Sex?

shadowloss wrote: »

Mine Has
Her's Hasn't, never had it

Great News is, Fitbit counts all arm movement.

This!

(Maybe Fitbit was popeye's secret).

I'm down 100lbs from my absolute highest weight. As I gained weight over the years, so did my wonderful husband. He obviously loves my cooking! Now that I'm at a healthy weight I've noticed a few things about our intimacy; we "fit" together better, I'm much more flexible, I have much more stamina, and feel good in my skin. He always found me attractive no matter my weight, and I feel very, very lucky for that.

I would have to say that if you are looking for a good reason to lose weight, an improved sex life is a really good reason.

it's a lot better than before, my wife and I are having a blast every time.

Better Drive has improved, I feel more secure in my own body, and also my IBS symptoms have gone down. I used to have a bloated, painful belly all day long...

Im like a damn teenager!! constantly want it lol sorry if thats vulgar

Birth control killed my sex drive and I'm pretty sad about that.

BV1980 wrote: »

I am 34 years old and have been fat my whole life. I have been 400+ lbs (452 lbs being the highest) for quite a while now. So, I have never been able to be successful with getting a girlfriend or having a sex life. My body is ruined because my flaw in my life has been overeating. Even if I lose the weight, I will be a mess of skin and not what girls want, so I doubt losing weight will improve, or I should say create, a sex life for me. Since it is something I want very badly, I may have to live with this unfulfilled desire, pay for it (which wouldn't be what I want and I would still be unfulfilled), or distract myself constantly with work or hobbies or whatever. I don't think distraction would work though since sex is everywhere and you cannot escape it. It is a constant reminder of my desire and what I cannot experience. So I think I may have to just cope with the lack of it or eventually just not exist anymore so it isn't an issue.

NO NO NO!! BV!, dude, I am ready to bitchslap you in a brotherly way! You sound like you are in a bad place! I hate to hear you like this, and I don't even know you! make up for it with CONFIDENCE and PERSONALITY. Yes, being the funny jolly fat guy will get you some attention, and MOST women will then walk away and put you in the "friends" shelf, but there will be one, one day, taht will stay behind, see beyond the fat, one you maybe didn't notice (oh yeah, because we have Vogue-induced woman image hangups too!). She will be your one... but you gotta get out there and tell the world "I am not perfect, si f**cking what?"

TastesLikeBurning wrote: »

Sex drive has gone up. I think the act itself is better. However, unfortunately, the frequency has not exactly gone up.

This^^ Although since my husband and I both have lost its not as pleasant in that I feel alot of bones. Not much padding on us to cushion things. But, otherwise it's only gotten better. More stamina, means longer "sessions". I do wish it was more frequent though.

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This one will be a tough one to answer but I have thought about it. My Ex and I split before I started losing. It was okay. Not great but okay. Started seeing a new girl though. It will be long distance for a bit but she will be moving near me in June.

I WAS 320lbs and the Ex was 180lbs. I hope to get to 215 lbs. Problem I am now dealing with is the new girl is 5'6" and 120lbs. I am currently 280.

My new fear is will I still look and feel like a fat *kitten* with the new girl even at my goal weight....I have said it before about this weight loss thing...It is so mental on so many levels.

The new girl is actually the girl I dated in High School and first year of College. I was about the 215 back then and things were excellent so the reality is that they will be excellent again.

Once I know for sure i will get back to you. Let me know if want any photo or video evidence.

BFDeal wrote: »

Yes, being the funny jolly fat guy will get you some attention, and MOST women will then walk away and put you in the "friends" shelf, but there will be one, one day, taht will stay behind, see beyond the fat, one you maybe didn't notice (oh yeah, because we have Vogue-induced woman image hangups too!). She will be your one

This is the problem with "feel good" advice people give to fat guys. I got this same advice. As a fat guy you're expected to wait for that ONE girl who's finally going to like you one day. Well OK. One woman. One day. Hopefully. Maybe. Under the right circumstances. After she's bored plowing through regular guys. Like in her mid 30s, maybe 40s. Until then you wait though. It'll happen. Just keep your fingers crossed (just in case don't hold your breath though). Meanwhile every other dudes are hooking up like crazy. They're getting in relationships. They're getting out of them. They're hooking up at bars. In college. They're getting numbers. But you wait for that ONE. Please people. Stop promoting this "wait for that special girl" BS.

It's not feel good advice. It's MY experience. I married a woman 5 leagues above mine, 20 years ago. Look at my picture dude, it aint pretty. Maybe I am an outlier, or maybe you are wrong. Anyway, maybe the OP is right, women will never want him, EVEN after he loses weight, as he suggests. Maybe he is wasting his time. What is your suggestion?

fat2fit4good wrote: »

BV1980 wrote: »

I am 34 years old and have been fat my whole life. I have been 400+ lbs (452 lbs being the highest) for quite a while now. So, I have never been able to be successful with getting a girlfriend or having a sex life. My body is ruined because my flaw in my life has been overeating. Even if I lose the weight, I will be a mess of skin and not what girls want, so I doubt losing weight will improve, or I should say create, a sex life for me. Since it is something I want very badly, I may have to live with this unfulfilled desire, pay for it (which wouldn't be what I want and I would still be unfulfilled), or distract myself constantly with work or hobbies or whatever. I don't think distraction would work though since sex is everywhere and you cannot escape it. It is a constant reminder of my desire and what I cannot experience. So I think I may have to just cope with the lack of it or eventually just not exist anymore so it isn't an issue.

NO NO NO!! BV!, dude, I am ready to bitchslap you in a brotherly way! You sound like you are in a bad place! I hate to hear you like this, and I don't even know you! make up for it with CONFIDENCE and PERSONALITY. Yes, being the funny jolly fat guy will get you some attention, and MOST women will then walk away and put you in the "friends" shelf, but there will be one, one day, taht will stay behind, see beyond the fat, one you maybe didn't notice (oh yeah, because we have Vogue-induced woman image hangups too!). She will be your one... but you gotta get out there and tell the world "I am not perfect, si f**cking what?"

Agreed with this and the other such comments. BV what's unattractive about you is your down on yourself attitude. You can fix that too.

My husband was likely over 400 lbs when I met him. Never phased me because his personality was just so awesome (and my type has traditionally been tall and rail-thin, so it's not like I was ever into fat dudes). He's a total flirt and to this day random women give him their number (he has lost quite a bit of weight but is still firmly in the mid-300s).

Desperation also comes off very poorly. There is a line where it's attractive flirting and off-putting desperation and the difference between the two can often be the confidence with which comments are delivered. My husband has said some rather direct things to ladies and it's actually worked so I'm convinced it's in the delivery. Also helps to be directing said comments at sexually open women. Cons and the gaming world seem to be chock full of those.

You sound like a smart dude who has a lot to offer but you probably need to believe that first before anyone else is going to see it in you as well.

As for OPs question I can't say as I am not there... yet

At my lightest (122#, 5'4) sex was actually painful...not awesome. Ive put weight on again (trying to take it off) and my goal isnt to be that thin again!

fat2fit4good wrote: »

my arm doesn't get as tired as before...

Lol