online dating

Keep at it mate.

I wish I were a woman, it's so easy for woman to get guys. Woman are impossible to chat up these days in a pub/club. They are so self involved. Internet dating ftw!!

I met my husband on singlesnet dot com....I was a member of two other websites at the same time, he was a member of one of those, but we never perchanced up each other on the other web site. There are literally hundreds of thousands of people on these sites, it does take a long time to weed through them. I went on a lot of terrible dates, a lot, like...a lot A LOT! Have faith and don't let e-rejection get you down, they haven't rejected you, because they don't really know you.

contrary to popular belief its not as easy for women either. at least not for me. after reading some of these "women get all these messages" posts i'm starting to wonder what's wrong with me.

not only am i doing online dating and have met some great friends and horrific human beings, but i work for a pretty hardcore online dating site. i can't use the one i work for which makes me kinda sad but man all i hear all day long is "no one likes me" "my matches are fat/ugly/bald/old/lazy/unattractive/too far away" so on. and "omg i'm a success and we are soo happy! thank yoU!"

and then i go home and check my inboxes only to find them empty.

so yeah. its tough. but you brush yourself off and keep sending messages, get outside opinions on your profile and post the best pics you got. or have friends take great freakin pics. and the best advice i can give you is this... confidence is key. women as attracted to the fine balance of strength and sensitivity. arrogance isn't sexy and neither is a blubbering baby.

at this point in my dating career i've started to not car. LOL my current photo here is also my main photo on like every dating site i'm on just to see what would happen :P

I have, I met a great guy on singlesnet. Sadly I met him at the wrong time and ended up breaking it off for no good reason. Now I'm more focused on getting myself in shape so I don't really have time for dating but I would try dating sites again in the future.

I met my hubby on eHarmony and we've been married for 4 years now and together for 6. Best decision I ever made. I'm not introverted myself, I'm just a pain in the butt. I'm very outspoken and stubborn and it really takes a special person to deal with me. eHarmony allowed me to get matched to people that can handle someone like me. :-)

Met my wife online just over 8 years ago. AOL Arizona Chat HA HA HA Nothing like old school right? This was back when it was way not cool to meet people online. But we hit it off, and are happily married. We both hesitated for a while to tell people how we met because of the questioning we'd get. Now, it's so common for people to meet online.

ive done it, hasnt worked out for me yet. but i will say im still good friends with a lot of them. i still use plenty of fish dot com from time to time. but thats about the only one i use to actually dating... although i will say... theres a lot of hotties here!!! jk. most are married. sigh. ha.

That's because you are a man.
Any reasonably attractive woman with a well-written profile gets a minimum of DOZENS of responses per day. (I used to online date and went on a lot of dates, so I had a great profile!) At first, I tried to respond to everyone but it was just impossible.
So here are some tips:

This is a great response and some good advice as well.. I spent ages umming and arring about doing the whole online thing, but eventually did it and have done a few times since. Been on a few dates from it, one fairly serious, but didn't pan out.. It makes it a bit easier to break the ice and meet someone you wouldn't normally..

I find pubs/clubs etc nowadays difficult to chat to anyone, even mates, soo bloody loud (could be my age..haha), so online dating is not a bad start..

Good luck fella - she's out there for ya...

I met my wife on yahoo personals, best decision I have ever made. My buddy put me up to doing a profile and before I knew it, I met a bunch of girls, one that moved from New York to Florida, my wife, and then several others. I never had a problem going up to a woman at the bar as long as I had a few dozen drinks in me. Those never seemed to work out though. Take it slow, my wife and I first met online on 3/20, I finally got up the stones to go out with her on 4/08, we were engaged by 12/31 that year and married come October for 4 years.

I met my husband (now sadly deceased) online, and have had a profile for a couple of years since, and no luck yet.

So I have thought long and hard about what is different this time around. Firstly, you have to have an incredibly thick skin to do it, because as you have already found out, it is a numbers game and there are a lot of players. Basically, I think you have to be prepared to put in a lot of energy to kiss a lot of frogs. I believe most people use the shotgun method, sending out lots and lots of kisses to see what comes in. I just don't want to put that much energy in any more.

Another thing that has put me off is to see people I know on there and how they misrepresent themselves. Also, I think men my age (49) want much younger women, or a man is saying they are the same age as me and look 10 years older.

When I was doing the online thing before, the service I was using used to have great functions, with ice-breakers and I think I had more fun/luck with meeting people face-to-face there.

So I don't buy into the whole 'women have it easy' thing because I have not had much in the way of contact, and when I have it hasn't led anywhere.

Good luck, it can be really good, especially if it means you gain some confidence and social skills, meeting new people is always good. Very good advice already mentioned is not to invest too much into each contact, or too soon with anyone you meet, and always, always follow the 'rules' (i.e. not identifying yourself too much in the initial meeting etc.)

GG