Binge eating, Sugar cravings, carb cravings... Low self esteem - u name it, I got it!☺️

hey guys!
So, I am the heaviest I have ever been since moving to Dubai last year. It's very upsetting to say the least, I have lost myself to chocolate, crisps, burgers and pizzas... And general crappy food. It's sad to say I pass up social events, and dates because of how I feel about myself (surely this would give me the motivation right? WRONG!) *reaching for a half eaten burger* where does this viscous circle end???
Before I give up on myself completely I want to give this one last go. I would love to gain friends on here as the support will be well received, and reciprocated too! Looking to lose about 25-30 lbs...
If anyone is the same/similar boat to me, it be great to hear from you !
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  • Hiya, totally empathise. In in the same boat as you, except I'm sailing it through the icy waters of the Scottish Highlands instead of the warm sea in Dubai. Feel free to add me :)
  • Bootsaroo
    Bootsaroo Posts: 1 Member
    Hi Blake and Weejuless!! I was just wondering the same thing the other night as I reached for something I was not hungry for. It's depressing and overwhelming. It's hard to know where to even start! I am a single mom but need to start taking care of MYSELF so I'll be around for my kids. The hardest step is the first - Maybe we can all take it together??
  • arose928
    arose928 Posts: 31 Member
    I'm in the same rut you can add me, I have the same amount 30 pounds. Maybe a little motivation will help.





  • cheethnico
    cheethnico Posts: 57 Member
    I hate what I see in the mirror and what I've done to myself I hide from the camera constantly refuse nights out because how hideous I believe I will look. The Facebook thing where u put your first profile pic just depressed me even more as my more recent friends couldn't believe it was me the last 7 years havnt been kind but to be fair I have been to hell and back and food was my comfort I'm determined to shift as much of the 5 stone i need to loose as possible and 1 week in I'm 5lb down I find looking at and reading the success stories on here motivates me to keep going feel free to add me
  • paulbriffitt
    paulbriffitt Posts: 10 Member
    Hi Blake, I came back to MFP as it seems to be the only thing that works for me. I'm four stone overweight at present. that's 56 pound to lose. Since coming back to MFP I've lost Just over a stone. It's not rapid loss, but slow and steady wins the race. Feel free to add me, if you'd like to. My issue was I changed my job and work from home most days, so no regular lunch breaks, but on the positive side no cakes to avoid for co-workers birthdays.
  • blake8646
    blake8646 Posts: 4 Member
    After reading your stories it's comforting to know I'm not the only one, also empowering to realise I am not alone in this... I can relate to each one of you (except for weejulesss icy Scottish waters!) :)
    Thank you so much for your comments, really appreciated x
  • blake8646
    blake8646 Posts: 4 Member
    Bootsaroo wrote: »
    Hi Blake and Weejuless!! I was just wondering the same thing the other night as I reached for something I was not hungry for. It's depressing and overwhelming. It's hard to know where to even start! I am a single mom but need to start taking care of MYSELF so I'll be around for my kids. The hardest step is the first - Maybe we can all take it together??

    It's a heavy addiction, food. My first step, starts tomorrow... Would love to take it together
  • blake8646 wrote: »
    Bootsaroo wrote: »
    Hi Blake and Weejuless!! I was just wondering the same thing the other night as I reached for something I was not hungry for. It's depressing and overwhelming. It's hard to know where to even start! I am a single mom but need to start taking care of MYSELF so I'll be around for my kids. The hardest step is the first - Maybe we can all take it together??

    It's a heavy addiction, food. My first step, starts tomorrow... Would love to take it together


    Yep, so would I. Any support would be much appreciated :)
  • BlueDaisy717
    BlueDaisy717 Posts: 37 Member
    Hey Blake and everyone else :) I haven't been doing great in the last few months and still have 20 ish pounds to lose. Feel free to add me. I'm online everyday now and hopefully will stick at it, we can all do this! :)
  • MelonFlower
    MelonFlower Posts: 37 Member
    edited January 2015
    I used to be the same way with binge eating and craving sugary foods. I used to eat straight up BAGS of candy, and I felt like it would never end. I had to drastically increase my healthy fat consumption (100+g/day) and cut out all refined sugars to get it to stop. Some people on MFP will claim that restrictive eating is setting yourself up for a binge, but in my case, I've found it to be the opposite. It's the only way I could ever get the binge eating/sugar craving madness to stop; I stopped spiking my blood sugar. Eating fats and cutting the sugar was the only way that's ever successfully gotten me to stop thinking about food ALL THE TIME.

