Confidence Issues - Help Me Please
EatSleepPumpRepeat
Posts: 9
Hi Everyone
I have been going to the gym for a few months now and I mainly do group fitness. I go to about 4 classes a week but I have major confidence issues in one of the classes. I feel like everyone's judging me when I'm there. I have even thought about walking out of the class half way through and never going back.
Its got that bad now that I'm scared to try any other classes just in case the same happens there.
Do you think I should speak to the instructor about how I feel
Thanks
I have been going to the gym for a few months now and I mainly do group fitness. I go to about 4 classes a week but I have major confidence issues in one of the classes. I feel like everyone's judging me when I'm there. I have even thought about walking out of the class half way through and never going back.
Its got that bad now that I'm scared to try any other classes just in case the same happens there.
Do you think I should speak to the instructor about how I feel
Thanks
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What type of class and what exactly makes you feel this way0
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What type of class and what exactly makes you feel this way
This. And..
Just about 99.9% of all humans are judgmental. You have to stop caring about what others may be thinking. Just know that you are doing something for yourself that is positive and great!! They are all there to improve their fitness one way or the other!!
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You need to realize that you pay to be there just like everyone else. If you're feeling uncomfortable, then by all means speak with the instructor and see if she has any solutions.0
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Its a body conditioning class. I feel this when when I cant keep up with the rest of the class0
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I do many fitness classes. For the most part people are not judging because they have been where you are now0
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EatSleepPumpRepeat wrote: »Its a body conditioning class. I feel this when when I cant keep up with the rest of the class
Okay and you don't NEED to keep up with them. Girl, you're there for you! It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You know they're probably respecting you because you're doing it!0 -
I agree with Jonathan, my experience had been that they are not judging you, they were probably in your same position at some point. There's no reason you can't talk to the instructor.
If you "are" at a gym where people are judging you for doing your best, I say find another gym. Dont give up because some people are idiots.
Keep up the hard work, dont give in to the self-consciousness.0 -
If I go to a class workout then I just stay in the back and watch others and then its harder for the others to watch me.0
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I know how you feel. I go to a bootcamp/running type class and I am (by far), the slowest there. Others continually lap me (and sometimes come back to get me) when I'm very far behind. It's embarrassing yes - but more embarrassing not to go and watch the size of my butt grow!
Can you take a friend with you? Preferably someone who is of a similar fitness to you. Then you can "not keep up" together.
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You're there for you, who cares what they think? I know that's easier said than done, but everyone starts some where, so let them think what they want.0
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I used to worry that people were looking at me judging too. But I noticed they were either trying to keep up themselves or doing so well they were just getting right into the class and in "the zone"
Ain't nobody judging if I should remove myself from class to save them having to look at me.
Even tho I'm wearing floppy trackies and I couldn't get a bouncy ponytail if I tried for a year.0 -
If you keep working at it, someday those people will be trying to compete with you. If you feel like you gave it your all at the end of that workout than that's all that matters.. Stick to it because you can do it.. Even with the looks if others!0
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Liftng4Lis wrote: »You need to realize that you pay to be there just like everyone else. If you're feeling uncomfortable, then by all means speak with the instructor and see if she has any solutions.
This sounds like a great idea. That, and proceed at YOUR pace, not anyone else's.
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whitewolf1200 wrote: »If I go to a class workout then I just stay in the back and watch others and then its harder for the others to watch me.
Ive tried going to the back but i still feel the same0 -
terrieapaul wrote: »Can you take a friend with you? Preferably someone who is of a similar fitness to you. Then you can "not keep up" together.
There is this one lady who ive spoken to with similar fitness levels but she doesnt always come to the class0 -
Thanks for your comments everyone. Its just hard to make my head understand that no one is judging me.0
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Just remember, it feels like people are judging..means that it is all in your head. Maybe you are judging yourself the most?0
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It's OKAY!!!!
You should have seen ME in "Piloxing" class. It's high-intensity pilates/kickboxing fuzed! I was the ONLY one who wasn't a regular, and I sure as **** couldn't "keep up with the class." Everyone was laughing at me, but you know what the trick was?
I laughed at myself, too.
We're all human, we all judge, and we all want to be accepted, including the people in the class with you. Anyone in there capable of the smallest amount of empathy can see what you're going through and smile, for the sake of making you feel accepted. Laugh at your own mistakes, or when you can't keep up, and for goodness' sakes, unless you're working out with Stallone and Schwarzennegger (sp?), relax and have FUN!!!!!
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Thanks dakotababy, that actually makes alot of sense. Maybe its me judging myself the most0
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I struggle to keep up at times too. I've done kickboxing and RIPPED classes and occasionally Zumba. I've come too far to give a *kitten* what others think.0
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Everyone is too busy trying to keep up with their own moves. Dont worry. No one is judging you. VERY few people do this and they are usually the ones who will come here after a workout and post a thread inviting all kinds of people to talk about 'the stupids' they see at the gym. Those people are the rare exception and have no business being in your way. Just dont think about how you look - instead - fall in love with what you are capable of.0
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If people have time to judge you in class, they aren't working hard enough and the joke is really on them.0
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I use to be the oldest and the biggest, but no more. It feels good to look around and realize I am no longer the biggest. If you want to talk to the instructor, do it, they are there to encourage,it is their job. She probably felt the same at one time, I know I did.0
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EatSleepPumpRepeat wrote: »Its a body conditioning class. I feel this when when I cant keep up with the rest of the class
Keep going, as you progress so will your confidence. It's new to you. You have to give it time.0 -
Keep going. One day you'll be so much better. You'll see someone new walk in who is in the same shape you used to be and you'll befriend them and understand, because you know the feels.0
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They probably wish they were you
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Thanks for your comments everyone, it means alot
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Everyone starts somewhere... even they did. Keep going; soon, they'll start complementing you on how much you've improved.0
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