Make seperate meals for you and SO

No we all eat what I make. My husband will add cheese or other calorie dense snacks. Frankly, I am I charge of dinner for him- he is responsible for making sure he hits his goals. I will buy the good, but I am not going to cook all day for him. Sounds mean, but he is fine with it :-).

We eat the same thing, he just has way bigger portions.

My boyfriend has much different calorie needs than I do as well. I make small substitutions. For example, last night I made turkey meatballs with green beans and pasta for him and I ate my meatballs on top of green beans and peas, skipping the pasta. I often will substitute the pasta or rice that I make him with vegetables (he also loves carbs and I am better off keeping them in check). I will also do things like cut my steak in half or give myself much smaller portions sizes of the same food.

I do 99% of the cooking so I make his lunches (often leftovers such as casseroles topped with cheese for added calories and fats) separate from mine (usually salads, cottage cheese with avocado, greek yogurt with cinnamon/honey and chunks of apple). I also keep protein bars on hand for him and we always have hard boiled eggs in the fridge. He usually takes both to work every day. He also drinks a lot of juice and milk, neither of which I use much of and are easy calories without being pop.

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I make all the same meals but like others said I make small substitutions. Like I might eat more veggies instead of rice/potoatos. Or if i eat rice and potatos I just fit smaller portion and make sure it fits my calories for the day.

No way. We eat the same meal. The only difference is he eats more of the carb-y side dish and I eat more of the meat.

No, he eats what I cook. I do ask him for input on the menu ahead of time, but I prepare it in what I consider a healthy way. I know what veggies are not his faves(squash and greens) so if I'm in the mood for those, I will usually offer another side (broccoli, mixed veg, etc) so there will be something we both like. I don't purposely make meals he won't like. That said, if it is not enough for him, he can always take extra portions or have bread and butter on the side, or add some extra gravy or something.

For your husband, he should probably try to add some whole milk to drink with meals, add butter or oil to veggies, add extra potato on the side, sprinkle extra cheese on pasta/veggies/potatoes.

I don't eat meat and my BF does, so we do a lot of meals with the same base and then add meat for him if he wants to (or veggie-meat for me). We cook pasta with marinara sauce or a vegetable and rice stir-fry, things like that. Or I'll make waffles with eggs for me and sausage for him.

My wife and I sit down once a week and plan our menus and shopping lists for the week. I'm the cook, and we eat the same thing. In our case, the amount of food I needed to eat to lose weight is about the same as she needs to maintain (she's a perfect weight), so we eat about the same size portions. But when I've done a long workout, or if I ate over goal for the weekend and need to make it up (or anticipate a feast), I'll use different portion sizes.

In your case, I would make meals that could be scaled up or down easily. If you made chicken cacciatore, for instance, you might use 6 chicken pieces, and take one for yourself and give him two, with proportional amounts of sauce. (I'm presuming you make leftovers too, especially with a stew.) He could add a handful of nuts or some peanut butter toast if he needs more.

Initially it can be hard to reconcile yourself to eating less than your dinner partner, but after a while you get used to it. My mom eats a lot less than her husband, because he's on his feet in the shop most of the day, and she's recovering from a foot injury. It's just the way it is: he needs more fuel than her.

my husband also needs to eat a lot to maintain his weight and he's always looking to gain. we make one meal but different portions or maybe in a slightly different way. He's in the kitchen right now making cashew chicken with broccoli, and he'll have a large portion over pasta whereas I'll have my measured portion with no pasta tonight. He always gets more of the starchy side and I have a larger portion of veggies.

I hear you! I work in a sedentary office environment and my SO works in construction and comes home RAVENOUS.

My usual technique is to make a nutritious healthy meal that fits in with all of my calorie and macro needs for both of us, and then quickly whip up a side of something filling and calorie-dense for him that I avoid.

For example, the other night I made roast chicken and a salad of lettuce, herbs and fresh veges (it's summer here!) for both of us to share, and then I cooked up a huge portion of fettucine with good lug of olive oil and basil for him to have to himself. Pasta only takes a few minutes and doesn't need a lot of looking after, so it doesn't really feel lke extra work. That way, he's full, I'm happy, and we don't blow our budget. (If I had to cook enough meat to fill him up, we'd be broke in a month.)

It can be tricky dealing with temptation and jealousy - God I wish I could eat the way he does - but at the end of the day if I've eaten the way I want to and I feel good, that's all I could possibly want for myself. And hey, if I steal a few bites of pasta off his plate, that's cool too. (I get the "JOEY DOESN'T SHARE FOOD!" response sometimes...)