Kids at the gym

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  • SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage
    SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage Posts: 2,668 Member
    JeffseekingV wrote: »
    BinkyBonk wrote: »
    If her parent feels she is old enough to be in the gym working out, she is old enough to observe the rules and etiquette. I think you did the right thing.

    That's how I feel too. But in reality because she was a girl and he's a man, he should have talked to management. I think the father was freaked that a grown man approached her daughter. But if she's working out in the weight room, not sure how the father thinks it wouldn't happen.
    Good point. I didn't consider the grown man approaching young girl angle.

  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    Who cares that he is a man and she is a young girl? He didn't follow her into the locker room. He addressed her in the common workout space. Teaching girls to fear every man they meet does them a huge disservice in the long term.
  • SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage
    SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage Posts: 2,668 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    Who cares that he is a man and she is a young girl? He didn't follow her into the locker room. He addressed her in the common workout space. Teaching girls to fear every man they meet does them a huge disservice in the long term.
    I wasn't saying that young girls should fear every man they encounter. What I was saying is that I could sort of understand the dad's reaction, in his role as a protective parent (though not so protective that he wasn't supervising his child in an adult setting). My opinion is still that OP did the right thing.
  • StrawberryJam40
    StrawberryJam40 Posts: 274 Member
    My rec center it is based on school year not age. So, as soon as my daughter gets out of 5th grade next year (at 10 years old) she can start going in the cardio and weight rooms. However, it clearly states until like 8th or 9th grade they have to be supervised by a parent or guardian at all times. This would be the issue for me...is allowing someone that age lifting on their own without a partner/spotter and supervision. You should not have been put in the position to have to say anything to her if she was properly supervised.

    I do though, in this circumstance, think you did the right thing. I would think regardless of age...safety and respect for equipment should be followed by everyone. I would expect someone to correct me or my daughter.
  • burtonvdp
    burtonvdp Posts: 19 Member
    Honestly if I trusted my daughter enough to be on her own at the gym (Or anywhere) I shouldn't be so sensitive to anyone (adult or peer) talking to her unsupervised. What I mean by that is if she was not next to me the whole time and out doing her own thing. The father is at fault here IMHO. He should have gone to an employee if his daughter felt threatened by someone on promises or just flat out asked what happened and get your point of view as well.

    I guess my point is that you did nothing wrong (given the story I have read) and that if the father was that worried about it he should either have her by his side or leave her home. She is in a very dangerous place and needs to be able to accept and listen to advice (just like any other adult) on how to stay safe and not ruin property.

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