When you feel like someone wants to sabotage you:(:(:(

nancyhfuller
nancyhfuller Posts: 25 Member
edited November 10 in Motivation and Support
So, my husband asks if we have any hoho's in the house..and then talks to the dog about going to Dairy Queen. Sometimes, I think he prefers that I stay heavy. I think that is just mean. He says he is joking, but I'm not so sure. I need some SUPPORT!! ASAP!!

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  • Elise4270
    Elise4270 Posts: 8,375 Member
    LOL! well he may be just playing. My husband brings home junk, like those stupid sugar cookies with the colorful frosting and knows if I eat one, I will sit on the couch and eat all of them. So It may be a guy thing. Maybe he doesn't know how to be supportive, its new territory for him... Mine just likes to be ornery.

    Perhaps you can tell the dog about how much money your gonna spend on new sexy clothes.... ;)
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    What you need is to have a serious heart to heart with him.
  • needconfidence
    needconfidence Posts: 27 Member
    My bf does the same he will say you can have 1 mini snickers ummmmm no the bag will be gone in 20 mins flat he doesn't understand the struggle has never been overweight a day in his life stay strong girl
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Not enough info.
  • jillianedwards
    jillianedwards Posts: 67 Member
    I just eat my own food and my boyfriend eat his take out doesn't bother me at all haha i would just tell him to *kitten* off if he told that to me!
  • LettingTheSmallStuffGo
    LettingTheSmallStuffGo Posts: 72 Member
    Oh yes, Dairy Queen. My husband says the exact same thing! And he needs to lose weight by the way - even the doctor told him so 2 weeks ago. But I don't take it as he's not being supportive. I figure if I am ever going to be successful I'm going to have to learn to deal with excess food around whether it's knowing my husband is eating a cheese burger, fries and and a Peanut Buster Parfait or it's the potluck at work. I do feel that he is being supportive when I say to him, tomorrow is my fast day so I need to have a dinner that I can measure and count easily because I only get 400 calories. Then he cooks something that is easy to measure like a meat, carb, and veggie rather than a casserole. Yes, he does most of the cooking - I'm blessed! :D
  • nancyhfuller
    nancyhfuller Posts: 25 Member
    Thanks all....It might just be me..I don't think he likes it that I purged the house of sweets but he doesn't need it either. It is so much easier to stick to healthy eating when unhealthy junk is not within reach. I would easily reach in the cupboard to get a sweet snack. I wouldn't get in my car and drive somewhere to get it.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    nancyhfuller wrote: »
    Thanks all....It might just be me..I don't think he likes it that I purged the house of sweets but he doesn't need it either. It is so much easier to stick to healthy eating when unhealthy junk is not within reach. I would easily reach in the cupboard to get a sweet snack. I wouldn't get in my car and drive somewhere to get it.

    I would be upset if you threw out all the treats. You're going to have to learn some control eventually. You can't expect him to just give up all of that completely forever. You may think that he "doesn't need it either", but that's his choice to eat it or not, not yours.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,329 Member
    edited January 2015
    You have to keep in mind that just because WE have decided to make a change, doesn't mean we can inflict it on those around us. You can't treat him like a child and say "I don't trust myself, so you can't have it either and you don't need it".

    Just because you don't want treats doesn't mean you can tell him he can't, same as you can't get mad when workmates still bring in treats, or friends bring you goodies. A huge part of suceeding in this is learning to say no, have willpower and own the process.

    I get why people's partners get shirty when their other half goes on a health kick and all of a sudden it means they they have to be 'on a diet' too. His comments may be trying to communicate his dissatisfaction with you forcing your choices on him too.
  • nancyhfuller
    nancyhfuller Posts: 25 Member
    Thanks for all of the advice. I am looking at it a lot differently:) You all have made some great points..Great day all!!
  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
    nancyhfuller wrote: »
    So, my husband asks if we have any hoho's in the house..and then talks to the dog about going to Dairy Queen. Sometimes, I think he prefers that I stay heavy. I think that is just mean. He says he is joking, but I'm not so sure. I need some SUPPORT!! ASAP!!

    Is he generally a nice guy or is he generally a dick? If he's generally a dick, then he's just being mean. If he's generally a nice guy, then you guys need to talk because he's upset about something and not communicating right.

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