I always fail at diets.

Same here so I have quit dieting and just working on an eating lifestyle where the weight will self adjust to a healthy point over time and stay that way for life.

GaleHawkins wrote: »

Same here so I have quit dieting and just working on an eating lifestyle where the weight will self adjust to a healthy point over time and stay that way for life.

This. Stop thinking of this as a diet. Diets have an end. Think of this as a lifestyle change that you'll have forever.

Figure out why you lose motivation and you'll figure out why your past attempts weren't successful.

Don't diet, make a lifestyle change.

vikkiitoria wrote: »

Then don't diet. Change you're whole lifestyle, eat healthier and don't deny yourself that pizza slice once in a while. Set a reasonable calorie goal and make sure you're still in a deficit and you'll sure as he'll lose weight. Think long term

I like this comment! :-)
Don't think of it as a diet but as a lifestyle change. Lower your calorie intake by just a bit (Check a TDEE calculator and subtract it by 500 for 1 lb loss per week, or subtract it by however you want so long as you're comfortable with it) and exercise a bit more. You don't need to go to the gym and lift 3 hours a day, or only eat celery sticks every single day, cutting off all things they like. That's why most people end up giving up.

Have you heard of the IIFYM/flexibility diet? I won't get into detail but you basically eat what you want so long as it fits your calorie goal. It worked for me! There are times I eat pizza or chips and still lost weight because it fit my calorie goal.

And also, build a routine and keep your eyes on the prize. Feel free to add or message me for support! You can do it. :-)

How much did you set your goal to lose per week? Maybe you are setting your goal too high/calories too low, and then you feel hungry. Also, its not an all-or nothing approach. If you go over one day, reel it in and stay under the next day. Don't let one or two "bad" choices ruin the whole thing. You can fit in treats and stay within your goals.

I'm with you. Been trying to lose the same 15 pounds for 2 1/2 years. I'll start to lose but then back track. Trying yet again! Add me

sharonn44 wrote: »

that is a good question. why do I lose my motivation. I still want to be slender. have more energy. less weight to carry up on my hikes and snowshoes. I know I eat for the wrong reasons and not because I am hungry.

Set yourself a very possible goal, lose one pound a week. I've become (mostly) used to the amount that I eat now during the weight loss stage, (I've lost 25 ibs, have another 25 I think to lose). It's fine if you have a bad day, you need to learn that. For very special occasions, for example my birthday, I won't think about it, I will damn eat that chocolate cake, that's my cake! Every now and then If I want a sundae from Hungry Jacks I will get that sundae and just make sure that it fits within my calorie limit.
And most of all where it sounds like you're messing up; if you go over one day,
a)Don't freak out
b)Don't think "well I've done it now so I might as well eat more" NO every extra calorie is more calories and makes a difference.
If you go over, try and make it up by eating that amount less the next day, or, if you go over by a big amount, break it up over a few days and eat a bit less than your limit each day to make it up. Don't just keep going once you realise you've got over (unless you're /actually/ hungry (and it's far in to your weight loss journey, if its in the first few days, don't just eat more cause you're hungry unless you're like /painful hungry/ it's normal to feel a tad hungry in the first month or two) but I think we both know, you're not. You just want to eat because it's fun. But when I get like this I think of a little fantasy I have about that one particular person that hasn't seen my weight loss yet and will be so surprised to see the healthy body in front of them, for me it's this little fantasy about the doctor who's been my GP since I was a baby finally seeing how healthy I am. Or about how comfortable you'll feel in a situation that overweight you wouldn't be comfortable in for example, i wore my first ever bikini today to a friends pool party and, although I'm shy and it took me a little while to get used to it, I felt comfortable, even in front of the guys .