Most Uncomfortable / Hardest Part Of Being Overweight

I haven't even dated in 7 years because of my weight. I find I have to "prepare" the person by disclosing my weight to them even without asking..... and when I do....they tell me they are not comfortable dating someone that is in the 200's.

I find this part very sad. Anyone that tells you they aren't happy with dating you because of a number on the scale is not worth dating in the first place.

Having said that, you are setting yourself up for it by simply telling them how much you weigh so early on. Any guy is going to think if you are bringing up your weight so early on without even being encouraged, it's a sure sign of things to come. Confidence is an attractive thing, and I think you need to work on that over anything. Good luck. :flowerforyou:

Hardest things for me:
1. I can't have my picture taken; I'm too self conscience.
2. Everything hurts. My back, my knees, and like the earlier poster said, my feet. I started using a treadmill which is gentler on my knees and feet. I also go for 30 minute bike rides.
3. It's hard to walk with others. My friends walk so much faster than me, I feel like I'm always running to catch up.
4. Shopping. After "ballooning " from a Large to extra-large I was shopping in one of my favorite stores. I couldn't find anything that would fit so I asked a clerk. I was told they don't carry xl. I left the store in tears. My husband then took me to browns where I spent $200 on shoes instead.

Wow. Good topic.

I think the worst is the worry about fitting in. I always look around the room and see if I am the biggest person there. Even though I done see myself as big as I am.

I went dancing with my sister-in-law, she could care less how people look, and this very cute guy came up and starting dancing with me. I was shocked. In the back of my head I was thinking he must be here as some kind of a joke. She told me he was smiling from ear to ear and he must have really liked me.

Its hard to accept yourself no matter what.

trackmyday1973 wrote: »

For my it's clothes shopping. Maybe I sound a little shallow but it's so hard to see something in a store that I think looks cute and then realize they don't have it in my size. I've also noticed that in some stores the sizes are different than in others, so sometimes I'll try something on that says it is my size but it's definitely too small. And I didn't gain 10lbs from taking off my regular clothes and trying this one on. =/ Idk, it's hard to feel pretty after something like that.

I just find that they make prettier clothes for thin people.... just my observation.

I totally agree with both of these. It's probably vain but I hate clothes shopping. Yes, I find things that I can wear but it's never as nice as the smaller sizes. I'm looking forward to the day I can shop in a "normal" clothing store and not a store specialized for 14+ (I started to lose weight at a size 24-26).


I also find one of the hardest parts of being overweight was not being able to keep up with my friends. It's not like they're athletes or anything but just walking with them down the street. I was always so slow. Often they'd have to stop to catch up and it's just plain embarrasing. I was victorious a few weeks ago when I was walking faster than them and had to slow down.

Tight clothes and sore thighs

vamaena wrote: »

trackmyday1973 wrote: »

For my it's clothes shopping. Maybe I sound a little shallow but it's so hard to see something in a store that I think looks cute and then realize they don't have it in my size. I've also noticed that in some stores the sizes are different than in others, so sometimes I'll try something on that says it is my size but it's definitely too small. And I didn't gain 10lbs from taking off my regular clothes and trying this one on. =/ Idk, it's hard to feel pretty after something like that.

I just find that they make prettier clothes for thin people.... just my observation.

I totally agree with both of these. It's probably vain but I hate clothes shopping. Yes, I find things that I can wear but it's never as nice as the smaller sizes. I'm looking forward to the day I can shop in a "normal" clothing store and not a store specialized for 14+ (I started to lose weight at a size 24-26).


I also find one of the hardest parts of being overweight was not being able to keep up with my friends. It's not like they're athletes or anything but just walking with them down the street. I was always so slow. Often they'd have to stop to catch up and it's just plain embarrasing. I was victorious a few weeks ago when I was walking faster than them and had to slow down.

Even basics are harder to find. I work in the fashions department at a store, and plus size panties you can only find in briefs or the shaping kind. I'd always had to go to Lane Bryant and pay so much more for hipsters. Yesterday I had a customer who was looking at tights. The ones we carry go up to 3X/4X in black, but only 1X/2X in the other colors, and it disappointed her.

malibu927 wrote: »

vamaena wrote: »

trackmyday1973 wrote: »

For my it's clothes shopping. Maybe I sound a little shallow but it's so hard to see something in a store that I think looks cute and then realize they don't have it in my size. I've also noticed that in some stores the sizes are different than in others, so sometimes I'll try something on that says it is my size but it's definitely too small. And I didn't gain 10lbs from taking off my regular clothes and trying this one on. =/ Idk, it's hard to feel pretty after something like that.

I just find that they make prettier clothes for thin people.... just my observation.

I totally agree with both of these. It's probably vain but I hate clothes shopping. Yes, I find things that I can wear but it's never as nice as the smaller sizes. I'm looking forward to the day I can shop in a "normal" clothing store and not a store specialized for 14+ (I started to lose weight at a size 24-26).


