im so tired of being me i need some help

Try to find the time to take walks everyday. Start with just a block or 2 and gradually increase them.
It will help with the depression, make you feel better about yourself, get you some fresh air AND burn some calories!
Eating better will help cut down on the treats, etc. but don't create a drastic change in your diet. Just try to add fresh veggies, fruits, healthy fats and proteins and eat less/move more.

As the weight gradually comes off, you will gain confidence and pride and the knowledge that you CAN do this and you will feel much better as your clothes start to loosen up.

Just remember, it is not neccessary to starve yourself.
Enter 1 pound loss a week and purchase a food scale and measure and weigh everything you eat and your caloric drinks.
All you need is a deficit.
Log everyday.
You can do it! You'll be surprised at how simple it is.

Hey....you can do this!!! We are all here for you. Take it one day at a time. I find that walking early in the day helps so much. It makes me feel better and helps keep me on track the rest of day because I've already accomplished something. Be nice to yourself and focus on your good features. Smile at yourself in mirror, drink lots of water and know you can do it.

Make sure you are getting enough sleep.

You are not a cow. My wife, too, felt the same about herself, and she went to a doctor and NMD, and we found out her thyroid was low. Some of her other hormones were a little out of wack. For a while, it was really sad, I was scared I was going to lose her. She was depressed and angry and sleeping a lot and just didn't care about anything. Once her medication kicked in - it took a little while - the days got better. She goes to the gym six days a week, now. Gosh, she is losing fat and keeping her muscle, too. She is really happy, and we are out doing things, again.

There could be hormones and/or other things happening. It really could be something out of your control. Exercise can help balance some of the hormone, but it may just be too hard to get started. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain by getting in to see a doctor and an NMD. I wish you were near us; we could help support you more. Feel free to add me as a friend, if you want. I have just a few, because I am new, and I usually irritate people.

I sure hope you find that way out. You can have the life you want and feel good, again. I am 100% sure of it.

Hi Kimi. I see a lot of people in my office with your issues (I'm a doctor) and I know what you're going thru. I'll give you the advice I usually give them. First , get a little $1 notebook from Taget. Keep a food journal. Write down how you felt as well as what you eat. Whenever you go on a journey you need to know your starting point. Then look at your journal, see what emotional triggers you have . Try to think of ways to circumvent them. Then try to pick ONE thing that you can really COMMIT to sticking to. Don't set yourself up for failure by trying to give up everything at once ,,,that is just too overwhelming . Don't beat yourself up ! You didnt gain all the weight overnite, you wont lose it over nite.
Another thing to be aware of is the fact that, from an evolutionary standpoint, for 100,000s
years, humans who did not store calories in the form of body fat died off when there was a bad winter or hunting season. If the amount of time humans have lived on earth was a string 50 feet long, the amount of time we have had refrigeration and mass agriculture is maybe .1 inch. So you are up against Darwinian forces, don't take it personally!! :-)

You can start by walking with your son around your neighborhood. No need to start at the drop of a hat, once you start that routine everyday you'll end up wanting to do it more and more. The walks will get longer and you'll go home feeling a lot better. Also, when it comes to food, start small. For example, don't consume any soda or chocolate, since you're a beginner there's no need to stop all sweets completely. The less sweets you allow yourself every week the easier it'll be to completely remove them from your diet. Buy a lot of vegetables and fruits, that way when u get the urge to eat something the only thing you'll have to munch on is something healthy. At the moment im also starting AGAIN! What helps me is thinking about what i want for myself in the future, i use that as my motivation. Like you, you just had a son so think of him as motivation. He is only 3, wouldn't you want to live to see him do all sorts of great things in life? Think of what you want your life with him to be like. Ask yourself, do i want to continue on this downward spiral and possibly end up having all sorts of health issues which my son will see me go through and suffer? Or do i want to do something about my problem and live to be able to enjoy the journey of life with him?

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Hello Im up for being lets do this and stick to it buddies .I am 245 and my youngest is 14. I do same thing I am all ready set my schedule for day ahead it comes and I either do good day or 2 or just keep saying tom. I have decided I need to decide commit and follow thru. So I d love to have some people to go through this journey with.

Hi, the post you replied to is from 2014, and it looks the original poster hasn't been around since August 2015. Lots of people are looking for friends on here though. Welcome!