true. LOL I should save it for later.
If you do it again somewhere see I won't tell. Shhhhh
Yeah, I call do-over. Your brilliance is wasted if you only leave it here!
except this is one of the few places it actually matters- b/c most people actually listen to WTF is being said.
but yes- we shall keep these in our back pockets for later use in other more widely browsed sections. dropping knowledge on this mofo's everywhere *snicker*0 -
Yeah, unfortunately you dropped it in the weight gain section where many won't see it.YES_ my time this year on this earth was not wasted!!!!!
I AM A HUGE SUCCESS!!! mamma's going to be so proud.
no but really- it's true. LOL I should save it for later.
If you do it again somewhere see I won't tell. Shhhhh
Yeah, I call do-over. Your brilliance is wasted if you only leave it here!
except this is one of the few places it actually matters- b/c most people actually listen to WTF is being said.
but yes- we shall keep these in our back pockets for later use in other more widely browsed sections. dropping knowledge on this mofo's everywhere *snicker*
This site makes me sad...it's why I keep leaving, but getting drawn back into the forums. They're like a train-wreck.0 -
Ah, but friends of those who frequent this section remark how baffled they are and it draws in those who really, really don't need to gain weight.
As ever, I have nothing of any use or consequence to add. My husband needs to gain weight or at least, eat enough to maintain with all his freaky running, which he struggles to do sometimes. Other than reminding him to eat more calorific snacks other than fruit, crab sticks and biscuits, there's not much I can or would do. We are all very busy, but he's a grown man who makes his own decisions about what he puts in his gob.
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Perhaps you should let him take responsibility for his weight gain.0 -
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Some more info would be helpful. His height, weight and approx body fat would be good. Hard to say if 2500 cals is high or average for him
Secondly, does he want to gain muscle, or just "weight".
The rest of this is advice for someone just wanting to add 'weight'. Muscle would be generally the same, but requires weights/resistance training (I won't cover that, since it doesn't sound like that's what he wants)
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Seems that he would like to be 'heavier' (general weight) and seems like this is a general 'like/want' as opposed to a "need/must". For someone without a 'burning desire' to gain weightt, you need to make it really easy for him.
If he was been eating the same pattern of 2500 cals for a long time, I would suggest shunting his cals up by 500 per day. The easiest way is just to get him to drink those calories. An extra Complan (http://www.complan.com/) or similar drink with milk, twice a day will get him those 500 cals (add flaxseed oil/udo's oil if he will take it).
You need to keep it simple for him. 250 extra calories at breakfast via a shake. 250 Calories in the evening. Give that a month. If there is no discernable difference after one month, add another 250 calories at lunch via a packaged complan/nutrition shake.
After a month, if that has made no difference, and he still has a disire to gain 'weight' then consult a doctor/nutritionist (taking along his two month food diary).0
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