what is your definition of love?

you just blew me away. friggin awesome

You like Bo Burnham? ;]

he is SO friggin funny! I love sarcastic humor

I do too. Also slightly offensive humor...

Haven't had my heart broken since I was a teenager. Thought I had love, but I found out after 25 years I was mistaken. Heartache is tough at any age.

To me, romantic love is a combination of affection, attraction, respect and something else that's hard to define... a shared responsibility, perhaps.

As to where romantic love comes from, I think comedian Tim Minchin sums it up very well in his song, "If I didn't have you" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro).

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He's the one on the right

love is the reason i finally sat down to start writing my novel last night. keep in mind, of course, that i ascribe to a Biblical Christianity and make every effort to look at everything in my life from that perspective.

having said that, here's the intro (rough copy, unextended): "When God created [my husband], He knew that this man would only serve Him with good reason. Like Adam, it was not good for him to be alone. So, He set about creating the perfect partner for him, one who would be able to love him continuously through all suffering and pain and all joy and pleasure. And so, I am. This is why I exist. The purpose i serve is to assist [my husband] and my children in living the Godliest and most fulfilling lives possible. I am here to give my husband a reason to serve our Lord.

That is the true beginning of the story of how we came to be together. But, when the food's been eaten, and the sun's gone down, while good friends and loving family slap at mosquitoes and the glowing moon and the burning tips of the cigarettes they smoke provide the only light, I tell the story like this. . ."

and then the actual in-this-life story begins, but i won't write that here, because the question is "what is your definition of love?" my definition of love is the unconditional, mutual promise of life and heart that two people make to each other with the intention of fulfilling that promise into the end of their own time. and i've seen it. and i have it.

I'm not sure there is an exact definition for love. It's different things to different people I suppose. To me, love is more of an action that you show rather then a feeling that you get or a word you should say. I tend believe it's more of a choice you make to to show, or not show, every single day. Without action, it's just a word.. Even if someone has a loving feeling, it really means nothing unless they show it.

I also don't really buy into the whole "there's only one person out there for you" kinda stuff. I think it's possible to fall in love with many different people, it's just a matter of allowing your heart to go there with that person.

My favourite love poem - e e cummings

i carry your heart with me





i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

How funny, my husband and I were talking about this at lunch today.

Love, the kind that lasts through a life time, is a continual choice. Sure there's attraction and hormones, but those things wax and wane. I do not believe in soul mates or anything like that. Had my life gone differently, and DH and I hadn't met, I believe there are others I could have been happy with. But I chose him to spend my life with. There is nothing more powerful than choice. And knowing that you are not with someone because of a quirk of fate or destiny, but someone's choice is wonderful.

To quote a country song, "Love isn't someplace that you fall. It's something that you do."

DH and I will have been married 9 years in Aug. Seems like forever ago now, but yes, once upon a time, my heart was broken.