Honeymoon Trip - Scared to take off my shirt?
thcguy123
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Our honeymoon is coming up - mexico!
Most of the trip involves swimming in oceans, swimming in cenotes (caves), ziplining into lakes, etc. Uggh - the more I think about it and remember I am fat (obese) and look gross with my shirt off I get scared. I don't wanna be the one guy with his shirt on either. Maybe we should have gone somewhere cold.
I am really trying to just be happy in my own skin and realize who cares what other people think - but it's hard. I know we will just be surrounded by skinny fit people the whole time.
Do skinny people on the beach get grossed out by fat people on the beach showing their stuff?
Most of the trip involves swimming in oceans, swimming in cenotes (caves), ziplining into lakes, etc. Uggh - the more I think about it and remember I am fat (obese) and look gross with my shirt off I get scared. I don't wanna be the one guy with his shirt on either. Maybe we should have gone somewhere cold.
I am really trying to just be happy in my own skin and realize who cares what other people think - but it's hard. I know we will just be surrounded by skinny fit people the whole time.
Do skinny people on the beach get grossed out by fat people on the beach showing their stuff?
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Dude, it's not like half the country isn't obese too. Nobody else will care.0
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Mahahhahh....seriously. The first time I went to Mexico we went to a gorgeous beach in Tulum. There are ruins there and that's what most people come to see, but when they see the beach, they have to swim.
I'll tell you this right now, the busload of geriatric German tourists that did not hesitate to drop trou? Neither skinny, nor fit.
And no, nobody cares. And remember your new wife? She kinda likes you the way you are I bet.0 -
Our honeymoon is coming up - mexico!
Most of the trip involves swimming in oceans, swimming in cenotes (caves), ziplining into lakes, etc. Uggh - the more I think about it and remember I am fat (obese) and look gross with my shirt off I get scared. I don't wanna be the one guy with his shirt on either. Maybe we should have gone somewhere cold.
I am really trying to just be happy in my own skin and realize who cares what other people think - but it's hard. I know we will just be surrounded by skinny fit people the whole time.
Do skinny people on the beach get grossed out by fat people on the beach showing their stuff?
As long as you're just showing your belly and not your stuff I doubt anyone will care. You're going to fit right in if you're in a tourist area. Of course there will be some people with amazing bodies. Just enjoy them but typically it's not disgusting to see overweight people with no shirt. Guys get a lot more slack for this than women do. Just shave your back if it looks like a gorilla. Other than that no worries.
Keep working on it if you're not liking your current shape but don't stress.0 -
In mexico...if anyone notices, they are not drunk enough. On vacation I have always noticed big and small without shirts or in bikinis...and really...if anyone cares - they dont know how to truly vacation anyway.0
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As a guy who has been there (though I am 40 lbs down now) I always to solace in these facts:
1. No matter how fat/obese you are/think you are there will always be someone on the beach that is bigger than you. This one may not be the nicest thing to think, but I was not judging others. I was only hoping that those people would be the distraction. Also, when people leave they won't be talking about you; they will be talking about the dude from Europe wearing a thong. Those memories are forever....
2. Also, you will likely never see these people again.
3. You have made the choice to be on here and (I assume) change. Think of this as a collection of your before photos.
I would add that, in your case, at least you don't have the man-boob thing going. That was always my biggest insecurity!
Just enjoy yourself man!0 -
dakotababy wrote: »In mexico...if anyone notices, they are not drunk enough. On vacation I have always noticed big and small without shirts or in bikinis...and really...if anyone cares - they dont know how to truly vacation anyway.
^^^^Yeah, this too.
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Most people don't care about other people's fatness or lack of fatness. And TRUST ME here, they've seen fatter than you. I routinely see women in bikinis who are fatter than you are. Foreigners, especially, do not hide the fat.
Do not waste your time, happiness or money worrying about your fat. If you do, you'll regret it one day.
You won't see those people after the vacation, anyway.
Your wife-to-be loves you, so the rest doesn't matter.
Enjoy and have fun! Life is short!0 -
I would not worry about it, women tend to get judged alot more it than men.