    Also, I'd suggest getting your hormones checked. If they're out of whack, it might be causing cravings. Found out I had insulin resistance and so eating sugary things was biochemical warfare on my body.

    And I'm not damning sugar; but for some people, like me, it's just not a good idea.

    Anyone is free to add me as a friend! I need to lose 25lbs!
  • jack0912
    jack0912 Posts: 46 Member
    Completely understand how you feel... sounds so much like me...you will do this.. your message on here shows you want to ..:)
  • Apazman
    Apazman Posts: 494 Member
    Here are a few tips that I found to work for me:
    1. Make MFP your home page
    2. Log in EVERYDAY, read the message boards, post.. Keep your mind actively thinking about weight loss.
    3. Don't try to change too much at once, Implement 1 change every week or so. Little tweeks over time seem to work best or at least better than a butt load of change all at once
    4. Always be honest. We all fall on our way to the top, be honest, no one is judging you here... we all support each other
    5. Keep trying new things until you find what works for you (It took me a while to find my plan and it works great for me but I wouldn't push it on anyone else)
    6. It's easier to lift weights than continue the burdens of carrying weight.
    7. Take it one day at a time.
    8. Have a cheat day or meal, where you eat what you want
    9. Try to talk to yourself as if you are talking to your child or loved one. Often times the thing we need most is to be a better friend to ourselves.
    10. Smile
  • mrshaytch2015
    mrshaytch2015 Posts: 7 Member
    Hello! I'm not new to MFP but set up a new profile as its been a few years. Im a 29 year old UK (Midlands) mum to a 5 month old. My husband left me after I had the baby and its been a wake up call. I spent so much time pandering to him I neglected myself. Gained over 40 pounds in the last few years and now I just hate what I see in the mirror!
    I want to be healthier for my boy and slimmer for me! I started a low cal plan on Jan 5th and lost 7 pounds the first week. This is my second week and I'm calorie counting at the mo with more variation, next week I do the same diet I did last week and Il be alternating each week. Id love to have some friends on here to make me accountable and tell me off when I'v had a binge!!

    Please add me!

    *I promise to log daily and be really honest!*

  • ClaireTonito
    ClaireTonito Posts: 31 Member
    Do you have a few flatmates in Dubai? It can be harder sometimes if you are living with people who are also eating a lot of the bad stuff or binge a lot. But if they see you giving it a go they might also try it!

    The main thing that works for me is having ready made handy meals in the freezer which can be taken out overnight to defrost or even the morning for when you come home in evening. I normally make chicken curry, garlic and herb mince/veg heavy dish, lasagne and chicken fajita mix. I'm making more healthy versions of them now plus going to try brand new recipes I'm finding on Pinterest/online.

    Investing in a slow cooker this week too! Might be an option for you one with a timer so it will click on when you are at work and be all ready for you once you come home. So that leaves you with no time to be nibbling on stuff while waiting for food to get cooked because it's already sorted for you! Handy rice, salad or some pasta would be quick enough to throw together to go with it.

    Another tip is only take the money you need for the main bits of food shopping(if you know the prices of things, don't have plenty extra money left over as that's when you add a packet of biscuits, few bags of crisps etc to the shopping cart! :wink:
  • Derek19877
    Derek19877 Posts: 86 Member
    I understand completely. I wish you luck and hope you find something here that keeps you healthy and happy. :)
  • Oh man, I know this feeling all too well. Have a good 60 emotional eating pounds to loose myself. You can turn this around though! Add me, you can have a huge support network here!
  • AllenThermaltake
    AllenThermaltake Posts: 2 Member
    blake8646 wrote: »
    hey guys!
    So, I am the heaviest I have ever been since moving to Dubai last year. It's very upsetting to say the least, I have lost myself to chocolate, crisps, burgers and pizzas... And general crappy food. It's sad to say I pass up social events, and dates because of how I feel about myself (surely this would give me the motivation right? WRONG!) *reaching for a half eaten burger* where does this viscous circle end???
    Before I give up on myself completely I want to give this one last go. I would love to gain friends on here as the support will be well received, and reciprocated too! Looking to lose about 25-30 lbs...
    If anyone is the same/similar boat to me, it be great to hear from you !

