I am hurting ......:(
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Go to the gym! Dead lift!0
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You must be a teenager-5
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Few days ago , my ex that I was with and still in love with informed me that he is now dating another girl and he likes her a lot.It was one if the most painful things I ever heard.How can one get past this ...................:(
I read an article recently about the Law of F** Yes or No. This law states: only pursue people who are excited to be with you, and that you are excited to be with. After all, why would you want to be with someone who you constantly have to convince?
Here's the link if you'd like to look it over.
I've found this to be very true in my own life. I dated men who I wasn't particularly excited about but treated me well, or who I was excited about but who clearly didn't feel the same. When both parties are excited, when both say "F*** yeah!", you'll find that things get very, very easy and clear. There are no games, no rules, no waiting around, no insecurities, no angst, no wondering what's going on. It's extremely refreshing.
Finding someone who not only gave me butterflies, but who wasn't shy about letting me know about his own butterflies, has been astonishing and beautiful, and I would recommend that absolutely every human being wait until you find that. Don't settle for contentment, or worse, having to constantly chase someone down and beg them to stay.
If you don't feel a F*** Yes! and see an equal F*** Yes! on the other side, then just say No.0 -
SnuggleSmacks wrote: »Few days ago , my ex that I was with and still in love with informed me that he is now dating another girl and he likes her a lot.It was one if the most painful things I ever heard.How can one get past this ...................:(
I read an article recently about the Law of F** Yes or No. This law states: only pursue people who are excited to be with you, and that you are excited to be with. After all, why would you want to be with someone who you constantly have to convince?
Here's the link if you'd like to look it over.
I've found this to be very true in my own life. I dated men who I wasn't particularly excited about but treated me well, or who I was excited about but who clearly didn't feel the same. When both parties are excited, when both say "F*** yeah!", you'll find that things get very, very easy and clear. There are no games, no rules, no waiting around, no insecurities, no angst, no wondering what's going on. It's extremely refreshing.
Finding someone who not only gave me butterflies, but who wasn't shy about letting me know about his own butterflies, has been astonishing and beautiful, and I would recommend that absolutely every human being wait until you find that. Don't settle for contentment, or worse, having to constantly chase someone down and beg them to stay.
If you don't feel a F*** Yes! and see an equal F*** Yes! on the other side, then just say No.
So many people need to read that! Great article and summary
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How do you get over it? TIME! That's the only answer I can give you that makes sense. Sure it's painful, but based on what you stated, it's still new. Pain is temporary, pride lasts forever. Take pride in yourself first and foremost. When that sets in, you'll begin to see your healing.0
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Life is too short to spend it wanting someone who doesn't want you. It hurts, yup. Probably will for a good long while. But you need to start looking in the other direction.
you can't control how you feel about it, but you can control what you do with those feelings.0 -
Two wolves fighting in front of you, one is sorrow one is happiness, which one wins?
The one you feed. So feed happiness.0 -
Awwww, I know how you feel Darling0
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A starving wolf can be more ferocious.0
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Personally speaking though, and in all seriousness, the only thing that's ever worked for me is distance. And even then it doesn't stop, you just think about it less. I love you Angel Villareal, always will.0
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pinkiezoom wrote: »Two wolves fighting in front of you, one is sorrow one is happiness, which one wins?
The one you feed. So feed happiness.
I like that!!
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I take it out at the gym.0
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pinkiezoom wrote: »Two wolves fighting in front of you, one is sorrow one is happiness, which one wins?
The one you feed. So feed happiness.
I like that!!
me too0 -
chrisskellinton wrote: »you will get over it.... will happen a lot.
BE NICE0 -
I wish I could say there is a magic fix but there isn't. It just takes time. Stay busy, spend time with friends, go to the gym, get rid of (or at least put away) photo's and memento's.0
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Men and women are different, her heart is still tender, sometimes compassion is best thing you can give to another that's hurtingchrisskellinton wrote: »its the realist approach.
Trust me I'm a psychologist...forward works sometimes.
