Has anyone been told that they are getting too skinny?

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  • aylajane
    aylajane Posts: 979 Member
    Yep! Its actually kind of funny now - have been lifting all year and am just starting to "bulk" to gain maybe 5 pounds of muscle over the next few months/year. I am eating more now (2000-2500 calories) than i ever did dieting over the past few years (seriously a year under 1000 calories a day, avg was probably 1400 while losing weight). So now when they say "You need to eat" and shove food in my face, I grab it and say "You bet!" and chow down. So now they think I am bulemic or only eat in public, and that is why I am staying skinny while eating all the food they keep throwing at me :) I absolutely LOVE having a working/energetic metabolism - all that muscle needs some FOOD!
  • Vitaphobia
    Vitaphobia Posts: 21
    the world we are living is gradually increasing, as food portions grow clothing sizes get bigger and then a large from 20 years ago is a small currently. people are being trained to see bigger because the low quality large portion diet is growing people and they don't want to fix it, just bandage it with size changes.
    these fads come and go sometimes, there was the pinup girl of the 20's and then twiggy started the slim craze, now with all the large bottoms in the media the semi-curvy is back?

    as long as you are healthy and feel good inside your body you should be any shape/size you want.
  • hgwill78
    hgwill78 Posts: 64 Member
    Yes, and at Thanksgiving I think every family member had to give me their opinion on my weight and had to ask exactly how much I weigh now. I'm 5'4" and 130 pounds, exactly healthy for the first time in my life! My mom even had to say "she doesn't eat enough" to an aunt as I was sitting there stuffing my face with pumpkin AND pecan pie! They are all overweight though and have no idea what a healthy weight even looks like. It annoys me, but I ignore them mostly and go on about my life. I also heard several of my family members sitting around the table comparing their diet related diseases and long list of medication and thought "wow, and you guys are worried I'm unhealthy?!?". It was mind boggling!
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Gosh yes. It drives me nuts. The problem is that my weight is mostly on my hips and belly at this point (can't really tell with the belly though as I have a lot of loose skin), so sure, my arms and leg might look skinny, but I'm definitely not (I'm 5'5" and 133 pounds).
  • WickedPineapple
    WickedPineapple Posts: 698 Member
    I don't think anyone's ever used the term skinny when describing me, much less too skinny. I'm large framed with thick limbs, so nothing on me will really ever be "skinny". Whenever anyone's brought up my fat loss, it's typically positive. However, I did get accused of having an eating disorder from my best friend, which was lovely...

    Anywho, from the other perspective, I did say something similar to my (other) best friend once (that she shouldn't lose anymore). It was genuine concern. She lost quite a bit and it changed her face dramatically. Also, I know the methods she uses, and I don't quite agree with them and worry she's harming herself in the long run. But she's set on what she's doing (and has been for a long time now), and I haven't commented since that one time.
  • NikonPal
    NikonPal Posts: 1,346 Member
    Many times.

    I think some people are so shocked at the image change – that don’t fully understand just how “FAT” I was…and will say things like “you’re not going to lose any more are you?” When I say “yes” another 11-20 pounds, they will come back with another comment.

    My response at that point is usually – “If you can show me “any” reputable height / weight / BMI chart that shows I am the healthy weight for someone my height/weight/age/BMI – I’ll stop immediately."

    I know they can’t and that sort of ends the discussion.

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  • maria0elisa
    maria0elisa Posts: 199 Member
    dblanch2013 wrote: »
    amy0louise wrote: »
    ergh yes, all the time. It's annoying becauuuse:
    1) it's your body and no-one else's
    2) I *am* eating enough
    3) Ironically, it has made me think more about my weight and made me more self-conscious/anxious not to gain it all back.
    When people are constantly telling you you're too skinny, you realise how much others do see and comment on your weight. When you're overweight, people might think you are, but no-one tells you and you don't realise it, or admit to your situation. So when you're overweight, you might think that no-one cares about you weight, but really they do...
    Anyway I guess that point is irrelevant because it brings me back to number 1..!

    Exactly! At first it was flattering, but like you, it has made me more self conscious/anxious that people were constantly judging me before.