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That sounds like a fun trip! I hope you enjoy it.
If you really don't want to take your shirt off maybe you could wear a rash guard?
I do agree with the other posters, you don't have anything to worry about, I just mention it if it would make you feel more comfortable.0 -
Have fun!!! And don't worry about a thing. I'm 330 lbs and I wore a TWO PIECE at the beach this summer because if every other chick can why can't I?
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I've been on a few beach vacations, and it's definitely not a collection of beautiful people judging you there. It's a lot of everyday people who are just there to relax and have fun on their own vacations. You will see all shapes and body sizes, and my paranoid-of-a-sunburn father is the only guy on the beach in a shirt.
If you're in a resort with a lot of European tourists, you'll see quite quickly that they don't have the same sense of (shame? modesty?) that North Americans do. Grandpa will be out there in his speedo.
Just have fun and be yourself. And remember that these are strangers you'll never see again.0 -
True - thanks for advice and for saying I am not the biggest person you've ever seen. I am losing - slowly but surely.0
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You know,I learned to love my fat body more and more as I traveled.Traveling taught me to love my body as is,so many other countries have people who don't give a crap about what others think.I've seen plenty of really big people naked at nude beaches..they were nude,flabby,hairy,and fantastic!! They only cared about the fun.
This is your honeymoon,spend the time enjoying your bride and making great memories...and Mexico is filled with people of all sizes..Congrats and enjoy!0 -
Don't let it hold you back! Your wife loves you the way you are. Don't let your insecurity make you uncomfortable or afraid to participate in things. I've read several of the above comments, and they have great advice! If you're not having a good time, it will hard for your wife to enjoy herself, too, so try to let loose, and focus on how great of a time you're gonna be having!0
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go on a quick fast, you can lose a lot, who cares, its all about you, show your stuff and go have fun!0
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Like a juice cleanse or what do you mean fast?0
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You are there for your honeymoon. Don't worry about anything else.
Your wife is marrying you and loves you just the way you are.0 -
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Nobody will care, and those who might are not worth thinking about. You won't be seeing them again anyway. You don't look bad shirtless either. Yes you are overweight, but you look proportionate.0
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my boyfriend weighs about as much as you do and I'm not grossed out. I wish he took care of himself but still you're going on a honeymoon! enjoy as much as you can! 0
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I honestly don't notice people's weights that much anymore. I'm usually more self conscious about my own. I'd say, do it and be proud! You are getting MARRIED and in Mexico. That's a double win!0
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I've gone to the beach in a bathing suit (one piece) with no covering clothing as a 375lb woman and various other REALLY FAT weights. The trick is to just not give a flying *kitten* what anyone else thinks, except your soon to be wife, who obviously loves you the way you are. Get over it and wear sunscreen!0
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What I realized this past summer is that everyone else at the beach or at the pool is worrying about their OWN body issues far to much to worry about mine. I got over it after that and just went. Enjoy your honeymoon and congrats on the big day!0
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Dude, you just posted a pic of your shirtless self for the entire internet to see...And...everyone just told you (in not so many words) that you rock! For real, go on about your way. You'll be in beautiful MEXICO. Enjoy that.
Honestly, I think you look just fine. Are you heavy? Well, duh, yes. But so are more than half of us. So, take off your shirt, put on your sunscreen and enjoy your honeymoon!0 -
As long as you stay away from the banana hammocks ,you're good. Those gross me out - overweight people do not.0
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deluxmary2000 wrote: »As long as you stay away from the banana hammocks ,you're good. Those gross me out - overweight people do not.
Oh wait... you asked if SKINNY people are grossed out by fat people. In that case, I doubt it, but I'll let you know for sure when I get skinny again. Lol0 -
No. I go to Coney Island. I'm used to it.0
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No no one will even notice you.0
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KANGOOJUMPS wrote: »go on a quick fast, you can lose a lot, who cares, its all about you, show your stuff and go have fun!
When I was skinnier I was more concerned about how fat I looked, not how other people looked. Amazingly now that I'm fat, I'm still concerned about how fat I look and not so much about how other people look.
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