Can't "just do it"

Need to quote Yoda, "do or not do, their is no try"

No one can give you the motivation to go to them gym. In fact, there will always, and forever more be days that you have no motivation to workout. I've become a pretty dedicated gym rat, and there are still days that I just don't wanna. But I suck it up and go anyway. What you need to find is discipline not motivation.

Decide now that you are going to the gym x times a week. Decide now what days you are going, and at what time. Decide now the workouts you will be doing on each of those days. Leave yourself no decisions on the day, and there can be no excuses. Too late, decision made.

Then do what you decided you would. Do you consider yourself reliable? If you told your partner, parents, children you were going to do something, do you follow through? Then it should be no different with the things you tell yourself you'll do.

Frankly, excuses are not going to get you anywhere. You have hypertension now. Sounds like you need some tough love.

Have you considered what other health-related maladies you are likely to get in the future? These diseases/problems tend to go hand-in-hand. I WAS a good example of that until very recently. Got hypertension and are overweight? How about a little heart disease to go with that? Maybe a stroke or fatty liver disease or insulin resistance, which frequently results in diabetes and all its symptoms, some of which are irreversible. Neuropathy is a bugger - I know it and I got off my butt early when I started having those symptoms and started to consider that I was probably not going to be alive to walk my daughter down the aisle.

Healthy choices and physical fitness, for most people are choices we make... or we don't make. I WAS becoming a cautionary tale about a guy who sat around and let myself go to hell and started having all kinds of health problems that I caused by my inactivity - my own damn fault. It was not the fault of the junk food or the slick food advertising or my desk job, etc. It was entirely my own fault. Now, its your choice, its your life, but please consider throwing your excuses away and getting fit -- for your kids if not for yourself! Good luck to you, sir!

Saying you can't isn't digging deep enough. You won't for some reason.

There are legitimate reasons for avoiding the gym. Like worrying about being the heaviest person there. Or it could be inertia as you said. Easier to keep doing what you are doing and dang the future.

There's a fella in my therapy group who is very focused on changing his life and losing weight. He lives and breathes for his daughter. He knows the best gift he can give her is reassurance that her father will be there to see her get married, have babies....children want their parents to be healthy and long-lived. We are never supposed to die.

There are dozens of ways you could incorporate exercise in to the time you have with your children at home. You know you love tooling around with them. Add exercise.

Mom and tot workout

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QdSZORFwlDI

Chihuahua yoga

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xn3mMmy_ghY