    Sometimes being overly complimented can backfire. I have noticed that whenever people push on, and go on a bit excessively sometimes, about how "good you look/different you look!", at first I find the compliment flattering but then the wondering starts...Did I look THAT bad before? I have only lost about 20-25 pounds depending on the month and I am 5'8, so I can't help but wonder...and feel kind of low/horrified at the thought of gaining weight again.

    Also, most of the time, from a peer standpoint and especially from women, it comes off a bit like deep-seeded jealously. And I have been asked/confronted more than once if I have an eating disorder.

    And the answer is, no, not at all, I just eat healthier and work out, which I never used to do. But the constant questioning and emphasis does put a damper on it depending on the mood.

    Overall, I try to just ignore it.

    Hi sorry I've only just seen that you replied.
    Yeah, it's really bad :/ basically, making comments about other people's bodies is not ok!!! But hey, as long as we know this we can keep brushing that dirt of ya shoulder ha.

    Yes, I totally agree. I hate how people categorise others into 'overweight' or 'anorexic'- and those are the two extremes we are exposed to in the media.
    The junk food industry and the diet industry are two sides of the same coin really, both feeding emotional eating.

    This is why I've found MFP so good because it's been one of the few places that has taught me about moderation and the middle ground.
  • MagnumBurrito
    MagnumBurrito Posts: 1,070 Member
    I did take things too far about 4 years back. Had a friend who hadn't seen me in awhile say, are you on the crack diet. Kind of woke me up to start adding muscle and not just keep a low bf level.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    People are saying it to me. Not just friends and acquaintances but trainers at the gym, who aren't even my trainers. I'm 5'4" and JUST BARELY hit 139. I don't really understand that.
  • Parkes1993
    Parkes1993 Posts: 123 Member
    I've been getting that a bit lately but it's part of my programe and routine to lose the body fat before stating to build good lean muscle ...... People don't realise what kinda shape your in under your cloths lol .... The way I look at it is Id rather look like I do than all the people that seem to have the problem ....
  • happyvalentinesday
    happyvalentinesday Posts: 47 Member
    When I was thin and lost weight I was told that n I was like eww get away. I was wondering if I was too skinny n started eating more cause after all I was too skinny right ? Lol as long as you feel good and are eating and staying hydrated then youre fine. Dont let people get to youm theyre just concerned which is nice so be kind to yourself and lose the weight in a healthy way.
  • Revonue
    Revonue Posts: 135 Member
    edited December 2014
    Yep. From most people I think their hearts are in the right places.
    But my mother has gone as far as saying that I'm "losing" my "figure", that I look pale and other such comments. I'm 5'4" and 145, so I'm literally just barely in the healthy range.
    The comments have gone from making me feel a bit proud to becoming irritating. I'd really rather people don't comment on my weight at all if they can't keep it to a simple compliment and then move on.
  • SuggaD
    SuggaD Posts: 1,369 Member
    I used to get it all the time. I still get remarks about how thin I am on occasion. I don't see it though. I'm 5'6, 123 on average and muscular and still trying to tone up my problem spots. I attribute it to jealousy and just ignore especially as the people making the comments always ask me how I lost the weight and hope it's something other than the truth--an active lifestyle and healthy eating.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    edited December 2014
    Most people who say things like, "you don't need to lose anymore weight" are actually trying to compliment you. Talking about ones weight is a bit taboo and people are just trying to do the best they can to be complimentary. In reality, they may think you still need to lose some weight, but saying so would be quite rude wouldn't it...

    Others are just used to seeing overweight people which is more the norm so they don't really know what a good, healthy weight looks like...but in my experience, most people are just trying to be complimentary.

    I could give a *kitten* anyone so it really doesn't matter either way for me. Also, I'm not trying to be skinny so nothing to worry about there....I'm "overweight" with about 15% BF...so people can go suck it.
  • SingingSingleTracker
    SingingSingleTracker Posts: 1,866 Member
    In most cases, if we consider who is concerned about us being too skinny, it is easy to disregard the remarks.

    I don't know what a collection of data would say about the comments coming more from those who are outside of the normal weight range that we have attained, but I certainly factor that in if and when I get a comment.
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