My Last Chance

I first want to thank you for your post! I admire your openheartedness. I know it is hard to put all of this out there.

I also want to say that in doing this post, you are already trying to change your life. You want advice and I believe you are headed down the right "mental" thinking.

However, as with most people struggling to be committed, I think it is hard to connect your mind to your heart/soul/body (or whatever you want to call it). Just because you KNOW you need to lose weight or to not eat that second donut or whatever, you heart isn't into it. It becomes a determination/will power issue. My sister has the same problem and I struggled with it for a long time. At a certain point, things just clicked for me. I guess I will call it my "aha" moment.

About a year after my daughter was born, my husband made a comment about having a second child and I immediately knew I didn't want to be obese for my second pregnancy, so I just started. My "heart" and mind were finally on the same page. I know you said you have a little one on the way (Congratulations, by the way. It is an amazing journey.), is there some part of you or leverage you can use as that final piece of the puzzle?

Now, some advice on how to get started. In the beginning, for me, setting out small goals was key. Thinking about how much weight I needed to lose made me freak out and I felt like I was going to fail already....before I even started. So, try to make a goal of losing 5 pounds, or only drinking one can of soda per week. Whatever it is, just set them, write them down and do them.

Today make a goal to take a walk for 10 minutes...and do it! Something small and remember that if you eat terribly at one meal doesn't mean you ruin the whole day. Track it and move on. If you get back on track for the day or even the week, think of how many calories you are saving.

I also know that emotional eating is tough to overcome. I had a bad spout this summer with lung infections and chronic coughing that just brought me down and depressed. With the help of steroids (you never feel full), I gained 27 pounds in 3 months. I am just now getting back on track, dusting myself off and moving on. It sucks...BIG TIME!

I know this is long and full of randomness, but you CAN do this! One small change at a time! There are a ton of inspiration stories on here and all throughout the web.

Good Luck!

cmrevolution wrote: »

I just feel like if I can't get motivated now, then I'm not sure I have much time left, and you can interpret that however you feel most comfortable.

Well, you've taken a great first step by joining here. I'm sure you can find lots of people here willing to cheer on you, myself included. Feel free to add me as a friend if you want to.

Just take it easy and start out slow and you'll see the pounds starting to melt away. The most important thing is to just stick with it. Once you get the ball rolling you'll find that the way you feel after every lost pound is the best motivator in it self.

I was the heavy kid growing up so I can totally understand where you're coming from. I was "too fat to be a cheerleader" at schoole. My brother (much older) actually offered to by me a whole new wardrobe when I was around 14 if I lost 50 pounds. He didn't recognize me last Christmas.

All I can really say to you is if this is what you want start now and just go. Take pictures and measurements as you are now and not selfies, have your wife take a full on picture you'll want it later.

It took me 13+ years to make my full transformation, started out with just a 15 minute walk each day and putting down the fork when I wasn't hungry. I've changed many things over the years but each day is a new beginning, you have to accept each day like that. Your knees are going to ache a whole lot more until they get used to the walks but soon you'll start feeling the other benefits of the walk. Park a little further away at work, start with that, job stressing you out, take a quick walk, use the bathroom on the other end of the building whatever little changes you can make and go from there. I wouldn't worry too much about weight goals just yet I'd focus on just making little changes each day.

Good luck to you, congratulations on becoming a husband and daddy. I'd be happy to have you as a friend but I warn you I will be expecting you to provide comic relief on occasion. I also tend to have random outbursts, just happens, my filter broke a few years back. hehe

I have learn from personal exspearance that when I lose the weight I was the same person. I did get a few compaments but I have people say I was too thin. Its about self compassion for ones self. Changing out of fear only work short term IMHO

You can do it. Trust me when I say that you can. You have so much to live for. Your daughter and your wife.

Since you're starting out, the most valuable asset you could have is a digital scale. Weigh your food in grams before you eat. Don't guess grams after you eat. Good luck

You are not alone and you can achieve your goal if you work for it. You have lots of support here! My husband is a big guy too and he finally decided enough was enough and he has lost 30 pounds. It's not about going on a diet too lose some weight, it's about making a lifestyle change and getting healthy. You can do it! I'll send you a friend request and I will be glad to help you in anyway that I can. :-)