I'm obese, where do I start?

Do you have a Wii? You might try Walk It Out. Basically, you earn points by walking to the beat of the music. You use the points to build the town/countryside/city, make rainbows, get more songs, etc. If you are of a competitive nature (even against yourself) it might be a great start for you.

I just started 2 months ago, but down 28lbs. There are several obstacles I had to overcome. First wanting to change. Now this doesn't mean "oh I want to be a normal weight" because obviously I always wanted that, but I didn't want to make the sacrifices.
Going to have to put mind over matter and just eat less.
I also think it is important to not change too much at once. For the first 2-3 weeks I didn't do any exercise as I wanted to 100% focus on diet and making sure I am eating right (believe me it takes a while to figure this out. I made a lot of mistakes my first couple weeks)
Once I got that sorted out, I started adding in light exercise... Just 25 minutes of walking 2-3 times a week. This was more to get used to setting aside some time of the week for exercising more than the actual exercising. I quickly increased the frequency and time over the course of the next month. I am now doing 50-70 minutes 4-5 times per week. Again this goal isn't so much for the actual exercise as it is for setting aside time out of my day for actual exercise as the eventual goal in the near future (probably once snow and ice start making it hard to walk outside) is to join the gym.

Also try various things if what you start out with doesn't work for you. I tried pure calorie counting in the past, and while it works for many people it didn't work for me since I was always starving. Did I lose weight? Sure.. but hated every second of it due to my hunger. So I researched different things and went with low carb which works for me. Anyways this isn't to say you should try low carb, this is just to say if you find what you are doing isn't working for you (and put in an honest effort of 2 weeks) try something else. I went through 2-3 different things before settling on keto which I have stuck with.

Kalikel wrote: »

Get some therapy and try to remember that most people are too wrapped up in themselves to care about you and your fat. You're blowing that way out of proportion.

Also, remember that the very few people who might think or say something mean are doing that because they have their own mental problems. They're struggling and miserable and the nastiness is way more about them than you. So, go outside and enjoy.

When anxiety is a problem, just going out and "enjoying", is not always that easy.

OP- I don't have anxiety (thankfully because I see how hard it is on people who do) but I also struggle with being self conscious if I'm exercising in public. I am also bipolar which plays into that a bit.I always thought that people would think "oh, she's fat what good is the exercise going to do?" Or that they would make fun of how out of shape I am. What helped me, and might be somewhat helpful to you, is before I went out side I kept telling myself "everyone starts somewhere" and that down the road I will be glad I started when I did.

I also am taking things in baby steps. I started out only being able to walk 8 minutes before my back and ankles killed. So I stayed with the 7 minutes until I could do it with no pain. I then went to 10 and did that until no pain/shortness of breath. Everytime I felt comfortable I added a few minutes. It didnt seem like much at first but it has certainly made progress. Went I started my new job 2 months ago, I was ready to collapse if I had to climb 4 floors (I work in ems and not all buildings have elevators). Today I was able to go up 5 flights with no pain. I was slightly short of breath but it is a marked improvement. I take each day as it comes and not punish myself for slip ups.

Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like. I love sharing tips Ive found helpful as well as learn what other people find helpful.

You can do this!

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I struggled with anxiety as well (socially). This may sound a bit weird but I actually got a lot of relief from volunteering at an animal shelter to help play and walk the dogs. I got a little exercise and felt that no one judged me since I was there to help them! In the end I have now rescued 2 dogs and they have to be walked daily so it I was able to gain confidence in that it wasn't for me, but them! The volunteer work was great though since it was a double boost of confidence since i got some exercise in and got gushed over for helping (by the dogs and the staff!!). There has been a lot of great advice given, but I thought I'd share what initally helped me, even if it is a bit different! Good Luck to you - you can ROCK this! As Les Brown says - "You Have GREATNESS in You"!