Just had a truly horrible day, and I need help.

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  • Bukeelaka
    Bukeelaka Posts: 70
    dougpconnell219 wrote: »
    For what is worth...

    Baby steps are fine I guess. Seems to work for some people.

    Both times I've lost weight, I went with the "total earth shattering change" method. Fits my personality better.

    My point is, there are many ways to de-fat a cat. Try to find one that fits you and that you enjoy.

    Yes, there's that too! Absolutely find your own way. I guess the term baby steps can be subject to many interpretations. I meant it in the sense that if you want to run a marathon or lift heavy weights, you must work your way up to it instead of jumping right in.

    For me baby steps is just another way of saying don't bite off more than you can chew at one time. Keep it realistic and sustainable.
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    You sound like you are ready. Start logging and moving and you will do it. Dont make any drastic changes and never give up. You will look back at those pictures one day and smile to yourself. Good luck.
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    Use this as your motivation. All thats required to lose weight is a caloric deficit.

    This. I know how you feel, and it's this kind of experience that can be the thing that finally motivates you to decide that it's time to take charge and lose weight. It was a photo for me too, plus not wanting to be the person on the airplane everyone dreads sitting next to. You can definitely do it!
  • nightglo
    nightglo Posts: 33 Member
    You're not alone, and it's great that you're here and wanting to make a change. When I try to go out, I have the same thoughts and feelings about being too large to sit somewhere or being very aware that I'm much larger than anyone I'm with. Once I started doing something to deal with my weight though, I started feeling different. Not because I got instant results, but because I could counter those thoughts with, "and I'm doing what I can about it."

    I don't feel so powerless. Find whatever method to lose weight that works for you, and use it to empower yourself :)
  • StarlaTheTempAtKZUG
    StarlaTheTempAtKZUG Posts: 10
    I want to sincerely thank each and every person who replied to my post, and especially to those who sent me a friend request. I have read through all of your replies, and they really have made me feel a lot better.

    I've been overweight since I was eight years old. I have tried Weight Watchers twice - once when I was 12 and once three years ago. I have also tried Lite N Easy twice. I have even tried MFP before, but I didn't use the forums and I didn't add any friends. Every time I have tried to lose weight, I have been successful in losing ten to twenty kilos, but I then gave up and I eventually put every kilo back on and then some. I am at the biggest I have ever been. And I am ready to really do something. I really have had enough of being fat.

    This time feels different, because of all the support that I am receiving. This truly feels like a community, and I feel as though I can post anything here (whether I am having a good day or a bad day). And I know there will be bad days. Lots of them. But I know there will be a lot of good days, too.

    I will keep that photo as my before photo. I will weigh in and take all of my measurements today, and I will go out and buy healthy foods today. And I will start tomorrow.

    Thank you again, everybody, for your support and encouragement. I will update my status regularly, and keep you posted.
  • Sugarbeat
    Sugarbeat Posts: 824 Member
    Keep positive! You can only start from where you are right now. There is more to you than your size. I agree with finding a few pieces of clothing that flatter you now. Look for simple pieces in colors you love that you can wear several ways. I know a great website, pm if interested. As far as weight loss goes start tracking your calories just to get a good starting point. Take a walk if you can or just try increasing your steps throughout the day. Good luck!
  • barby6011
    barby6011 Posts: 21 Member
    This too will pass. Bless you and your endeavors
    Big hug for you.
  • KETOGENICGURL
    KETOGENICGURL Posts: 687 Member
    The good thing is you are YOUNG your body will act faster to any program than those of us over 50. I gained weight after a car accident ..and the advice I got was "lots of good carbs, avoid fats like butter, avocado, etc."

    But years ago I tried a LOW carb diet, and I was your age then, lost 25 pounds fairly quickly..

    I cut out all the breads, sugars, including apples and watermelon..switched to berries of all kinds, Had scrambled eggs with butter, low carb veggies like cauliflower ( which can be cooked/whipped and tastes a lot like mash potatoes)… and melted cheese on top. real hamburgers.

    There is a lot of new research confirming that avoiding good fats and severely limiting calories is falsehood.

    For no cook-low cook:
    do some reading on ketogenic diet, there are some amazing recipes like 'single serve' cake in a cup' made with almond flour, not wheat, and is low carb. or a strawberry/almond milk /kale/smoothie is thick and delicious…and low calorie

    Smoothies are popular for on-the-go people, you can drink your veggies, get the benefits, but NOT use cow or soy milk..plus unsweetened almond and rice milk taste great. and Stevia is a natural, no calorie sugar to sweeten any foods.

    a journey of a thousand steps starts with just one step forward!
  • jennylea70
    jennylea70 Posts: 57 Member
    I know how you feel. I've been there. Going out with the girls and always being the fat one, feeling uncomfortable and self conscious the whole time instead of enjoying myself. It sucks. But that is why we are here, to make a change. I've only been doing this for a few weeks and it's tough to change but we can do it. Even today, I went to the gym and even though I did what I needed to do, I was still feeling discouraged. I felt like I was the only one struggling so much with a bright red face! But I had to remember that everyone starts somewhere. We can do this!
  • sarahjoy10680
    sarahjoy10680 Posts: 2 Member
    Btdt with an embarrassing Facebook photo! Let that be your motivation, as others have said. A perfect "before" photo!
  • DeWoSa
    DeWoSa Posts: 496 Member
    StarlaTheTempAtKZUG wrote: »
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    I will keep that photo as my before photo. I will weigh in and take all of my measurements today, and I will go out and buy healthy foods today. And I will start tomorrow.

    Thank you again, everybody, for your support and encouragement. I will update my status regularly, and keep you posted.

    Please take everyone's advice to heart and don't change your diet too drastically. All foods can be enjoyed as long as you are eating them in moderation.

    And weigh and measure your food religiously!

  • StarlaTheTempAtKZUG
    StarlaTheTempAtKZUG Posts: 10
    DeWoSa, I won't be changing my diet too drastically. I will definitely still be eating all foods, but in moderation.

    And you can be sure that I will weigh and measure all of my portions religiously. I am a mathematician - I teach and study maths, and I am aiming to get a PhD in maths and become an academic. Numbers are my life, and I pay a lot of attention to detail. So I will be VERY careful when it comes to weighing and measuring food.
  • librarydebster
    librarydebster Posts: 177 Member
    Yes I really do understand how you feel. Seeing yourself in a picture and not liking what you see can make you feel awful. That was me a year ago. But now if you're ready to lose some of that weight, be kind to yourself. Eat wholesome foods that you truly enjoy. and find activities that you enjoy enough to make exercising your priority. You WILL be able to run to those shows and climb stairs without losing your breath. You won't believe how much energy you have after losing even just 10 pounds! I've lost 67 and even though I have another 20-30 to lose, I feel fantastic! And I like my pictures now!
  • aaliceinw
    aaliceinw Posts: 747 Member
    You most certainly have come to the right place and now that you have hit that rock bottom place, the only way is up!

    Join us on our journeys, through our ups and downs, our successes and sets backs and with perseverance you will ultimately succeed, baby step, by baby step you will lose the weight and regain the confidence and love you once had for yourself.

    Add me if you like and join a group of lovely, determined and motivated ladies who have a lot to lose and so much more to gain
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