what a way to make me feel like *kitten*

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  • edorice
    edorice Posts: 4,519 Member
    Is it possible that he knows first hand what you have already accomplished and he knows that you're on this site trying to keep yourself accountable?

    Is it possible that he doesn't want to hear that you gain 4-10 pounds over night because of the sodium and simple sugars that you took in?

    Is it possible that he lit into you out of love?
  • sweetsarahj
    sweetsarahj Posts: 701 Member
    I agree you should mention how much it bothered you. And explain WHY. And let him know that as women, we sometimes take criticism and stuff it back down our throats, with food. And then let him know what might have been a better way to express his support. Sometimes men just don't get it, they don't think the way we do.

    And maybe tell him your LBS lost isn't due the BS he is givin' you.

    One of the best things I ever did was explain to my naturally lithe guy, "Look, I know you don't get my food-crazy. I really want you to be supportive of me while I try to do this. And I know you're willing to help. Here's how you can help me: If you see me reaching for crap, ask me if I'd like to go for a walk. That can be our secret code for you're worried I'm about to make a decision I'm going to regret. And if I tell you NO, I don't want to go for a walk, leave it alone."

    Great idea!
  • fatskintslug
    fatskintslug Posts: 2 Member
    Its my first day on here, and i've never heard of this about sodium and 'food weight' please can someone explain how this works a little more? I'm quite interested, because every time ive dieted in the past i've put on 5lbs as SOON as i've had 1 bad day and this has resulted in me just thinking stuff it, as soon as i eat i gain it all again!

    If there is a good reason for this weight every time i have a binge day, id love to learn more about it, so that i know for future reference. Can salt really make you heavier? Does crappy food really stick to your insides and make you heavier for a couple of days? I always assumed it was just the body clinging on to the fat you eat because its been starved of it?
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    My husband told me I'd gained 2 lbs in the last week because I was putting squirty cream on 4 strawberries the other day. Yeah, a couple of grams of cream isn't going to make me gain 2 lbs, but thanks.

    I think our family/friends find it hard to strike a balance between being supportive (including active "don't eat that!" support) and being rude.
  • beckyme21
    beckyme21 Posts: 29 Member
    He's probably only trying to be helpful! I always make my fella promise me to stop me from eating rubbish but as soon as he says something when Im halfway through a pack of biscuits he gets shouted at by me!
  • wiggleroom
    wiggleroom Posts: 322 Member
    Just talk to him about it. We're only getting your side of the story, he could be frustrated with your swinging diet habits. Who knows? I don't. You two do.

    Let's not flip out and rip the guy to pieces...

    edit: glad you guys talked. appeared it was in the tough love category. which, of course, isn't for everyone.

    Ditto to all of that!

    To many of the other posters ... let's not turn this into a male-bashing session. Some of the meanest things that have ever been said to me were by other women! If/when someone upsets you, call it what it is: a mistake. Not an incurable character flaw or a sign that their entire gender is inferior! =)
  • tammyquinnlmt
    tammyquinnlmt Posts: 680 Member
    Men !! Can't live with 'em.........

    so you bury them in the back yard and skip out to a Mexican beach somewhere....LOL
  • Zara11
    Zara11 Posts: 1,247 Member
    Just talk to him about it. We're only getting your side of the story, he could be frustrated with your swinging diet habits. Who knows? I don't. You two do.

    Let's not flip out and rip the guy to pieces...

    edit: glad you guys talked. appeared it was in the tough love category. which, of course, isn't for everyone.

    Ditto to all of that!

    To many of the other posters ... let's not turn this into a male-bashing session. Some of the meanest things that have ever been said to me were by other women! If/when someone upsets you, call it what it is: a mistake. Not an incurable character flaw or a sign that their entire gender is inferior! =)

    Yup.
    I'm a fan of tough love (not all the time, and I make it clear when it's not useful) so unless this is a recurring event with other symptoms of rudeness/verbal slap-downs I generally err on the side of caution.
  • chiccloset777
    chiccloset777 Posts: 34 Member
    My husband use to say stuff to me...But I wasnt going to put up with it!!! So what if where married.and i dont have a body like i did in my 20's...Im not in my 20's anymore and ive had a kid and its my mouth and i can put whatever i like in it!!! BTW my husband eays like crap all the time and never gains a pound!!
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    My father does this to me all the time. Go ahead and eat that.. or why don't you just apply it directly to your hips? All I want to do is scream at him that he needs to shut his mouth because he lays around all day, eats junk/ massive portions, and is on all sorts of medicine for blood pressure and cholesterol. I, on the other hand, am on no medication and have a blood pressure that is lower then what is normal for my age.. when I remind him of that factor, he just looks at me because he knows its true.

    My advice, don't worry about hubby. When he realizes how much better you look and feel, he'll get his act together.
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