i failed i ate cool whip and a jumbo muffin :'(

It's okay - we ALL have those days. It means you are HUMAN.
I got upset and bought a box of those Drumstick ice cream waffle cones with caramel in the middle and at 3 out of the 4 in the box once!
It's because we are looking at food as a reward/penalty system rather than just fuel.
I do it too, a lot of people do.
And those skinny people have problems of their own, some skinny people have other issues going on that you wouldn't want to have any part of.
Keep your chin up, it's a new day, everyday, and don't dwell on your mistakes.

First of all dont beat yourself up!! Its one day!! And try adding some strength training to your mix! It may not seem like a big calorie burner but muscle burns more calories in the long run than fat so just keep up the good work and you will be one of those skinny people that you hate soon enough!!

Hmmm -....

Take this experience and turn it into something to learn from. Ask yourself - WHY did I do that? Does it sound very logical to go home and eat like that because your bus didn't show up? Think what you could do next time: go for a walk around the neighborhood, do jumping jacks, pushups and situps, run up and down the stairs. You don't *have* to go to the gym to workout - so if you ever find yourself in a situation where your gym plans are derailed, come up with an alternative.

Spend some time reflecting on what emotions you were feeling when you decided to eat that muffin. Were you sad? Anxious? Mad? Sounds like you didn't eat because you were truly hungry, but because you were avoiding dealing with other stuff going on. It's hard - but we all have to get to the root of our eating issues if we really want to make the transformations that we're working towards.

One more thought - you never know what those "skinny people" have gone through. Maybe they used to be fat. Maybe they workout an hour *every day* to stay in the shape they are in. There's just no telling. Something to consider before you decide that they have no idea how hard it is (which may or may not be the case).

Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Our circumstances don't define who we are!! You are a precious woman with a purpose! You are not a failure, each new day brings new possiblities :happy:

And consider redirecting your energy into looking after YOU instead of hating thin people. As already noted by others, they have their issues too, just because they are thin doesn't mean they are happy. ( I was thin when I went through a divorce!)

You will do this, with t he support of all of us!!

really... you're upset about eating 1/2 a jumbo muffin? i would've ate the whole thing.

you are allowed to eat something bad every now and again, but don't use this as an excuse to go crazy or you'll never get to where you want to go.

and those skinny people you hate looking at have their own stories. some of them may have been fat at one point, and some of them may starve themselves and are miserable to be like that. try not to be so judgmental.

A bad choice is just that-one choice! Maybe change up your exercise. I tried Zumba last week and fell in love with it! Went again this morning and sweated and laughed again : )
Be kind to yourself:flowerforyou:

You had a treat so what! No need to feel as if that one treat nulls all your previous hard work. Continue through it, don't let it mess you up and have it be the end of your journey. ;D

Hey, at least you only ate half the muffin! You coulda ate it all. And it's not like yo undone all your good work with some pudding and muffin!


But learn from this and remember how crap you feel after trying to make yourself feel better with naughty food. Might make you think twice next time. Stick on an exercise DVD or just distract yourself with something fun next time instead, don't wallow.

Also why hate the skinnies? They're inspiring you and don't exactly walk around being all skinny and stuff just to spite you! Hehe

Take this experience and turn it into something to learn from. Ask yourself - WHY did I do that? Does it sound very logical to go home and eat like that because your bus didn't show up? Think what you could do next time: go for a walk around the neighborhood, do jumping jacks, pushups and situps, run up and down the stairs. You don't *have* to go to the gym to workout - so if you ever find yourself in a situation where your gym plans are derailed, come up with an alternative.

Spend some time reflecting on what emotions you were feeling when you decided to eat that muffin. Were you sad? Anxious? Mad? Sounds like you didn't eat because you were truly hungry, but because you were avoiding dealing with other stuff going on. It's hard - but we all have to get to the root of our eating issues if we really want to make the transformations that we're working towards.

One more thought - you never know what those "skinny people" have gone through. Maybe they used to be fat. Maybe they workout an hour *every day* to stay in the shape they are in. There's just no telling. Something to consider before you decide that they have no idea how hard it is (which may or may not be the case).

Good luck! :flowerforyou:

I agree. Especially with the skinny people stuff. I used to hate them and thought they were all born that way, but now that I'm bordering on skinny, I have more sympathy for them because I always assume they work hard like I do to be thin. I have not respect for the teenagers and sometimes older people who are sickly skinny that have thighs that look like arms, because I feel they are harming their bodies, but I have a great amount of respect for those who are trying to love their body to the fullest.

we all have days like this...just remember that 10lbs is a big loss!

don't beat yourself up about eatin a muffin and cool whip...just get back on it tomorrow and put it behind you

i do feel that to hate skinny people is unfair and you should try and focus your attention on yourself...you have no idea if that 'skinny person' has spent the morning slogging their guts out at the gym, or if they starve themselves to stay that weight

i am what most people call 'skinny' and i was always a chubby child...then slogged my guts out for 2yrs to drop weight and keep it off, then had kids and had to repeat the journey all over again...

Yes, "those skinny people" can eat everything they want without having to worry and don't have to work hard to get the bodies they have. Those skinny people are skinny for a reason. But why aim for skinny? Don't you want to be healthy? You have to learn that eating half a muffin is part of a healthy lifestyle without feeling guilty about it.. A treat every once in a while won't make you fat.. it is continuously going over calories that makes you gain weight.

Don't sweat the small things. We all have those moments where we feel weak but that does not mean we are weak. We are transforming our lives and this is not easy. We have to take it one day at at time. You have to allow yourself days where you eat what you want because if you start to feel like you are depriving yourself of anything this will just make the transformation that much harder. I still eat sweets, chocolate, cookies, pies but I don't eat them like I used to. Now I might only eat something like that once a week instead of everyday. This way I don't feel like I am depriving myself of anything and it is easier to eat healthier knowing that I will give myself a treat once a week or once very couple of weeks. I also have switched to sugar free jello and pudding which still fills my sweet tooth and to be honest I enjoy regular whipped cream because it does not have that much sugar in it and is great with jello or pudding.

I have not read every response, but eating cool whip and half a muffin is not a failure. If you deny yourself these things all the time you are setting yourself up for failure. I would occasionally eat stuff that was not that good and was high in calories, but usually I would either work it into my daily calories and eat less of other things, or have it as something to help keep my body burning fat by overfeeding myself once or twice a month. Just log it a get back to eating what you should.

If you cry over a jumbo muffin what are you going to do when you get seriously ill? It's a muffin. You used the excuse of the no gym to eat the muffin. Lesson learned. It's painful and emotional to change our ways. But you gotta keep your chin up and get up and do it again. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you just fill your heart with hate for the thin people, hate for yourself, it's a heavy burden that keeps you fat. Let it go.

EVERYONE (including those thin people) have a struggle. This is yours.
23 days. 10 pounds. Don't overlook your success!

EXACTLY! So What, I looked at your Diary and You haven't even eaten your full amt of calories for today! So, the bus didn't come, why didn't you go for a walk, even if just around the block. Maybe you should DO that NOW and STOP feeling sorry for yourself. I guarantee that a good walk will CLEAR Your head and Make you feel better and help you to see that there are always alternatives. You have no cause to Hate on other people for Your weaknesses. MOST people struggle with their weight, some just handle it better than others...BUT it will get better. Stay persistent and take responsibility.