online dating

I'm introverted, too, and always found it easier to meet people online. At first it would hurt to be 'rejected' online, but then you have to realize how anonymous the whole thing is. It's not like you're saying hi to someone in a bar and they are completely ignoring you. Plus...when you come across someone you may not be very interested in, you don't have to waste your time, either. It's just the nature of the beast...don't take it personally...and realize there are sooo many people on those sites that you'll meet people eventually.

Many people use it now and seems to have some great results.

Personally, I married someone I met on a dating site years ago (before it was cool to date online).

She was a nutter.

Just be sure you get to know whomever it is (and get proof of what they tell you) before you buy into a lifetime of "happiness."

Look at it like being a matter of probability. The more messages you shoot out, the better chances you'll have with getting a reply. I met my wife on Match about 4 years ago.

Been stuck in online dating forever. No luck. There are a lot of weirdos online, a lot of married men. Once you get through that, it's ok I guess. Some people meet some great people online. Me....no luck.

Well... I can't really relate to this because I never tried a dating site & I met my husband at work. I do know several people who have had great relationships with people they met online though, and 2 of them have since gotten married.

I met my husband of two years online. I went on a LOT of dates before finally meeting "the one" . There are also a lot of scammers so beware..

My best advice is not to invest too much time into any one person before you meet them.. Keep a lot irons in the fire at one time. From the time I first chat with someone until my first meeting I usually tried to make within one week.. No sense in wasting time on someone who you don't have any real-life chemistry with. With my husband we chatted for three weeks before meeting, but that was only because he lived 250 miles away from me. I was convinced that it was not going to be any big deal because I didn't really think he was anything special while we were chatting online, but I figured why not give it a shot.. BEST move I ever made. From the first time I met him in person I knew he would be the love of my life.

I so go for it as well. I meet my fiance online and couldn't be happier.

Me too!

Anyone tried it or trying it? I'm a pretty introverted person, so it's been seeming to be the best route, but recently having my messages ignored a lot has gotten me down about it. =/

That's because you are a man.

Any reasonably attractive woman with a well-written profile gets a minimum of DOZENS of responses per day. (I used to online date and went on a lot of dates, so I had a great profile!) At first, I tried to respond to everyone but it was just impossible.

So here are some tips:

-When you respond to a profile, mention something specific from the profile. Show that you actually READ it!

-Don't write a novel. I used to feel so bad when I'd get this long email from some guy giving me his whole life story, but I never ever went out with any of those guys. Not one.

Your response should be sincere, playful if you can manage it, no more than about 10 lines and should mention something from her profile.

-Don't give up! Even though I didn't respond to everyone, I did go back and check responses later on. I ended up in a fairly lengthy relationship with someone I hadn't even noticed at first because his reply came on a day that I got a lot of replies. But I saw it later on (months, in fact) and contacted him.

-Before you write your profile, do some market research. First, do a search on guys similar to you. Read their profiles. 99% of them will be gawdawful. Take notes and learn how to improve yours. Then do the reverse-- do a search on the types of girls you want to meet (or men--I don't know your orientation) and see what they seek. Highlight things about you that meet those. THEN re-do your profile. You'll see--99% of profiles are just awful, self-indulgent, often quite depressing drivel. It's pretty easy to improve on that.

-Don't send your replies out in the middle of the night. Yes, we do notice what time it was sent. If you send a girl a reply at 3AM, she's going to think you're only looking for a hook-up.

Phil, you so funny

Keep at it mate.

I wish I were a woman, it's so easy for woman to get guys. Woman are impossible to chat up these days in a pub/club. They are so self involved. Internet dating ftw!!

I met my husband on singlesnet dot com....I was a member of two other websites at the same time, he was a member of one of those, but we never perchanced up each other on the other web site. There are literally hundreds of thousands of people on these sites, it does take a long time to weed through them. I went on a lot of terrible dates, a lot, like...a lot A LOT! Have faith and don't let e-rejection get you down, they haven't rejected you, because they don't really know you.

contrary to popular belief its not as easy for women either. at least not for me. after reading some of these "women get all these messages" posts i'm starting to wonder what's wrong with me.

not only am i doing online dating and have met some great friends and horrific human beings, but i work for a pretty hardcore online dating site. i can't use the one i work for which makes me kinda sad but man all i hear all day long is "no one likes me" "my matches are fat/ugly/bald/old/lazy/unattractive/too far away" so on. and "omg i'm a success and we are soo happy! thank yoU!"

and then i go home and check my inboxes only to find them empty.

so yeah. its tough. but you brush yourself off and keep sending messages, get outside opinions on your profile and post the best pics you got. or have friends take great freakin pics. and the best advice i can give you is this... confidence is key. women as attracted to the fine balance of strength and sensitivity. arrogance isn't sexy and neither is a blubbering baby.

at this point in my dating career i've started to not car. LOL my current photo here is also my main photo on like every dating site i'm on just to see what would happen :P

I have, I met a great guy on singlesnet. Sadly I met him at the wrong time and ended up breaking it off for no good reason. Now I'm more focused on getting myself in shape so I don't really have time for dating but I would try dating sites again in the future.

I met my hubby on eHarmony and we've been married for 4 years now and together for 6. Best decision I ever made. I'm not introverted myself, I'm just a pain in the butt. I'm very outspoken and stubborn and it really takes a special person to deal with me. eHarmony allowed me to get matched to people that can handle someone like me. :-)