  • AllenThermaltake
    AllenThermaltake Posts: 2 Member
    Hi there 20-30 lbs you can do it I have lost134 lbs . If you approach the problem exactally the same each day the result will alway be the same . Simply said change the view , the view will change. Don't think of it as a diet we are all creatures of habit just change the habit and you will still have a habit it will just be a better one. All I did was get used to better choices that really sucked at first but after a while the new habit was the norm. Just get used to logging everything daily and exercise just go for a walk. Once you get the fire stocked it will burn and you will find yourself full of energy and never hungry. I was miserable and could hardly walk when I decided to do or die. And now well I just can't sit still or be stopped I didn't even feel this good in my 20's.. Good luck to you .
  • FileppM
    FileppM Posts: 14 Member
    Champion binge eater here. Total emotional eater. I gained 160 pounds after high school. I've lost about 75 of it but was stuck in another rut again until I found this program a few weeks ago. Still have 62 pounds to my goal. You're welcome to add me! :)
  • jmb6086
    jmb6086 Posts: 2 Member
    I can relate to a lot of what is being said. @blake8646‌ i have about the same amount to lose, although it was added after i came home from being abroad.

    Im a big believer in being body positive no matter what size you are, but that doesnt mean i dont want to change things. You just have to do it for yourself.

    I'd love to add friends and for some to add me.. I don't want to come off as a creep. But I need some accountability in my life.
  • div9diva44
    div9diva44 Posts: 151 Member
    The journey is hard but easier with friends! I can relate completely! Got lots of encouragement to anyone who needs! No one should be alone.
  • Howdoyoufeeltoday
    Howdoyoufeeltoday Posts: 481 Member
    I'm sarah! :) I'm on here all the time and happy to support in any way I can. I guess my best advice would be eat what mfp tell you but don't cut out all the foods you do like to eat. Find an activity you love. And if you slip up, just accept it and move on. Mostly never forget that how much you weigh doesn't define who you are. I know that's a mentality I struggle with but it is the truth. I'm sure you're smart, sweet and beautiful regardless of how much you weigh. Do this for your health and to feel better all around.
  • I definitely feel the pressure to lose weight especially when I go out so I try to cover up as much as possible so no one sees me. I am tired of being the easy target when it comes to jokes. I had even stopped eating at work for a while because I am self conscious about people looking at me eating. I have my wedding coming up in about 3 months. I need all the support I can get. If you would like to your more than welcome to add me.
  • I can definitely empathize and would love to add you for encouragement and support. I recently returned for the very same thing. I came from a very bad state of mind just this last year and have been taking the time to recover and feel better about my relationship with food and with people. It has shaken my relationship with friends, family, previous coworkers, et cetera. But people don't need to have what I had to feel these horrible pressures from society about our bodies and compulsion to eat away our emotions.

    Let's all be happy and healthy, eh? :smile:
  • MissAlks
    MissAlks Posts: 10 Member
    Omg Dubai just does this to everyone !!! Options are great and restaurants and access to food is so easy :(
  • hmcbride68
    hmcbride68 Posts: 72 Member
    Apazman's advice is perfect. The whole trick is to enjoy life and love yourself at the same time. That means being good to yourself (including your body), forgiving yourself, allowing yourself to make mistakes, and appreciating all the pleasurable things in life (including delicious food). It's a balancing act for sure, but it's not that hard once you learn to let go
  • dmoseley389
    dmoseley389 Posts: 78 Member
    edited January 2015
    I think the problem is that we all enjoy the wrong foods, then beat ourselves up about eating it. It is about changing mindset, change a bad habit for a good one, set small achievable goals and take one step at a time. The fat may have rapidly jumped under our skin and settled but to remove it takes a lot longer. We have to have patience and perseverance when it gets tough. The first step has been made by talking about it on here. The journey begins now and together we unite, we will fight the fat war and WIN!! Life is about living and living life to the max! Start liking yourself it's important to like yourself it will give positive fibes instead of negative ones. Beauty comes from within. You can add me as a friend if you like.
  • When you crave foods, or are bored, or your body is telling you, you are hungry. Try drinking a glass of water, if you are still hungry then eat something, if not ask yourself why? If it's not a good reason then try to do something else. Find out why you have those craving bored? Go for a walk, listen to music, talk to someone, not bored and just stressed, take a hot relaxing bath, vent to someone, and if not that, trick your brain and chew gum. And try taking fish oils that have the right amount of omega 3s in them. I take the nature made fish oil soft gels, 1200 mg but has 360 mg omega 3s helps reduce the stress hormone in the visceral fat under the muscle, helps boots mood and fat and muscle inflammation.
  • bpclark
    bpclark Posts: 13 Member
    Motivation is my problem! We moved back to the states about a year ago, and I've been steadily gaining, so I've come back to mfp. It was good to me a few years ago, so I'm hoping it will be good to me again! Looking for others on the same road to help each other along.
  • dmoseley389
    dmoseley389 Posts: 78 Member
    edited January 2015