Getting fat, already depressed, thinking about giving up and havent even started.

Hello there, I too have had many times that I have felt just like you do and its the worst. But I have figured out the biggest part of this process is to set up reasonable and attainable goals. Eating 600 calories a day is ridic and I would go insane and fail every single day with that. I have tried for years to lose weight and I will admit I hear running works wonders for people but i HATE it, so so much. Sometimes we just gotta step back and see what our areas are where we need to focus (for me I eat when I am stressed/tired/bored) and I dont exercise like I should. So I have decided to find exercises I actually like or enjoy doing that dont take up too much time and meal planning a few days ahead of time so I have less of a chance of failing. Everything always sounds so much easier said then done so dont be do hard on yourself, there is a lot of people struggling out there. If you would want to add me feel free, I am always up for some conversing and motivation cause some days just suck and I wish I could fall in a black hole but we gotta keep pushing on!

MFP is about logging, weighing and therefore controling what you eat. This takes a little trial and error. All you have to do is start and eat the calories MFP gives you--no more. If you excersise, log it in, and MFP will give you more calories to eat that day. As you go along it gets easier, and remember, it takes time to make a difference. It's important to be as accurate as possible. In a week or two you should see some progress and feel better. If not, ask for help. Wishing you good luck.

you can change your life if you believe it can happen. I'm in the process of doing this right now too. making little changes over time adds up.

Weight loss is mostly diet. Trust me when I say I know how you feel because I started out at about 195 pounds.

It's really a day by day thing. Just meet your calories for today. Then do it again tomorrow. Then the next day. And eventually all those days add up.

I will admit it's a slow, sometimes arduous process. I'm finally down to 150, but it's taken over 3 years. Last year it took a full 12 months to lose 20 pounds. This year I hope to take off the last 20 and be done. So just realize it's for the long haul.

And you don't have to go hungry either. Depending on your height, you can adjust your calories to about a 20% decrease. It takes some getting used to, but you can do it.

The exercise, well, it can come along with time. I started out on the dreadmill, probably like everyone. Now I'm up to mostly weight training and I ran a 5K last year. I've already signed up for more this year.

Don't worry. You CAN do this. It just takes time.

This may seem like a long read, but... it's SOOOO worth it.

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

It's doable, it's worth it, and so are you.

Hi! Dont give up before you give it a try! First of all, you'll need a food scale for this to work. Walmart sells them for about ten bucks. Anyway, I once felt exactly the same way . I was @212( my doctor office scale said 212 , but my home scale was 202 ) anyway, I felt so depressed and tried so many Times.nothing worked until I learned the tools necessary for success. Mfp taught me all about portions and moderation . I'm now 135 lbs.
You can do this too! All you need to get started is a food scale :-)

I feel like we are in the same boat! Or at least I have been where you have been and I am still struggling! I was 145 in early high school..By my junior year I had gone up to 165. It wasn't until my freshman year in college that I had realized i was 187. No one told me and I swear I did not see a difference in myself! Which is crazy! I then went on this crazy, expensive, and doctor supervised diet that helped me lose 25-30 pounds by the first half of my sophomore year. But since I stopped that crazy diet before I was to my perfect goal weight, I still feel disgusting. I gained 5 pounds over the holidays and am now 165.. I know how to diet and am good at it but I really need to work on my self control. I too am bigger than my significant other and it sucks. He is also shorter than me so I have to be extra skinnier than him to look normal I feel. I am writing this long message to say that I just need some encouragement and it would be nice to have a friend in the same position! I have yet to find someone with such a similar story than mine. And I feel I could give some good pointers too!

You must have patients. Just try the site for the first week or 2, don't even add exercise if you aren't ready yet. Try eating the minimal, 1,200 calories, if you like. Your stomach (your actual stomach, not your belly) will need time to get smaller and used to eating less food, and during that time it really sucks, so adding exercise to it will just make it even more unbearable (most people feel more hungry when they exercise). Once you have gotten used to small portions, add exercise. Don't go full throttle on the exercise right away, either, just do it for however long you can stand, and push yourself a little longer each day. My personal doctor recommended at least 120 minutes of workout per week (I am about your weight), so working up to that amount eventually would be a good first goal to set. Try thinking about getting yourself in shape enough to endure the exercising, THEN you can set goals for weight loss. If you think ahead too far, you will set yourself up for failure.

I was much heavier than you when I decided to lose my weight permanently. That was eighteen months ago and I was chock full of every emotion you can name, but mostly anger. Being heavy is taken as a weakness in our society. I knew I wasn't weak and it felt so very unfair. I did not start to feel better until I got my first solid evidence that the weight loss was making a difference, and that was a good five months after I started.

The MFP plan is to get used to tracking everything you eat. The goal setting tool will ask for a target for your weight loss and I suggest no more than 0.5 lbs per week. There is no magic pill, no super-low calorie target that will whip you in to shape. I don't think you are lacking in willpower; I think you need a dose of realism. And that will take time and experience.