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The best revenge is living well... focus on becoming the best possible you... in no time... YOU will be so over him0
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The best way to get past it is to just move on and not dwell on it. He is an ex for a reason.0
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The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.
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*hugs* Time and jumping into new hobbies help. Keep yourself busy 0
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stephanieluvspb wrote: »Teenagers aren't the only people hurt by someone they love, wow
OP hasn't been hurt by someone she loves, unless that someone is herself. He's her ex. He's moving on.
What exactly is he doing wrong here?
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SnuggleSmacks wrote: »Few days ago , my ex that I was with and still in love with informed me that he is now dating another girl and he likes her a lot.It was one if the most painful things I ever heard.How can one get past this ...................:(
I read an article recently about the Law of F** Yes or No. This law states: only pursue people who are excited to be with you, and that you are excited to be with. After all, why would you want to be with someone who you constantly have to convince?
Here's the link if you'd like to look it over.
I've found this to be very true in my own life. I dated men who I wasn't particularly excited about but treated me well, or who I was excited about but who clearly didn't feel the same. When both parties are excited, when both say "F*** yeah!", you'll find that things get very, very easy and clear. There are no games, no rules, no waiting around, no insecurities, no angst, no wondering what's going on. It's extremely refreshing.
Finding someone who not only gave me butterflies, but who wasn't shy about letting me know about his own butterflies, has been astonishing and beautiful, and I would recommend that absolutely every human being wait until you find that. Don't settle for contentment, or worse, having to constantly chase someone down and beg them to stay.
If you don't feel a F*** Yes! and see an equal F*** Yes! on the other side, then just say No.
I love this and its so true. I've dated guys I wasn't that excited about and vice versa. Now I'm with someone I'm crazy excited about and he feels the same. It's the best relationship I've ever been in. We've had problems, but who doesn't. But I rather be with him through those problems than anyone else.
You're going to have to give it time and seriously keep him out of your life. No talking to him, no Facebook or other social media stalking. Don't stalk his current girlfriend. Just take a vacation from him and work on you. Things will get better. You work on you and someday when you least expect it someone a whole heck of a lot better will come along and all this crap you are feeling now will have been worth it.0 -
stephanieluvspb wrote: »Teenagers aren't the only people hurt by someone they love, wow
OP hasn't been hurt by someone she loves, unless that someone is herself. He's her ex. He's moving on.
What exactly is he doing wrong here?
You right he did nothing wrong. That is not the point of this post from OP.
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CarolinaCricket wrote: »I wish I could say there is a magic fix but there isn't. It just takes time. Stay busy, spend time with friends, go to the gym, get rid of (or at least put away) photo's and memento's.
This. I went through a painful breakup a long time ago, and honestly, the only thing that fixed it was time. Finding my own hobbies. "Finding myself" as cliche as that sounds. I still talk to him on occasion, but the pain is no longer there finally. (I also hid him from my newsfeed as I'm not interested in seeing him and his beau.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »stephanieluvspb wrote: »Teenagers aren't the only people hurt by someone they love, wow
OP hasn't been hurt by someone she loves, unless that someone is herself. He's her ex. He's moving on.
What exactly is he doing wrong here?
You right he did nothing wrong. That is not the point of this post from OP.
I wasn't replying to the OP
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yopeeps025 wrote: »stephanieluvspb wrote: »Teenagers aren't the only people hurt by someone they love, wow
OP hasn't been hurt by someone she loves, unless that someone is herself. He's her ex. He's moving on.
What exactly is he doing wrong here?
You right he did nothing wrong. That is not the point of this post from OP.
I wasn't replying to the OP
In your reply you are talking about OP.
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stephanieluvspb wrote: »Teenagers aren't the only people hurt by someone they love, wow
OP hasn't been hurt by someone she loves, unless that someone is herself. He's her ex. He's moving on.
What exactly is he doing wrong here?
No one claimed he did anything wrong here. The OP stated she was still in love with her ex, and he was moving on and it hurt. Totally normal feelings if you haven't moved on yet. It is time to let yourself grieve and distance yourself from him so you can heal and move on yourself. It takes time, but it can be done.0
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