People are strange

@jeremyrby‌ It's definitely a bit of envy and some resentment that we put in the work that they know they won't. And they are pissed at themselves for it. Not outwardly but they know that while they may WANT to get the results we did, they are afraid that they will quit and "fail". We got to where we are because we woke up early, passed on the pizza, drank our water and put in the WORK. Not everyone ill wants to do that though everyone CAN. So your real friends will be proud of you and cheer on your success. They'll say that you inspired them and made them think about that second helping or look at a workout video. Those friends who aren't quite all that real will make up an excuse for your success and their lack of it.

What can we do about it? Nothing because it's not our problem. We didn't change except for the size of our waistline. What they call cocky we call pride. And that's ok.

Absolutely! And frankly, during the summer months, if I can walk around without a shirt, you better believe I will! Because I earned that.

It doesn't mean I'm shaming anyone else. On the contrary, if I can inspire just one other person to get off the couch, I'll work out WITH that person because they clearly WANT it the same way I did.

I want EVERYONE around me to feel what I felt when I went through my transformation. But that means they need to put in the time and the effort.

My real friends will poke fun of course but when the jabs are about how my abs are shining too much light in their eyes ... I'll take it!

It's weird. I notice with me, there is a threshold in my fitness and clothing size---when I reach it, I get more attention from men and more jealousy from women?

I'm only too happy for anyone who has the strength and mental determination to get fit and chase health. I dunno, some people are just STRANGE!

I would say it is mainly jealously. Recently a work colleague has lost a lot of weight, and a group of women were saying she's lost too much and looks too skinny? Um, no, she's gone from being overweight to normal weight and you're just not used to it because she was overweight for so long. Now you get hassled for wanting to be a normal weight. People tell me I don't need to lose weight...but even a few pounds overweight can make a difference in how you feel / clothes fit etc.

It's a psychological defense mechanism. Humans instinctively compare themselves to others constantly. 99% of the time it's completely involuntary and subconscious. But when they see a someone close to them start changing, it widens the gap in the difference themselves and the difference in the person who is changing. And that's threatening, because by nature, humans try to conform, to a certain extent. In this "herd mentality", if one member is changing, the rest will feel pressured to make changes too, even if they may not be ready to or not want to. The result is resenting the changed person for making them feel that they also need to change, or else feel inadequate by comparison. *drops mic*

RippItUp wrote: »

People are strange
When your a stranger
Faces look ugly
When your alone

Right where I was headed with this. :laugh:

Combination of things, I think.

I think a lot of it is based on stereotypes. There's this stereotype that overweight people are always insecure, and have few friends. There's, also, the stereotype that they're often friendly as a result. When I was overweight, a lot of times, people assumed my sarcastic remarks were me being friendly (when really I was just being a butt), and they'd laugh about them.

On the flip side, there's this persistent stereotype... that results from the negative stereotypes surrounding overweight people... that thin people are confident, and stuck up. I'm the same butt I was before I lost weight, but now - by golly - people realize when I'm being sarcastic. They, also, realize that I don't have many friends, and don't like speaking to strangers. Where they thought I was just shy and insecure when I was overweight, they now assume me to be just overly confident and stuck up. For the same exact traits!

I do think jealousy plays a role in some people. But everyone else has already gotten into that. I don't think that's always the case, though. As not everyone who treats me differently seems jealous of me.

jeremyrby wrote: »

All very good points, I just figured it was only me but it seems you've all experienced this. Maybe a should buy a gold thong to wear to the beach this year to give them a reason to talk

Did anyone see the eye bleach?

jeremyrby wrote: »

Don't worry I'll get a large chain and wear socks with my sandals just to add to the appeal

You sure you don't want to with something like this?

jaymvita wrote: »

jeremyrby wrote: »

Don't worry I'll get a large chain and wear socks with my sandals just to add to the appeal

You sure you don't want to with something like this?

Hahahha. But in gold of course!

jeremyrby wrote: »

Just ordered it online, I got XS so it's fits the right areas in the right places, Ty jaymvita

To whatever beach it is that will bear witness to this ...

I. AM. SORRY.