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irishblonde2011
irishblonde2011 Posts: 618 Member
edited September 26 in Health and Weight Loss
So i am doing my moms hair and while i am doing it she brings up her sister(my auntie) and how she said i always have my hair and make up lovely(i am a hairdresser and worked as a make up artist for 5 years) you know where this is going..... and how i have such a lovely face....AND....i just need to loose a good bit of weight and i will be lovely. Inside i am thinking eh i do know that i have lost 14 lbs since feb and will get to my goal but seriously why are you having conversations about my weight.
My mom then changes the conversation(maybe because i started tugging on the hairbrush a bit harder hehe) about my sister and how she has a lovely figure and she is older than me and has two kids blah blah blah.

My mom and two sister are all uk size 6's(which i THINK is a u.s size 2?) and yes i already know i am the odd one out but seriously do i need to hear this EVERY SINGLE DAY. Funny thing is my mom eats SO MUCH junk but stays the same size,seriously she hits up mac ds nearly every day. Whenever i go walking she tells me sure you cant lose weight by walking. When i told my sister i lost 14 lbs since feb she looked me up and down and was like really?!!

Why do some family have to be like this? I am not looking for you to say anything nice just say nothing at all.
Thank God for my amazing boyfriend(he started with me and has also lost 14 lbs)

END OF RANT lol xxxx

Thank god for that little australia ticker!!!

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  • kbanzhaf
    kbanzhaf Posts: 601 Member
    Whenever i go walking she tells me sure you cant lose weight by walking.

    Hello Irishblonde2011,
    Please go to my home, and show your mom my before and after pictures. I lost (and have kept off) over 60 pounds and the ONLY exercise I do is WALK.....and I WALK.....and I WALK some more. Took some time yes, but I have also maintained my weight loss for almost four years.
    You are going about this the right way. Losing the weight slowly will help you keep it off as well.
    Good luck!
    Kaye
  • Charli666
    Charli666 Posts: 407
    families often do things like this without realising they are hurting us, tell her it upsets you, and dont let it bother you, you're doing great!!
  • Sherri0706
    Sherri0706 Posts: 64
    Sometimes I think that they honestly have no idea how hurtful their comments are. Just stay focused on your goal and rely on your friends here and your boyfriend for positive encouragement! 14 lbs is awesome! Keep it up!
  • anacsitham5
    anacsitham5 Posts: 810 Member
    I have the opposite problem. I consider my mom's actions and comments as sabotage. She complains that I don't eat enough and that she is offended when I won't eat any of the fattening foods she prepares when I visit. I just ignore the quilt trip. I've dropped 36 pounds and am loving it.
  • KLo924
    KLo924 Posts: 379 Member
    I just friended you - and I definitely understand! My family's a little different in their criticisms, but I think I know how you feel. Everyone in my fam. jokes around and teases each other, but it often gets kind of hurtful - I get made fun of for being overweight, and made fun of when I'm trying to do better (e.g. my dad making jokes he's going to donate money to an ambulance fund when he hears I'm signing up for a 5K, or making fun of my natural food choices (like the sugar cereals I grew up with or the fatty dips and snacks he puts out when I visit are so good!), etc.). Families can be rough!

    I'm slowly learning to love them while understanding I need to not react to them. I can't change them, but I can change myself, you know? Sometimes I feel like "Well I'll show you!" and then I crazy diet followed by eating out of control - so that's no good. And giving up isn't the answer. So, this has got to be for ourselves, I suppose.

    Do we love ourselves enough to try to be healthy, and love our family enough to just let them be and work on ourselves? That's where I'm trying to get to, I think.
  • Windi38
    Windi38 Posts: 164 Member
    gotta love family. *rolls eyes*

    Let me tell you something. My mom had 9 kids and was under a hundred pounds until after she had me and my twin brother. She never gained more than 10 pounds with any of the kids and only 18 with us twins. I have 4 brothers and 4 sisters. All of them are thin. None of them have to work at it.

    I am the ONLY one in the family that is overweight. My family has been pretty good about not saying anything about it, but I remember one time when we were getting together, one of my sisters teasingly called me "Chunky", like "hey there, Chunky, how are ya?" Sigh. I know she wasn't being mean, heck I've been overweight for like 15 years now, but still.......

    I totally feel like the odd one out and I remember complaining once about it, and my dad, who is rail thin and has weighed the same for 50 years, told me I was built just like his sister. BIG SIGH. The thing is, my sisters are not only thin, but they are also stick straight. No boobs to speak of, no butt, no hips.... I got it all. The bubble butt, the curvy waist (when I was skinny anyway) and the decent sized boobs. (thank goodness not huge). I have 2 sisters who can't even WEAR bras. The other 2 are size A.

    Personally, I'll take the extra curves, because when I get back into shape, I'll still have those curves and it'll be great. But having them seems to mean that I cannot be like the rest of my family and eat what I want and not exercise.

    Such is life.


    use your frustration as motivation!!! :) And hang in there!
  • KLo924
    KLo924 Posts: 379 Member

    one of my sisters teasingly called me "Chunky", like "hey there, Chunky, how are ya?" Sigh.

    I shouldn't laugh, but this cracked me up - because I'm totally there! I was called "Big K" growing up (my name's Kristin). Oh, family... . lol
  • Jellyphant
    Jellyphant Posts: 1,400 Member
    Just today, my sister in law called me prego. My in laws are just that way; blunt. Funny thing is, the family's full of fatties. So I don't even know. People just enjoy judging those who're sensitive to that kind of thing.
  • sinclare
    sinclare Posts: 369 Member
    I have the opposite problem. I consider my mom's actions and comments as sabotage. She complains that I don't eat enough and that she is offended when I won't eat any of the fattening foods she prepares when I visit. I just ignore the quilt trip. I've dropped 36 pounds and am loving it.

    lol we must be related. ;) she obesses about what i eat. how much. at what time.

    i gained 25 lbs in the last 10 years, and still she talks down to me like I am an anorexic 17 year old.

    I haven't eaten beef in 30 years but still she will make pork tenderloin when I come to town, then get Mad at Me!

    I am jealous of people whose families are supportive.
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