I'm Lisa. This is my story. I have type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure and I damaged my heart from my crummy diet. God was tapping on my shoulder to make a change, but I was ignoring Him. You can only ignore God so long before He gives you a kick in the backside. I weighed 327 lbs. and I got that kick. After being rushed to the ER, I vowed to eat healthy and I lost 130 lbs. I started swimming laps even though I am a crummy swimmer, and in the winter I was walking, only a mile a couple times a week due to knee problems but it helped. Then I was going to "maintain" for awhile and give myself a break despite knowing I still had weight to lose. For awhile I was doing great but I started slipping gradually. Constant knee problems made it hard to walk and though I watch my salt I did allow more carbs into my diet. Right now, I haven't swam since the summer and can only walk about 1/2 mile on a good day. Anyway, I vowed I was not going to allow myself to regain all my weight back so here I am. I feel the Lord, tapping on my shoulder again and I'm not ignoring Him this time! So I weighed myself yesterday and I have gained back almost 50 lbs over the last 2 years! I thought I only gained back about 25! How we live in denial. I almost hit the floor. The diet I followed last time was a medical diet given me, it is a diabetic diet to help control my sugars and also to lose weight. So I count carbs, not calories. I must eat 5 meals a day: breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner, snack. The 3 meals are only 45 carbs at breakfast, lunch and dinner, plus 2 ounces protein at lunch, 3 ounces protein at dinner. Snacks are only 15 carbs allowed. I have to measure everything. I have a little scale and I have some measuring cups that I use. It is a 1800 calorie diet, if you count calories. One of the ways I messed up is that I started allowing myself to go out to eat on the weekends. Good on watching my food all week, go out to eat on Sunday after church. Then it was Saturday AND Sunday! The first time, I didn't go out to eat very often. And when I did, I cut my portions in half before I took my first bite. I had stopped doing that also. Anyway, to help me kick off my diet again, I told my husband no going out to eat for at least 3 months, and not on regular basis after that. (New Year's resolution). Right now I'm trying to figure out how to work the myfitnessplan stuff. I used to keep a food diary in a notebook when I lost weight last time, but my husband bought me a Fitbit and it links to myfitnesspal and he thinks this will be better so I'm going to give it a go. (Fitbit won't let you count carbs while myfitnesspal will.) I'm hoping that having friends who understand what I'm trying to do, will help. My self-control is bad and I am weak. I've found if I stop and pray, God will help me not to cheat. It's still hard, but He helps me through. It's hard to remember to do that sometimes! I know that I have to pray each and every time I'm tempted. And I'm tempted a lot! If you add me as a friend I hope we can help each other and pray for each other.

The exercise you are doing is great! Keep it up! There is no need to run if you don't want to. Choose an activity that you like, after all this is YOUR life and YOUR health. Use the calorie goals set here, log your meals, and strive for healthy food choices. Weight loss and weight gain is more often than not related to diet. You could lose the weight gain (30 pounds) in a little over 7 months if you aim for losing 1 pound a week. 1 pound a week gives you some room for error and more daily calories. If you are very motivated, aim for 2 pounds a week. This will give you less daily calories and more consistent exercise, but the weight would be off in 4 months. I would advise playing with the mfp calculators and goals to see how they differ and pick something that you feel comfortable with.

Don't let your weight define you. So you gained weight. Congratulations, you are the average american this year Now, you have decided that you are not comfortable with this weight and are looking to make changes! That is fantastic! The people that love you love you. Why would they call you fat? You may have an excess body fat ratio right now, but that does not mean it is permanent! It is also not who you are. It is merely a fact, like saying you have brown hair or white teeth. Don't let the judgement get to you. Use it for motivation. Self honesty is important, but there is no need to beat yourself up! Healthy eating and exercising is hard enough. Be kind to yourself! You were disgusted with yourself, and that may be the kick in the pants you needed. Now lose the disgust! You can do this! It may not be overnight, it may not be in 2 months, but it can happen quickly if that is what you are motivated to do. It can also happen slowly, and that is fine also!

I am not sure if you need motivation, but I am at 178 pounds (183 a week and a half ago) and have a decent amount of weight to lose. I would be happy to add you as a friend if you are looking for support. Welcome and good luck!

I understand your journey, from college to now (10 years total) I have gained over 40 lbs...some might think 40lbs over 10 years isn't bad, but I am only 5'4 and I weigh 178 pounds. Yes, I had a baby, but he is 18 months old now..and quite frankly I was overweight before I had him. My husband is only 20 pounds heavier than me, but he is 5'9 and has a muscular build....I have been trying for the past 5 years to lose weight off and on, but every time I lose, I get comfortable and gain some back. After having my son, I dropped 20 pounds and got down to 170...how I am back at 178 is from poor eating and lack of exercise. Don't beat yourself up! Today is a new day and you just have to take it one day at a time. If you try to eat healthier and incorporate some physical activity into your life, the weight will come off. These quick fixes you hear about are usually temporary and those people typically end up gaining the weight back plus some. I have found that through proper diet and exercise, you will see results. Aim to lose one pound a week and over time, it will add up. Good luck with your journey! Feel free to add me as a friend.