31 weeks ago today my life fell apart as i knew it....

btjsk
btjsk Posts: 1
edited September 27 in Introduce Yourself
Well,,,theres been some MAJOR changes in my life in the last 7 months. My healthy hubs died in his sleep@42 and I three children to raise alone (i'm 41 and they are 11, 13, 15 and "Dad" was our life). I GAINED 15 lbs since he left and even tho in the past years was able to lose it, this time it just WON'T go. 31 weeks ago today my weight was ok, but he had left the house that morning in a black van and things were falling apart QUICKLY. I need to rebuild now, finally. Today seems like a good day to start. 12oo calories and will have to w/out 6x/wk to come close to my July 1 goal of 138. (20 lbs off) I was 146 that day in October, very close to my goal... but then all the rules changed and it was hard to see the goal anymore, it didnt matter. HOWEVER, for the past months I've been getting my head better but my body is getting worse and worse no matter what i seem to do. Time to try something a bit different, so here i am. I've learnt how to deal with death, and him not being here for us anymore, but what I'm NOT able to deal with is how unhealthy my body feels! This is something I should be able to control, unlike someother things in life... AND I WANT TO TAKE THE POWER BACK!!! :smile:
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  • motv8ed
    motv8ed Posts: 13
    I am SO sorry to hear about your devastating news. I don't know you but I will say a pray for you and your children to give you strength. I am new to this (only a few weeks in) so I will be more than happy to give you support as well. God Bless....
  • mustangurl
    mustangurl Posts: 104 Member
    i am so sorry for your loss, i can't imagine the pain of that!!! but i am glad that you have decided to take your life back. i wish you the best of luck on your weightloss journey ;)
  • ChirishGirl
    ChirishGirl Posts: 111
    Wow. My heart goes out to you and your family. I wish you the best of luck in this and everything else you are dealing with.

    Kim
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* I'm so sorry for all you and your children have been through.

    In times like that, mental well being comes first, and the rest falls by the wayside. You're amazing and strong, and I know nothing... NOTHING will stop you. :flowerforyou:
  • keb80
    keb80 Posts: 394
    Wow, I'm so so sorry for your loss. How devesating for you and your children. You must be a very strong person to deal with that and to carry on for the sake of your kids. Good luck on your weightloss journey. Feel free to add me as a friend :)
  • finallyhappening2011
    finallyhappening2011 Posts: 73 Member
    So sorry to hear about the lost of your husband. May God continue to give you the strength that you need. I wish you much success with you weight loss journey. I am sure that you will achieve everything and more. Keep on loving those precious children of yours. Good luck with everything.
  • audbbgirl
    audbbgirl Posts: 83
    I am sorry for your loss as well. But I am so proud of you for wanting to get your life back on track.
    God Bless you and your family and may he give you the strength to get through this and the peace that your husband is in the best place imaginable.
  • Katrob9
    Katrob9 Posts: 431 Member
    So sorry to hear of your loss. Good luck on starting your weighloss journey. x
  • Mads1997
    Mads1997 Posts: 1,494 Member
    *HUGS* I can't even begin to imagine how terrible that would be.
  • Angeladobush
    Angeladobush Posts: 58 Member
    :flowerforyou: OH my.....My heart goes out to you. If you can take anything away from this at all, please let it be a lesson in just how short and precious life can be. Please remember to be good to yourself first in order to be the parent you need to be for your children. You deserve to be everything that makes you happy. You can do this, and I am one of many that will be there to support you along the way. You came to the right place to make it happen. Stay strong and you will get there.....friend me if you would like to and good luck to you.....
  • mseab71
    mseab71 Posts: 69 Member
    I am so sorry to hear that you have gone through so much in the last 7 months. I will be praying for you and your children. I know it must be very difficult to handle everything but now you are ready and I think that everyone here will support you in your journey! I will send a friend request to you and please know I am praying for you and you can always send me a message if you just need to vent... I will gladly listen :smile: Good Luck on your journey!

