Share your regrets

I regret not taking this seriously earlier in life. I also regret over eating today. :O

I regret that I didn't stick to calorie counting years ago. I started counting years ago for a while just after ww but not on MFP. Gave up. Last year I started counting on MFP and fell of the wagon. I knew it would work if I could stick to it, but it seemed like sooooo much work...

So I tried shakes with some success but put back on very quickly.
Then came the juice fast for 60 days. Lost again, but put on even more when I finished the fast. In my heart I still felt calorie counting was the better way.

So down and up, down and up again I reached 118.5 kg with health issues raising their ugly head. I knew I really had to do something about it. So was thinking about having shakes again, but then I thought I couldn't stomach it again for weeks on end especially as I couldn't maintain last time.

Restarted MFP in November, but slacked over December (teeth issues), recommitted 1st of January and promised myself to give my best for the full year. I will do it. 2015 is my year

I am certain over the years I have lost and gained the weight of one or even more humans

I am just too sick of it all.

Just need to do it, that is all!

The really hard part comes after the weight loss. Maintenance. I suck at it

I regret not staying in shape over the years.when I married I was 100 lbs and I am shocked I let myself get to 148. I know my daughter will get married one day and I don't want to be the fat one in the photos. I find myself not seeing my old friends that live in other states because of my appearance. All I have to do is look at the photo of me in a bra and underwear to make me get on that treadmill!

I almost forgot the most important one. I wish I'd never started running. I did C25K after years of being sedentary, as an overweight person. I'd previously only had minor issues that I'd thought everyone dealt with - a bout of plantar fasciitis here, flat feet. But nothing I thought would meaningfully affect my running. I read a lot about technique. I'd also read about so many people running with flat feet and being just fine.

Even with the very graduated C25K program, and expensive shoes, I wound up with chronic tendonitis (tendinosis) in an ankle, and I've been living with the pain for years. For a long time, this affected just ordinary walking around, never mind sports. (I worked around it, but anything fun, any game involving running is out. I spent months just off my foot completely.)

My biomechanics were bad to begin with, but I didn't know how bad, because they didn't interfere with my life in a significant way until I hurt myself. It's well and good to say, "well your technique was bad" or "it's your biomechanics, that's just you", but I think a lot of people have no idea about how bad their form is, or how vulnerable their biomechanics make them, until it's too late. Most people don't have access to running coaches who could give them feedback (and even then, coaches don't necessarily know - feet, ankles and knees are complex structures).

Also, as an uncoached non-athlete with almost no history of running, I didn't know how to read pain signals (which were really very minor, to begin with).

That injury set the stage for other injuries down the line (knees), due to compensation effects.

So my advice to overweight people is to steer well clear of running and other high-impact activities. Unless you're under the guidance of a very knowledgeable running coach with an excellent understanding of biomechanics. Even then, maybe stay away from it until you hit goal weight (fyi - every extra pound of weight is another four pounds of pressure on your knees.)

Walking, swimming and cycling are much kinder to joints.

SergeantSausage wrote: »

27+ years of daily Pizza, PopTarts, and Double Greasy Bacon McBeetus Burgers have shredded my arterial health. Blood pressure meds are something I should have avoided and could have quite easily ... I regret not doing so a decade or more ago before so much damage was done.

I hope you can undo the damage. That's a tough regret.

dontjinxit wrote: »

Ooci wrote: »

I could have had a baby - possibly. My weight got so out of control that instead I grew a 10 cm endometrioma. I could never face IVF as I knew it wouldn't work with such a high BMI, even if I had found a clinic to take me on.
The pain of this infertility made me depressed and actually fatter. I decided finally enough was enough and I lost the weight ( most of it) and stopped thinking about babies ( mostly).

Aw. I have a morbidly obese friend that had IVF and a baby at age 50, so technically if you can find that one ethically challenged doctor, it's never too late. I wouldn't wait until age 50 though. She looked like she had a foot in the grave for about a year after that experience.

All credit to her for her bravery and strength, I couldn't. I've made my peace with it - age 42 it isn't going to happen, and my husband has never been bothered for children and isn't remotely interested in adopting or fostering - in fact he's appalled by the mere suggestion of babies!!
Not having them, I don't know what I'm missing and can enjoy other things. Children are a privilege not a right.

I regret the individual workouts that have pushed me over the overtraining or overuse brink into serious, activity-pausing injury. (Yes, fitspo memes, there IS such a thing as regretting a workout.)

But then again I don't regret it, because pushing myself to that edge is such an integral part of who I am. I don't know how to be a person who doesn't do that, and I'm not sure I'd want to be if I could.

I wish I'd gotten into racing (running and cycling) earlier, instead of a decade+ of pounding away at cardio on my own...but I enjoyed that, too, so really the only difference is I don't have fun race medals to show for it.

tl;dr - I am hypercompetitive and can't regret it, and I like shiny things.

herrspoons wrote: »

None. The past is the past and can't be changed. I'm only interested in what I can do today and tomorrow.

SO THIS^^^^^
Regrets can lead you down a path of madness and I sure don't want to walk that road.

I seriously regret not forcing my Doctors to run more tests and instead did a lot of damage to myself with disordered and restricted eating.

I regret not exercising after pregnancy. It's taken 4 years for me to do something about it.
BUT I'm glad I didn't wait another 5 years to do something

Honestly... Sure, I wish I had eaten better when I was younger, so I wouldn't have the loose skin I have now... But man did I enjoy it.

Ooci wrote: »

I could have had a baby - possibly. My weight got so out of control that instead I grew a 10 cm endometrioma. I could never face IVF as I knew it wouldn't work with such a high BMI, even if I had found a clinic to take me on.
The pain of this infertility made me depressed and actually fatter. I decided finally enough was enough and I lost the weight ( most of it) and stopped thinking about babies ( mostly).

I was close to obese when we did IVF, I was told to lose weight, but not in order to increase the chances as much as to make it easier if I got pregnant. Bottom line, they stimulated me too much and I ended up just making crappy eggs, and we had two failed frozen cycles... by then we didn't have enough money to throw away again so we decided to go for the 'sure' thing and use the money to adopt instead... so glad we did.

For what it's worth though, my sister went through the same thing and is really enjoying her child free life.

I regret allowing myself to be obese literally since I was 12.

I regret stopping what lost me 50lbs ten years ago and gaining it back.