Struggling with Body/Self Hate Lately

Hello. I know how you feel. I use to weight 260 lbs and now Im 175 lb. The biggest thing to do is to not focus on the current you but on what you want your body to look like. Don't get too concerned of what others may think of you. Its a journey we all have to go through in order to change for the better. Not only make this journey or diet temporary, make it a lifestyle. Continue doing what you doing consistently. 25 lbs is great to lose. Just keep on going and all of your hard work will pay off. I promise you. It just takes time and effort.

Use the video you are doing as motivation, as a "before" video. Tell yourself that it will be worth it to look back in a year or two time, when you are at goal or closer to it, to see how far you've come.

The feelings that you're describing indicate to me that you would do well from seeking professional treatment.

I've struggled with the type of self-hate that you've described, and the only thing that really helped was counseling. If you see a therapist, they can help you find healthier ways to relate to your body.

I will say this- tackling this now is important, because if you don't confront it, it won't just go away on its own. You won't feel happy with your body no matter how much (or little) you weigh.

I like what someone said earlier about putting positive affirmations around your home- self talk is really really important! The things that we think influence how we feel, and I'm a huge believer in "fake it 'till you make it" when it comes to self talk. Even if you don't FEEL beautiful, tell yourself that you are, every single day. If you start to feel things like disgust for your body, forcibly think something positive about it. Consider all the things that your body does for you, and how hard it works when you push it to. If you work on appreciating your body for what it is now, weight and all, you'll be happier for it.

Tape pieces of paper to your fridge, your walls, your mirror, reminding you to be kind to yourself, and to treat yourself as you would a friend. Write things that you love about yourself on them, in big letters and bold colors, so that they're easy to find when you need them.

Loving yourself is hard work, but it's so worth it. Even on days when it doesn't feel true, eat like you love yourself, move like you love yourself, act like you love yourself. Eventually, these prophecies are self-fulfilling and they start to come true.

No good things inside the self are ever born of fear or hatred or disgust. Good things are born of hope and love, as cheesy as it sounds. It's entirely true. You'll get further if you can find a way to accept who you are now.

Feel free to add me as a friend, if you like. I'm always willing to lend an ear or a bit of support.

(but I still think looking into counseling would be very helpful for you)

You aren't the first, and you definitely won't be the last, person to feel self-conscious or hate how they look. My best friend of 15 years (who is actually under-weight) constantly tells me how ashamed she is of her appearance. We all see the worst in ourselves until we make the mental shift to see the best.

I spent years hating how I looked...being ashamed that I was the "big girl". I refused to eat in public or participate in many activities because I didn't want people to stop and stare or point. Finally, I realized that the people around me weren't judging me. I was the one seeing myself that way...and it needed to stop.

Remember, we're all beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Take a step back and be proud of your accomplishments. Be proud that you are making a change for yourself. Be proud that you are doing something so many people struggle with...and remember, you aren't alone.