    Praying God's Blessings and Strength for you and your family!
    Michelle
  • rachmaree
    rachmaree Posts: 782 Member
    I am very sorry for your loss. Good luck on your journey...
  • Kirsty_UK
    Kirsty_UK Posts: 964 Member
    wow, posts like this fill me not only with sadness that you had to go through that, but fear, because you never know what can happen unexpectedly

    mfp is a great support network, so I hope you find the support that you need here to look to the future
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing my husband. Good luck to you on your weight loss journey. :flowerforyou: ((HUGS)) to you and your children.
  • skittybang
    skittybang Posts: 1,525 Member
    I am truly sorry for your loss! This site is great for inspiration, motivation, and a definite community, supportive feel. Good luck on your journey!
  • leeverson
    leeverson Posts: 5 Member
    WOW- I am so sorry for your loss- I can’t even imagine trying to pick up the pieces so good for you that you are getting focused and back on track.
  • joip
    joip Posts: 39 Member
    So sorry for your loss. I cant even begin to imagine the pain you and your children would be going through. I pray that God gives you the strength to get through this very difficult time.
  • joip
    joip Posts: 39 Member
    So sorry for your loss. I cant even begin to imagine the pain you and your children would be going through. I pray that God gives you the strength to get through this very difficult time.
  • kristarablue
    kristarablue Posts: 702 Member
    Wow, you and your family have gone through an awful 31 weeks and I am so sorry. I know you need to maintain focus and we are here for you, however please give yourself time. The grieving process is not easy and unfortunately it can be an incredibly long process. Don't be too hard on yourself or make your goals too rigid. You have so much going on. I know sometimes a project works nice to keep you focused on the future and this sounds like it is your project, but please don't neglect your grief either. All of my love to you and your children.....God bless.
  • joip
    joip Posts: 39 Member
    So sorry for your loss. I cant even begin to imagine the pain you and your children would be going through. I pray that God gives you the strength to get through this very difficult time.
  • lizzycomp
    lizzycomp Posts: 64
    You've taken a great step forward in trying to take some control back in your life. Awesome that you reached out to take charge of your life! You have a great community here to assist you in reaching your goal...take advantage of that. You WILL get there! Best of luck to you.
  • kykykenna
    kykykenna Posts: 656 Member
    So very sorry for the unexpected loss of your husband. I can not imagine the heartache for you and your children. I know that weight loss or a desire to be healthy must be done for us and us only, but that doesnt mean that something else can not fuel us to be and do better. I can tell you one thing about MFP you can count on. These "people in the box"....your MFP friends. Most you will never meet. But some of the people on here will become some of the best people you will ever get to know. A constant source of encouragement. and not just in the weight loss department. Share with them your joys, your pain, absolutely anything. And we WILL be here for you. Mine are there for me. And I think 99% of people on here will tell you the same. Add me as a friend if you would like. Strength in numbers. ((hugs))
  • regentin
    regentin Posts: 60
    Your story is so sad, my sympathy is with you. However, I think you are on the right path by first getting your mind in order and now your body. Good luck to you, there is lots of support here on MFP!
  • FitJoani
    FitJoani Posts: 2,173 Member
    Broke my heart to read:frown: I am so sorry for your loss. Go get em girl!!!! Think about your children and do it for them!!!!
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    My heart goes out to you,I am so sorry for your loss.Good luck in reaching your goals.:heart:
  • diverchic73
    diverchic73 Posts: 314 Member
    Thoughts with you and your family.

    Congratulations on taking control of what you can and good luck for the future! :heart:
  • SueGeer
    SueGeer Posts: 1,169 Member
    So sorry to hear of your loss - how devastating for you all.:flowerforyou:

    Please be careful to look after yourself and your children and don't do anything before YOU are ready.......

    Take care & good luck!

    Sue :smile: x
  • Eviesmum
    Eviesmum Posts: 270 Member
    I echo everyone else - so sorry to hear about your husband. Its such a shock when someone goes so quickly.

    Well done on making joining MFP - its a great source of support and encouragement. Good luck with your journey and please add me if you'd like. :flowerforyou:
  • Cristy_AZ
    Cristy_AZ Posts: 986
    My heart also goes out to you and your family. :flowerforyou: add me if you'd like, we are all here to support you towards reaching your goals.
  • ladylu11
    ladylu11 Posts: 631 Member
    I am so sorry to you and your children for what you have been through. I wish you all the best. Friend request sent to provide extra encouragement!

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