Bagels in the office
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Have you ever thought to yourself, (wo)man, I wish I ate a bagel on October 7th, 2009! It's really too bad I didn't?
My point is that the bagel doesn't matter to you in the long run. The happiness the bagel will bring you will last maybe 30 seconds, less if you eat like me. Turning it down might give you a couple of minutes of being upset about not getting what you want, but at the end of the day you won't even care. You probably wouldn't remember eating it or being upset about not eating it if you didn't log the food. I try to remember this when I'm tempted to break my dietary plan, it seems to help.
Of course, your mileage may very.
This is a good, logical way to look at it. I agree. If you remove any emotion attached to food, whether your own or someone else's it makes it much easier to make the right choice at the time.
In this case, though, for the OP what is more concerning is not the bagel itself, but that they've repeatedly asked the co-worker not to bring them a bagel yet they still continue to. That would just plain be annoying.
My question on the repeatedly asking to stop would be, did she just start trying to lose? Has she said Thanks for thinking of me but please don't bring me a bagel anymore?
Now if she's been very clear that she doesn't want one, which since she took the bagel sounds like she wasn't, I would agree it would be annoying.0 -
Literally tell him, "I don't want you to bring me these" and keep putting on his desk or throw it away until he understands. He has trouble and "misery loves company". Don't be his "company".
Someone brought in brownies the other day. I couldn't resist. Finally, there were two left, and someone asked if I wanted them or wanted to take them home. I said, "Please throw them away or take them with you." And she did....take them with her.0 -
In this case, though, for the OP what is more concerning is not the bagel itself, but that they've repeatedly asked the co-worker not to bring them a bagel yet they still continue to. That would just plain be annoying.
It is annoying, and I think you could argue that it's an unconscious attempt to sabotage OP's diet. Maybe even a conscious one. I don't think there is much OP can do about it though.0 -
In this case, though, for the OP what is more concerning is not the bagel itself, but that they've repeatedly asked the co-worker not to bring them a bagel yet they still continue to. That would just plain be annoying.
It is annoying, and I think you could argue that it's an unconscious attempt to sabotage OP's diet. Maybe even a conscious one. I don't think there is much OP can do about it though.
Sabotage really??? Is he forcing her to eat them? The OP can speak up and say no thank you.
Wow so many helpless people around0 -
while I agree with all of the "tough love" above, I will just put out there to pick up some Jimmie Dean breakfast sandwiches, (they go from 210-300 calories) go heat one up in the microwave and eat that instead. And that includes some protein to fill you up!
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GiveMeCoffee wrote: »If you put my on an Island and asked what I would take with me .. it would be bagels.. My well intentioned co-worker brings bagels every day!!!
Ive asked him not to. I have no self control when it comes to them...
Cookies, cakes etc not for me, I dont care for them or touch them.
Needing some support to stay away! Ive tore off a piece of one already :O(
Why should your co-worker have to stop bringing bagels because you are trying to lose weight?
If you want one fit it into your day, if you don't want one don't eat it, stop blaming other people
He purposely comes to me and says I bought you a bagel! I tell him not to buy extra but he keeps doing it. He complains about his weight so I have a right to tell him not to buy them for me.
You have a right to ask him not to buy bagels for you no matter what. And he has a right to buy them anyway. Next time, tell him you're not that cheap and if he wants you to buy you something, a diamond will do just fine thank you.
My next door cube neighbor has the walls loaded with candy. AND she brings in homemade candy all the time. AND every other kind of food and treat. It took some practice and some "hey I'm not naturally skinny like you" type of deferrals but now I find it easy to say no most of the time so I can say yes when it's chocolate-covered strawberries.
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GiveMeCoffee wrote: »Sabotage really??? Is he forcing her to eat them? The OP can speak up and say no thank you.
Wow so many helpless people around
Someone's upset!
The person is going out of their way to disrespect OP's stated wishes.
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Well, I think I didn't read that clearly. I thought they were just laying around in the office, not being brought specifically to you.
Totally just smile and say, "How sweet of you, but no thank you."
If he acts butthurt about it, you'll know there is an ulterior motive and can cry at him.0 -
GiveMeCoffee wrote: »Sabotage really??? Is he forcing her to eat them? The OP can speak up and say no thank you.
Wow so many helpless people around
Someone's upset!
The person is going out of their way to disrespect OP's stated wishes.
Nope not upset, just can't believe how quick some people can be to play the victim card0 -
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This article is going around MFP today and seems to be appropriate here:
Article contains cursing. So, don't read it then flag me for abuse.
http://strengthcoachtaylor.ca/uncategorized/the-brutally-honest-6-reasons-you-are-still-overfat/0 -
farfromthetree wrote: »This article is going around MFP today and seems to be appropriate here:
Article contains cursing. So, don't read it then flag me for abuse.
http://strengthcoachtaylor.ca/uncategorized/the-brutally-honest-6-reasons-you-are-still-overfat/
Very appropriate
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Oh look, the perfect people are here. Isn't there some other place where you guys can just sit around and congratulate each other on being perfect without having to hurl insults at innocent bystanders? Or are you not so sure you're perfect unless you're actively belittling others?0
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I wish my co-workers brought in bagels. Today it was two huge chocolate cakes because it was someone's 50th birthday. So I had a small piece (best cake ever!) and ate less for dinner. But it sometimes takes a huge amount of willpower to turn down the yummy treats my workmates bring in.0
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NoelFigart1 wrote: »Saying you have no self control about something gives yourself permission to do that thing.