I also find one of the hardest parts of being overweight was not being able to keep up with my friends. It's not like they're athletes or anything but just walking with them down the street. I was always so slow. Often they'd have to stop to catch up and it's just plain embarrasing. I was victorious a few weeks ago when I was walking faster than them and had to slow down.

Even basics are harder to find. I work in the fashions department at a store, and plus size panties you can only find in briefs or the shaping kind. I'd always had to go to Lane Bryant and pay so much more for hipsters. Yesterday I had a customer who was looking at tights. The ones we carry go up to 3X/4X in black, but only 1X/2X in the other colors, and it disappointed her.

That's true! Totally forgot about that! I usually ended up paying a fortune since I went to a specialty store that stocked up on 3x/4x/5x panties in more colors than just beige or black. I've lost enough now that I can finally fit in "smaller" sizes at a normal store that stocks different colors.

edit: realized I wrote the same thing with different words in the same sentence.

I agree with some of the above. I would love to go clothes shopping and know that the more fashionable clothes are going to fit me well. I would love to go to the beach and not feel self conscious about being fat. I would love to be as comfortable with my body as my husband is.

I guess I feel like the hardest part of being overweight is that it limits my freedoms (whether real or imagined) that's why I want to be a healthy weight.

For me the hardest has always been photographs of myself.

I am going to be totally honest and it might sound like I'm in denial or something. I am currently in the high 220s and have ranged from 240-300 most of my adult life. I've always - even at my heaviest weight - had VERY high energy, a great love life, an easy time getting jobs, excellent or at least decent medical test results, have not felt that different from my average weight peers and colleagues.


This is me. I just feel unattractive and fat. I also love fashion and although I don't have a problem finding plus size clothing, it would be nice to be able to purchase something at every brick and mortar store that I saw. I hate hate hate pictures of myself, unless it is a selfie that I have taken, and even then I have spent 10 minutes trying to find the best angle.

The smallest I have ever been in my adult life is 230 pounds, and that was only for a brief time in college. Otherwise, I have been 250+ for at least 7 years. I have always had a decent amount of energy, I get every job I ever apply for, I am in good overall health, had a normal pregnancy, and I never had a single problem dating--- I dated all sorts of men, not one of them overweight or in to "fat girls". I found my tall, dark, and handsome, and average weighted husband 5 years ago.

As far as dating goes, I feel that men (and women) are attracted to confidence and a woman (or man) who loves themselves and takes care of themselves, and focus a whole lot less on our size than we think.

Personally, I just want to be able to be pleased with myself with I look in the mirror, and years of contentment in my marriage, along with childbirth, have taken me away from that. But I'll get back there and so will everybody else, as long as they stick with it!

I hate that anybody could feel so down on themselves and regret the way they have lived their life. Sure, we need to get healthier so we can enjoy our time on this earth as long as possible, but I just hope that everybody realizes that we are more than our weight and anybody who says otherwise is the one with the actual issues.

I'll be 30 in a few months and I feel like I've wasted my 20's away due to depression due to my weight and body image.

This is a deep thread. Some comments made me really sad and other made me laugh. I "hate" being fat but I consider this to be temporary. I'm grateful to have the chance to do something about it and I'm diving in head first. Don't know how I got here, besides the obvious reason that I ate more than my body burned, but I'm not long for this fat suit. Despite yo-yo'ing a few times, things were never that bad. I'd gain 20lbs and lose it by eating clean and working out. It was never like it is now and it scares the crap outta me. I have always taken a no nonsense approach with myself. I got myself into this mess and I'm a fixing to get myself out of it (again). I never experienced a lot of what some of you have stated but I can empathize and it's heartbreaking. My wake up called happened after I gained a ton of weight after breaking my ankle (while riding my bike; I have been into fitness for decades). I just ate crap and sat on my bum. When I woke from my slumber I was 80lbs heavier than I was 3 years ago and couldn't fit anything in my closet. Finally, a month an a half ago, I attempted a 30 mile charity bike ride and barely completed half of it. I was dead last and had to get the SAG vehicle to drive me back to the start line and my car. I was so embarassed and disappointed in myself. It was the first time I was ever unable to do something because of my size. And it made me take a look at all my other new ailments (achilles tendonitis, ankle not fully healed, lower back pain, breathlessness, GERD, hiatal hernia...). It was all because I got fat! It woke me up in a big way. I have been at it ever since and am 22lbs down as a result rigorous exercise (cardio and weights) and a clean diet. I would rather be fit, lean and attractive than have cake, ice cream, candy, hamburgers, etc. That's the bottom line. So this is a life resetting moment for me. I will be happy to reach my lofty 100lb weight loss goal and I know I will get there. And I'm prepping mentally for the fight of my life to stay there forever and never experience these feelings again.