This may sound weird and/or possibly a little conceited but...

oh yeah… I've done the "please make me invisible" oversized tshirt/stretch pants thing. When i see women in cool workout gear.. i think; I don't blame them…they've earned it!

It occured to me when someone I just met for the first time at a BBQ said "those brownies over there are really yummy..... But you don't look like you'd eat brownies at all anyway."
Oh, do I look like those women who master self-control? Wow. Had always been envious when I saw one of those.

bazarn wrote: »

It would sound conceited if you were looking down on the other girl, but you were showing empathy because you've been where she is, and that's awesome. We don't work this hard just so we can act like our success is nothing, so keep lovin' yo body girl! Haha

Agreed. I still like oversize shirts at the gym, though....not out of any shame, but I find them more comfy when lifting.

My gym is pretty quiet. I often go out of my way to speak to people just a good morning or smile. Though I've always tried to smile at people unless I'm under extreme stress.

SLHysell wrote: »

I'm not even halfway to my goals yet, but since visiting this forum so much lately I've developed a new appreciation (admiration) for the hutzpa it takes for someone who is seriously out of shape to go and publicly work out. At the gym, there is this one guy who is extremely large that I can see working his butt off almost every time I go. He gets on the treadmill and walks...and walks...and walks, and sweats and sweats and sweats. I so much want to walk up and give him encouragement, but I've always been afraid he would take it wrong. I think it awesome when someone decides enough is enough and takes hold of their lives.

I agree with you. I too, admire those people from afar for fear of offending, but I do hope they just stick with it.

I never even thought about this before. When I first joined my gym 3 years ago, I wore sweatpants and whatever t-shirt was clean that day. Now I won't go unless my comfy workout crop pants are clean, along with my sports bra and tank top. I guess I have gotten comfortable with myself also, to where I don't care what others think about me. Changing the way of thinking that people have about themselves is one of the biggest benefits I think you can get by working out and trying to stay healthy.

BZAH10 wrote: »

SLHysell wrote: »

I'm not even halfway to my goals yet, but since visiting this forum so much lately I've developed a new appreciation (admiration) for the hutzpa it takes for someone who is seriously out of shape to go and publicly work out. At the gym, there is this one guy who is extremely large that I can see working his butt off almost every time I go. He gets on the treadmill and walks...and walks...and walks, and sweats and sweats and sweats. I so much want to walk up and give him encouragement, but I've always been afraid he would take it wrong. I think it awesome when someone decides enough is enough and takes hold of their lives.

I agree with you. I too, admire those people from afar for fear of offending, but I do hope they just stick with it.

To the both of you, I am one of the weird ones who would not be offended, but would be ecstatic that someone thought enough of me to come and say, "Hey, I think its really awesome that you are trying to get healthy", or "I admire your dedication" Some MFP'ers think its offensive. If they are that easily offended, then I think you're just too dang sensitive. IMO....

A few months ago, I replaced just about my entire workout wardrobe! I had old ratty t-shirts and baggy shorts. I now wear fitted shorts or capris, tanks, and cute shirts. I know it sounds silly, but I just *feel* so much better about working out. I even find having a few cute things to workout in helps motivate me to put them on in the first place.

Congrats.

I totally get where you're coming from! I remember a time where I wouldn't step foot in a gym because I didn't want to be "the fat girl who should really just stop trying". When I would see other women looking great in their tight gym gear, I would get really jealous and upset because I felt they were judging me! Oh how silly that sounds now…
I am a gym bunny now, I love my body and I'm definetely in good shape. But when I see the newcomers looking really self-concious, I just want to tell them to relax! The gym has taught me never to be afraid of being a beginner and I feel that's a huge lesson!
I could compare myself to the female bodybuilders at my gym and have the same feeling as before, because they can lift heavier than me and definetely have more definition! But now, all they do is inspire me because I know how hard they've worked to get to that point! As do those who went from being obese to slightly overweight. I might be in better shape than them but they've worked so much harder to get where they are and that's inspirational!
I love surrounding myself with people who are dedicated to fitness, at any level. Now, instead of judging who looks best in what at the gym, I seek out people who are putting in the effort to better themselves!

I am one of the ones that wants to hide at the gym. I love going, but preforming some of the things there can be a bit embarrassing. I see people smile at me, and I bet they are thinking the same thing all of you are saying. They want to give encouragement, but are afraid of offending. Trust me, that smile, that nod or thrumbs up is just as much encouragement as words.

I get where you're coming from too.

Years ago I was obese. Through a series of decisions, including joining martial arts, I lost 90 lbs. Part of my success was due to one of the other girls training at that dojo who took me under her wing at the beginning because she had once been obese. She approached me the first day and encouraged me in my journey and I will always be so appreciative of her for that.

One day, after I had lost the weight, I was training and a new girl, about the same size as I had been when I started, came in for a trial session. She was obviously way out of her comfort zone and trying to shrink away. She lasted about 20 minutes with one of the Senseis showing her some moves before dissolving into tears and running out of the dojo. Knowing how she felt because I had been there, I asked that Sensei (who was a bit of a jerk) if I could have the girl's phone number because I would love to talk to her and encourage her not to give up. He refused and said something snide that I don't recall but it was mean - something about waste of time. That was about 6 years ago and I still think about that.

I often wonder where that line is of encouraging someone in their journey if I don't know them. I don't want to offend or cause someone to be uncomfortable. At the same time though I know how crucial that support from a stranger was for me when I felt hopeless.

I wear what's comfy and cheap and gets least sweat soaked, which is shorts and a tank top. Wore them when I was fat, too. I'm sure I look like hell working out with sweat flying everywhere and stuff but like... it's not a fashion show, what do I care. lol

Your comments made me laugh because I'm one of those shlubby sweats and oversize t-shirts kind of gals at the gym. Well, actually I try (if I can remember) to follow the rule of only one loose item to keep the sloppiness at bay. So loose t-shirt and fitted bottom or shorts, or tight t-shirt and loose sweats. I'm not trying to be invisible, and I hope no one feels like I am. I just refuse to spend money on workout wear, so all my shirts are my husband's cast-offs.