Interesting trick you might try. Narrate your day to yourself as you're going through it. But whenever you perform an action, say, "I am choosing to <foo>."
Ferinstance, "I am choosing to sit at my desk and work. I am now choosing to get up to get a cup of tea. I am choosing to walk by the bagels. I am choosing to raise my hand to get a bagel. I am choosing not to touch the bagel. I am choosing to drive down the road. I am choosing to flip off the person that cut me off."
You simply would not believe the change in mindset. (And oddly, a rather peculiar feeling of power...)
That is a really great and empowering tool. You are responsible for your attitude, your effort, and your choices!0 -
GiveMeCoffee wrote: »Have you ever thought to yourself, (wo)man, I wish I ate a bagel on October 7th, 2009! It's really too bad I didn't?
My point is that the bagel doesn't matter to you in the long run. The happiness the bagel will bring you will last maybe 30 seconds, less if you eat like me. Turning it down might give you a couple of minutes of being upset about not getting what you want, but at the end of the day you won't even care. You probably wouldn't remember eating it or being upset about not eating it if you didn't log the food. I try to remember this when I'm tempted to break my dietary plan, it seems to help.
Of course, your mileage may very.
This is a good, logical way to look at it. I agree. If you remove any emotion attached to food, whether your own or someone else's it makes it much easier to make the right choice at the time.
In this case, though, for the OP what is more concerning is not the bagel itself, but that they've repeatedly asked the co-worker not to bring them a bagel yet they still continue to. That would just plain be annoying.
My question on the repeatedly asking to stop would be, did she just start trying to lose? Has she said Thanks for thinking of me but please don't bring me a bagel anymore?
Now if she's been very clear that she doesn't want one, which since she took the bagel sounds like she wasn't, I would agree it would be annoying.
True. Without more details from the OP it's hard to say which case it is, so I was just speculating. And I'm with you on the "sabotage" claim. No one can make us eat something we don't want to. I'm not saying the OP is doing this, but I see it quite often on these boards. I don't get it.0 -
tracyannk28 wrote: »Or, you can fit a bagel into your calories for the day. No need to suffer - just try and make it work.
The bagels in NY are 10x the amount of a bagel on MFP.. I weighed the piece I took and it was 1.75oz.
Not making excuses just looking for support from my biggest downfall.
This is what I have come to.... "I dont need it, and it wont help me get to where I want to be"
If you enjoy them so much, just eat them! Making foods you enjoy "off limits" makes you want them even more. If the portions are truly enormous, cut one in half, prepare it as you normally would and savor it! Log it and carry on with your day. Don't think of it as a defeat that you ate half a bagel, enjoy it!
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Is your workplace hiring? I love bagels. I have one (jalapeno cheddar, preferably) every morning for breakfast. No problems hitting my goals.0
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one of my coworkers brought in donuts today and nobody told me and by the time i noticed them, the box was EMPTY!!!
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I wish I could eat bagels...but they sit in my stomach like a lead balloon
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I did post to Motivation and Support right?
Was just looking for support from people who can relate or a "You can do it!" Or ways you may avoid these situations
Why is everyone arguing? If you don't have anything nice to say to another person or don't like a response, just click off of the page.
I'm not going to comment anymore on my situation so I don't spark any other arguments.
This should be a place to come for people to ask for help and support.
Thanks for the useful advice.i will keep it in mind.
I used to look at food as fuel.. not sure what changed. I love food! Good food though. I really don't eat processed foods well try not to anyways. I try to only feed my son home cooked meals and organic unprocessed when possible.
Just have to change the way I look at food.
The one that stuck out..
Have you ever thought to yourself, (wo)man, I wish I ate a bagel on October 7th, 2009! It's really too bad I didn't?
This made me laugh0 -
Oh look, the perfect people are here. Isn't there some other place where you guys can just sit around and congratulate each other on being perfect without having to hurl insults at innocent bystanders? Or are you not so sure you're perfect unless you're actively belittling others?
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Maybe it's because I was such a picky eater as a kid, and resisted the lure of the "Clean Plate Club" my parents so desperately wanted me to "join." But I've never had a problem saying, "No, thank you," when someone offered me food.
At a previous job, someone would bring bagels to our weekly meetings. On those days, I skipped breakfast so I'd eat a bagel instead. At another job, the boss frequently bought donuts. On days I wanted one, I ate one. On days I didn't, I didn't. Sometimes I brought one home for my husband or to eat later. Sometimes I left them and someone else would take them.
If someone keeps buying you a bagel after you've said, "please don't," just leave it sitting on their desk. Eventually, they'll stop wasting their money. You're under no obligation to eat something you don't want.0
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