Sex?

AHHHHHMAZING!!! or maybe it's just who i'm having sex with now.

Getting man handled and thrown around like a rag doll has been nice for a change. I guess he wasn't sure he could handle that before :-p

wilsoncl6 wrote: »

BV1980 wrote: »

I am 34 years old and have been fat my whole life. I have been 400+ lbs (452 lbs being the highest) for quite a while now. So, I have never been able to be successful with getting a girlfriend or having a sex life. My body is ruined because my flaw in my life has been overeating. Even if I lose the weight, I will be a mess of skin and not what girls want, so I doubt losing weight will improve, or I should say create, a sex life for me. Since it is something I want very badly, I may have to live with this unfulfilled desire, pay for it (which wouldn't be what I want and I would still be unfulfilled), or distract myself constantly with work or hobbies or whatever. I don't think distraction would work though since sex is everywhere and you cannot escape it. It is a constant reminder of my desire and what I cannot experience. So I think I may have to just cope with the lack of it or eventually just not exist anymore so it isn't an issue.

Relax BV1980, there is someone for everyone. Good thing is that women aren't as shallow as us guys and a good personality goes a long way. Until you lose the weight, work on your sense of humor, confidence and big billfold doesn't hurt either.

Really?

Don't sell yourself short BV1980. You'll find someone.

It really is the person on the inside that matters, and can even change the physical perception of a person. I've met people that were very handsome/beautiful, but had ugly behavior, and they start looking less handsome/beautiful. I've met people that are overweight or had "ugly" features, and viewed them as physically beautiful because I admired so much about them.

I fell in love with a guy who was very overweight. It didn't seem to matter how much I told him I was attracted to him, he didn't believe me. It was very sad... we ended up breaking up for a different reason but since then he's lost weight, became a manager at a fitness center and is much more confident in himself and happy.

We all see flaws in ourselves that we think others are going to care about but 9/10 times they don't. It's just us being paranoid. Don't let these perceived flaws with yourself get in the way of going after what you want, please.

Better Drive has improved, I feel more secure in my own body, and also my IBS symptoms have gone down. I used to have a bloated, painful belly all day long...

Im like a damn teenager!! constantly want it lol sorry if thats vulgar

Birth control killed my sex drive and I'm pretty sad about that.

BV1980 wrote: »

I am 34 years old and have been fat my whole life. I have been 400+ lbs (452 lbs being the highest) for quite a while now. So, I have never been able to be successful with getting a girlfriend or having a sex life. My body is ruined because my flaw in my life has been overeating. Even if I lose the weight, I will be a mess of skin and not what girls want, so I doubt losing weight will improve, or I should say create, a sex life for me. Since it is something I want very badly, I may have to live with this unfulfilled desire, pay for it (which wouldn't be what I want and I would still be unfulfilled), or distract myself constantly with work or hobbies or whatever. I don't think distraction would work though since sex is everywhere and you cannot escape it. It is a constant reminder of my desire and what I cannot experience. So I think I may have to just cope with the lack of it or eventually just not exist anymore so it isn't an issue.

NO NO NO!! BV!, dude, I am ready to bitchslap you in a brotherly way! You sound like you are in a bad place! I hate to hear you like this, and I don't even know you! make up for it with CONFIDENCE and PERSONALITY. Yes, being the funny jolly fat guy will get you some attention, and MOST women will then walk away and put you in the "friends" shelf, but there will be one, one day, taht will stay behind, see beyond the fat, one you maybe didn't notice (oh yeah, because we have Vogue-induced woman image hangups too!). She will be your one... but you gotta get out there and tell the world "I am not perfect, si f**cking what?"

TastesLikeBurning wrote: »

Sex drive has gone up. I think the act itself is better. However, unfortunately, the frequency has not exactly gone up.

This^^ Although since my husband and I both have lost its not as pleasant in that I feel alot of bones. Not much padding on us to cushion things. But, otherwise it's only gotten better. More stamina, means longer "sessions". I do wish it was more frequent though.