Keep Failing

Every day is a new day. You need to commit to it and commit to the process. This isn't something that will happen over night. This isn't something that will happen in a week. This isn't something that is going to come to you. You have to take it for yourself. Be greedy when it comes to your health.

You are going to have setbacks. We all do. I had months where I failed to reach my goals. I had nights where I sat in my room and didn't do what I was supposed to do. I had nights when I wanted to cry, and did cry, and I am a 23 year old man. Does that make me a failure? No. I moved on from it. I lost over 70 pounds and am in the best shape of my life athletically and mentally. I am this way because I wanted it. You have to want it now.

If you truly are fed up, then you're in a position to finally do something about it, so that's a good thing!

It sounds like you might have made very drastic changes in the past which were jarring and difficult and derailed your progress. Try making gradual changes that are easier to stick with. This isn't a race, it's a lifestyle change, and there's no reason to change your entire lifestyle overnight, and plenty of reason not to.

Try to pick one healthy habit and practice it for a couple of weeks. Once you have that one down pat, pick another.

For example, if you drink soda, try eliminating it. Substitute diet if you have to (there's a thread here about why you shouldn't be afraid of aspartame) or if you're still afraid of aspartame, try water, tea, water with a squirt of lemon or lime, or whatever you need that isn't full of sugar.

Or, try making a habit of a daily walk. Make it around the same time every day and enjoy it. Sunset is a beautiful time to walk. Once you've established that habit, maybe try to jog a few intervals...30 seconds here, 30 seconds there...or make the walk longer.

Or, try making your veggie servings larger, and your servings of starches and fattier meats smaller. I'm not even saying eliminate them, just make them smaller. See if you can fill up half your plate with veggies, and leave only a quarter for starches (bread, rice, potatoes, pasta, etc.) and a quarter for proteins. See if you can eat leaner proteins more often, like fish and chicken.

These little changes will add up, and they will be a lot easier to stick with than suddenly halving the number of calories you eat, and making yourself work out for an hour. That sounds daunting, and makes it easy to give up.

Another thing you can do is to stop thinking of your goal as some magical scale number. Your goal is to live a healthier lifestyle. Every change you make in a positive direction is reaching that goal. Drink more water? You've achieved your goal, that's healthier than what you were doing before. Walk more? Bingo. You've achieved your goal some more. Ate just one doughnut out of the boxes of freebies in the office? The old you would have eaten three or four...you've just lived a healthier lifestyle.

Every choice you make has the potential to be a triumph. The only possibility of failure is if you stay exactly the same.

I am similar. I am going to try ego state therapy Google ego state therapy binge eating and read the results. kind and gentle.

Only you can make yourself thin. Somehow you have to find this motivation, it has to be in there somewhere. You CAN lose weight on MFP, eating unhealthy. It's all to do with how many calories you consume. Try that for awhile and slowly add healthy foods into your diet.

Whenever I read about someone's inability to stick to a diet the advice I offer is always the same. You have to want this badly enough to taste it and until you accept that fact you most likely will not succeed. You might be able to get away with doing some things half- assed in your life but weight loss isn't one of them. There is no magic, no pill, no potion and it takes serious, long term commitment. Wishing will not make it so. Losing weight is hard but the end result is worth it.

Well, I lost around 50 pounds in five months solely by determination. I now added intense exercise and working on losing the last 10 pounds. What worked for me was visualization. One day, I woke up and started to believe that I can do this. So many people do it, why wouldn't you? Believe that you are a capable individual and giving up is not an option. Believe you can achieve. Picture yourself healthier everyday, reward yourself once a week by a 500 calorie food you like or shopping for clothes. (I reward myself with a cocktail) You need to love the process of losing weight, it feels amazing when you get on the scale and see there's a decrease by the end of the week. I get thrills from it :-) That's what worked for me anyway.

Your issue might be like mine... Just don't make it 20 years like I have... visual of my issue here.

Why give up? If something isn't working, change it, learn from the results. If the results are positive, keep doing it; if they are not desired, change.